Unbelievably stressed OUT, how to focus?

[Brn2blossom 88]

I am awaiting approval....having financial issues....work is KILLING me mentally right now...fighting with the hubby...new(er) baby....on and on.

All i want to do is focus on ME but this stress is killing me. Im supposed to have started my pre op diet yesterday...i do well all day till i get off work. Ive binged each night. Sooo frustrated with myself. Scared. What will i do if i get denied? What will i do if I get approved? Any advice on how to calm the brain and focus on this weight loss?

[cdenney123 103]

I have been in your position back in May it all will work out. I was denied and then approved not Im 3 weeks out and the stress is still on me but knowing I have made this one step to being healthier really helps me mentally. Good Luck

[Brn2blossom 88]

Thank you. Im praying, and trying to find peace as to focuse more on whats important. That snickers bar....not that important....laundry...it can wait. I need to take it once decision at a time

[MauiGirl5555 38]

@@Brn2blossom I feel your pain. I have my final DR visit on Thursday and it is all I can focus on....I am having such trouble focusing on work...I keep making stupid mistakes. I wish I had suggestions on how to help. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.

[jessiquoi 623]

you are very much not alone. i try to concentrate just on one thing at a time, the next thing i have to do, and somehow i get through the day. it's hard to focus on one thing when we have so much going on rigth now, but it's good practice to keep trying.

[shellyd88 463]

Brn2blossom I'm betting there are few of of us that haven't been where u are or won't be again I know the feeling about the stressful job try to leave it behind when u go home it's vital for you to not carry it with u when not on the clock in order to do what u need to do to get ready for this u must put some focus on yourself u can't avoid it the money probs will likely not disappear this I know lol fighting with husband may well be a side effect of having a new baby which in itself is major stress although a happy one it's normal most couples fight when a baby comes in the mix between working keeping house a newborn schedule prepping for these procedures the diet not getting enough sleep etc please try and remember u are doing this for yourself and it really is ok to put u first especially in order to get healthier if u let stress sabotage your efforts it will just delay getting where u want to go and that will just bring more stress hint... A dart board with bosses face works wonders not that I do do that or anything..... Yeah coughs lol

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

food for thought..is this the right time to take on weight loss surgery? It took alot of focus for me to be successful....and I feel like a new baby combined with all else would have made it very hard for me to have the success I did. (Maintaining 160# loss lost sleeve). I wish you much success, but want to tell you life losing massive weight and then maintaining it isnt always easy....even though very rewarding.

[Momma_D 47]

I don't think many of us didn't do the same thing...i can tell you it is hard post op...i feel isolated because i cannot eat what my family eats..large family gatherings find me stuffed after 2forks full so i sit and watch everyone else...are mostly doing this because food is our life raft..i would look deep into yourself and ask if you are willing to change for the new you...i know for me the hard struggle is what i have too do...i wish you well..

[Brn2blossom 88]

Im so appreciative for you comments. Me and my family were doing great with a whole foods lifestyle change, i even ran a half marathon. But we mived and I got pregnant, husband got a new job and we both fell out of our healthy habits. He is back to it now. Ive always thought if surgery but never qualified insurance wise. since my BMI is 40 now after baby I jumped at the opportunity. I know having this tool is my key for success. I just wish I had an answer from insurance...this waiting thing SUCKS so bad! Im normally a very happy person, and all this is making me a stressed out depressed person, I hate not knowing my path. Hoping to hear something this week , i know they got my paperwork Wednesday

[shellyd88 463]

@@Brn2blossom ok so u have done all your pre op testing and all that already now your just waiting on insurance approval? wow that's a lot to deal with I can sympathize sometimes life is like a soap opera so much crap hits the fan u can't even believe it's all true lol

[Thenewnic 139]

Big hugs!! At times in my life I could totally relate to your story. I wish I would've started this journey years before, especially when my children were younger to enjoy every minute with them instead of missing out because I wasn't healthy enough to keep up. Take a deep breath and just don't give up on making you healthier.

[Brn2blossom 88]

Im approved!!! Beyond excited!

[Thenewnic 139]

Congrats!!! Hopefully that will relieve some stress.

[Brn2blossom 88]

Its has already, i feel like a huge weight has been lifted. So incredibly happy