Death and sadness.

[Aliciafl2014 57]

My only son who was 18 was murdered 3 years ago in a senseless Robbery. I have been through two trials and so much pain. I am trying to get my life back and this year is by far the most I have ventured out into the world. I have a great support group with a local chapter of compassionate friends. I'm on 3 daily medications. I miss my son everyday. He was such an amazing young man with so many dreams. Life sometimes knocks the world right out from under you. No one should ever experience the loss of a child. I've had other losses, but this was just horrific.

God Bless you Zane's mom. What strength you have to create a life for yourself. I'm sure your son would want that for you.

Thank you for everyone sharing your stories here. This forum is a great resource.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Zane's Mom, your son was still a jid and it is heartbreaking to hear, something so senseless. I wish I could have held your hand as you went through this. God Bless.

[Skywalker 170]

I'm truly sorry to hear about your family/friend deaths, Linda. I can't even imagine losing a child, although my aunt did (in 2000, her son died of massive heart attach at age 52).

Not to put down anyone's story, but probably what hit me the hardest was losing my cat/companion in 2009. It was probably his time--he was around 19--but I grew up with him and was closer to him than most of my family. Honestly, the only person I've ever loved more than him was my daughter.

Edited July 25, 2014 by Skywalker

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I'm truly sorry to hear about your family/friend deaths, Linda. I can't even imagine losing a child, although my aunt did (in 2000, her son died of massive heart attach at age 52).

Not to put down anyone's story, but probably what hit me the hardest was losing my cat/companion in 2009. It was probably his time--he was around 19--but I grew up with him and was closer to him than most of my family. Honestly, the only person I've ever loved more than him was my daughter.

Pets are family to some people and I understand. I have quite a few friends who never had children and they love their pets as their children. God Bless.

[Laura1014 28]

Pray...Pray...Pray. Pray for comfort, acceptance and for the Lord to take away your pain. He will. Call upon him every morning as soon as you wake. Lift your spirit in prayer and up lifting songs. Your circumstances are incomprehensible to us that have never lost a child, but many supporters here cheering for you.

Laura in Orlando, FL.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Yes, for everyone here who has suffered loss in any way, we all are on a healing path. New direction.

[zoepoodle 64]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Hugs to all of you in this group. I lost my beloved daddy in 1995. I had just seen him the night before and he was fine. Got a call at 5:30 the next morning saying he had a massive heart attack and died. I still think my step mother had something to do with it. That was so difficult, as I could tell him anything. Then in 1998, my older brother died in a plane crash. Another horrible day. He kids, ages 10 and 12 at the time saw him crash.

In 2009 my son, 32 at the time had a motorcycle accident resulting in a traumatic brain injury. He was in a coma for a month. The Doctor kept telling me he wouldn't live. When he came out of the coma I was told he would never walk or talk. But after a year of therapy in hospitals he does just fine. He is different now. Has the mentality of a 16 yo. I miss the man he was. Don't get meh wrong, I am very grateful he survived but it's not the son I had. I do feel like I "lost" him. Please don't judge me on that.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Zoepoodle, You have had your share of heartbreak. We would never judge you for those feelings about your son. Breaks my heart for you. Stay strong. Prayer and hugs.

[pik 262]

The death in my life is no longer met with pain. I have lost both of my parents and my grandmother and a brother, all in my twenties. I am 40 now. During that time, I also lost two aunts and an uncle.

I think of my parents and grandma all the time and I try to transfer my thoughts to good memories.

Very often they come to me in my dreams and it is those mornings that I do not want to wake. They are so real and alive in my dreams, as though I had never lost them.

Edited July 26, 2014 by pik

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

The death in my life is no longer met with pain. I have lost both of my parents and my grandmother and a brother, all in my twenties. I am 40 now. During that time, I also lost two aunts and an uncle.

I think of my parents and grandma all the time and I try to transfer my thoughts to good memories.

Very often they come to me in my dreams and it is those mornings that I do not want to wake. They are so real and alive in my dreams, as though I had never lost them.

I too try to focus on the good memories, Pik. That is the only way to cope sometimes. I remember after my sister died, her daughters were more devastated than I could possibly be. About a year after she died, one daughter said "Mama was at my house last night in my dreams". I laughed and said noooo, she was with me. Thank God for sweet memories. Thank God we can still laugh!

[LadyK44 263]

I lost my sister this April. It hurts so much that I am crying now. She had a massive hart attach in her bathroom after a workout. I doing this surgery for myself and family. I don't want to just die as it almost kills the ones you love. In the last 12 years I have also lost two baby boys and my parents. There are days I just cry. I want to live healthy and happy. This process is giving something positive to work on for life. I want to live above the pain.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I lost my sister this April. It hurts so much that I am crying now. She had a massive hart attach in her bathroom after a workout. I doing this surgery for myself and family. I don't want to just die as it almost kills the ones you love. In the last 12 years I have also lost two baby boys and my parents. There are days I just cry. I want to live healthy and happy. This process is giving something positive to work on for life. I want to live above the pain.

LadyK44 I am so sorry. My daughter has become heart healthy since my son died of a heart attack, my mother, and her dad had a heart attack at 44. Heart attacks are so prevalent and I am so sorry for your losses. I hope your new body/resolve to get healthy will make a difference in your life. We have to keep moving or the grief will destroy us. I have to push myself every day. Get out there and start living. God Bless!

[zoepoodle 64]

I lost my sister this April. It hurts so much that I am crying now. She had a massive hart attach in her bathroom after a workout. I doing this surgery for myself and family. I don't want to just die as it almost kills the ones you love. In the last 12 years I have also lost two baby boys and my parents. There are days I just cry. I want to live healthy and happy. This process is giving something positive to work on for life. I want to live above the pain.

Hugs. Words cannot express how I hurt for you.

[terry1118 1,274]

Pets are family to some people and I understand. I have quite a few friends who never had children and they love their pets as their children. God Bless.

Losing a beloved pet is a loss only other pet owners understand. My Basset Hound was my constant companion and best friend. As a stay-at-home-mom and housewife in the country I had limited contact with other people. I always had to be strong for my husband (w/depression) and children. My Basset Moe was my therapy dog - I told him everything and he was very sympathetic and loving. He was always by my side and so obviously adored me. He could always make me smile even when smiling was the last thing I wanted to do. HE gave me the strength and comfort I needed to be there when others needed ME. I was devastated when he died after 12yrs together. I cried often and was depressed for months. Sometimes a pet is so much MORE than just family. I have two other dogs now, and I love them... but there will never be another quite like my Moe.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Terry, Therapy dogs are just that - Therapy. That is all some people have, their beloved pets.