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How has you dating life changed since surgery? I'm single (pretty much always have been) and I'm not loving it! Part of the reason is my own insecurity mostly about my weight.

Did you have that problem? Has dating changed for you since being sleeved? How?

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Well Ms extremely pretty face, all I can add is maybe when the weigh you want to lose begins to come off; your confidence will increase and you will start to put yourself out there. I hope DC is getting ready.

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Awww????thank you????

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Awwwthank you

you are welcomed. But to address your question. I also want a romantic life and do get attention from men. Even before my surgety. My issue is things are sagging and mushy, and I just don't have the confidence to remove my clothing for anyone. It's enough doing so for my GYNO appointment once a year. But you are obviously younger than I am. You will have a lot of great years ahead of you. Enjoy the process. All the boys will be coming into your yard!

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I have the same issue I was dating a guy before the surgery so I had no issue. Now that Im single its a big deal I think Im not going to date for the first 6 months im 1 month out in order to gain more confidence and start to love my body again

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I'm having more insecurities having lost 40 pounds now than before the weight came off...I'm in a kinda in a ltr and I send my partner pics of me hiding my cellulite or my overhang...or even my flap jacks (arms) lol

to me it's not his or my ideal of a perfect body, he never said otherwise, I just think there will never be an image of a perfect body but I would really like to get it tight in the right areas. It will take some years to get there but when it comes down to the nitty gritty will he be disgusted???. ...I found that to love your body is to love yourself and be proud of the skin your in, but sometimes it can be a distraction!

He says he loves all of me but I still cover up and hide under the covers...this whole transformation will take me some time but I understand your thoughts

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I've been divorced since 2008. I saw someone for about six weeks three years ago. I really have no interest in dating or booty calls. I figure if you didn't like me at 312 than I don't need your shallow self.

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I'm finding dating extremely frustrating but kind of in a good way. I have a new confidence in dating now and have many interested in me but it's just so difficult finding someone I want to be with.

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