This is a bit of a weird one but I am 20 years old and going in for weight loss surgery in January

and my mum is freaking out about the risks and how permanent the surgery is.

Any advice on how to show my mum this is a good lifelong choice I need to make

I am having the same conversation with my daughter. I have given her facts, showed her the reports and let her read the testaments. I don't know how to help you......

If your mum is willing, take her to a seminar and to your surgeon so her questions and concerns can be addressed. But her fears and concerns are only natural. I would think she would be concerned about any type of surgery you would be having, but the fact that this is elective surgery is mostly likely causing her distress. And perfectly understandable. It caused me distress that I was choosing to remove 85% of a perfectly healthy organ. In the end she would see that the quality of your life has improved and understand you did a great thing for yourself. Until then, she's a mum worring about her daughter. My daughter is 27, not having surgery, and I'm worried about her. I'm always worried about her safety. Best.

That's a good idea!

Thank you so much for your help