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gossip stories/ haters gonna hate

mercy96

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mercy96    20

mercy96
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I have two sister in laws (one on each side of the family) that gossip and talk trash about people (me, my mom, anyone with a pulse), even eachother. My surgery is in two months and I am wondering how significant weight loss may make me the talk of the family. I was bullied as a child and have a hard time dismissing this kind of stuff. My husband is nonchalant and says they will hate on you fat or skinny.

How do you postops cope? Thanks

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Kissifur    244

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I have two sister in laws (one on each side of the family) that gossip and talk trash about people (me, my mom, anyone with a pulse), even eachother. My surgery is in two months and I am wondering how significant weight loss may make me the talk of the family. I was bullied as a child and have a hard time dismissing this kind of stuff. My husband is nonchalant and says they will hate on you fat or skinny.

How do you postops cope? Thanks

I agree with your husband. They talk about you now right? However you handle it now continue what you are doing. The only difference is you are taking control of your health. Girl give them something to talk about.

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jessiquoi    623

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remember their motive will most probably be jealousy and envy!

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cherbear33    288

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Your hubby is right people are going to talk regardless of what you do in life, whether your fat, skinny, beautiful or ugly. The reason is that in all reality they only hate what they could never be! They are obviously already jealous of you so just imagine how much more jealous they will be once you begin to drop your weight! Let them talk & let them be jealous just make sure you keep your head held high & with great pride & never let their jealousy bring you down from the top!!! (which is exactly where you belong @ the very top)

Best wishes to you!!!

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mercy96    20

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Thank you for the kind words. Confidence and holding my head high is something I have to work on everyday. Being fat since kindergarten has been rough, glad to yall can relate

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CowgirlJane    14,261

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Love yer hubby! So here is the deal..just smile and let them envy your new hot bod. :)

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CrazyJaney    775

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Hubby is right. Sit back and laugh at their ridiculousness. You will be surprised how much confidence you might find in yourself in the months to come. This is all about you and you are worthy of the good things that will come. Smile, be the bigger person, and focus only on you and yours. Good luck!

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Jersrose43    837

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And stick it in their face as often as possible

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Don't react if you hear something through the grapevine about yourself. Haters want a reaction. Don't call them or confront them or anything. Because yeah, haters gonna hate. Your best reaction to those broads is to live your best life and keep being awesome.

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CrazyJaney    775

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Don't react if you hear something through the grapevine about yourself. Haters want a reaction. Don't call them or confront them or anything. Because yeah, haters gonna hate. Your best reaction to those broads is to live your best life and keep being awesome.

Amen!!!!!! Living well is the best revenge!

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Comfy_Blue    285

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People are going to hate regardless, so might as well let them hate on you for something positive. (Though to be fair, I know it's harder when it's your family).

I can relate to how you anticipate feeling because an older lady at work saw my wedding photo on my desk (not sure WHY she was in my room seeing as how she works on the complete opposite side of the building in a different department) and said to me several times, "You and your husband look just alike! You look like brother and sister!" Then she said it to other people. I tried to laugh it off and say, "No, we really don't" and she's actually start arguing with me that we did.

Keep in mind, that I look nothing like my husband. The only thing we have in common is that we're the same race and we were both pretty big (I was 250 lbs, he was 300 lbs). So I pretty much felt like she was saying we because we were both fat, we looked the same.

Flash forward to now. I've lost over 100 lbs and I've overheard the other ladies in her department whispering how good I look. Wanna guess what my rude friend says to me now?

"When you gonna have a baby? Why aren't you pregnant yet?"

Finally on Friday I said, "Do you see how good I look? How hard I've worked to get here? Once you start having babies, you lose that." Then I looked at her pointedly, smiled and kept walking.

Edited by Comfy_Blue

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skinnygirlwithin    693

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got to agree with all of the above. You are doing this for you & no one else.... You only get one go around in this life... so make every moment count... :)

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