Hello All! I have been through all the hoops, am approved and have had surgery on the books and cancelled a few times. My hubby and I want another child. Mine is 3 and I don't want the gap to get too far apart but at the same time I want to have surgery too. If I don't have surgery before the end of the year, I have to restart the entire 6 month process all over again. I am just besides myself with decision and don't know what to do. I am totally torn - have surgery first, wait at least a year and then try for baby or have baby first and then hope after I have the baby I can lose weight and or restart the entire process again. Any opinions, insight or suggestions for me? By the way, I'm 29 and 305 pounds..

I understand you not wanting to have your kids be too far apart to be companions, but I think your health should take precedence. Also, your pregnancy and childbirth will be less complicated if you are not obese.

After surgery it could be difficult to taken in enough vitamins, minerals,and position to keep both you and the baby healthy.