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I too have bipolar disorder. I finally got on the right meds just a few years ago. My manic episode symptoms usually involved great episodes of rage toward others. During rage episodes I was extremely intolerant of others. I urge the OP to see about medication management with her psych and make sure she's on the right dosages for her new weight. I personally am worried that with weight loss I'll have to have my meds adjusted again, and that I might become unstable before new meds/dosages can work. It's always something people on psych meds have to be diligent about. Best of luck!

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It is scary to change meds especially if you're feeling stable on what you're on. But hey, if you're strong enough to make it through this surgery, you're strong enough to work with your doctors to adjust your meds.

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Oh dear have seen this before...my mate had gastric bypass done a few years ago...all of a sudden she's all about herself...nothing is wrong with that but its the aggressive way she talks...When we go out she will sit there and be critical of what the other mates eat...or wait until she's home to ring me stating "did she really have all that food"...and took extras, or she will say things like hmmmmm is so and so still fat....i am now a size two why don't this person join the gym...i just chalked it up to she's got her confidence back!!!!...but the good thing is u see the issue and u are seeking help...good luck!!!!!..with ya skinny self....lol

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Judging is a two way street. If the OP doesn't want to be judged maybe she needs to quit judging others. I'm Bipolar as well but I make an effort to be positive to others because that is what I need from others when I post here. Mental illness explains a lot of behavior for things we do and situations we put ourselves in but it's not a Free Pass to get away with hurting others and being mean and disrespectful. You don't have to agree with anyone's religious views but they should be free to post their views with out being insulted. All extremely over weight people have "issues'. That's why we are here. If you come on this forum and ask for help, don't be mean to people because you don't like their suggestions, they are only trying to help. If you already know what works, don't ask... go on to your therapist and work it out there. I love this forum and most of the people on here . I've received a lot of good advice and what wasn't so good ...well, I thanked them for it and immediately forgot what they said. We are all adults here and should be able to treat one another with respect.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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