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just a lot of grief

CowgirlJane

By CowgirlJane, in WLS Veteran's Forum

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lsereno    2,525

lsereno
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CJ, I am thinking of you. One of the things I'm grateful for is sharing this forum with you. Take care of yourself.

Lynda

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carstanger    346

carstanger
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Cowgirl.. Thinking of you. Take one day at a time and take care of yourself!!

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feedyoureye    3,087

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My moms memorial was last weekend. The food really wants to be my best friend right now. I am working to write everything I eat down, and keep up with my stress relief exercise and getting out into nature. I am bouncing around 1-4 pounds above my "official goal bounce range" and really don't want that to become the new me. Its not so out of control, but the stress and sadness do lead to less than optimal choices... eating out with relatives, eating on the run.... I know it can and will change with time... Im just trying to keep my eyes open to what I am doing, and not go into ostrich head in the sand mode which leads to weight gain every time.

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VSGAnn2014    12,992

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CGJ,

Although I only know you online, your posts have been a friendly lamp in the dark for me for a long time.

Rather than mutter much more, I hope you know that your contributions to many people have earned you return support here through the digital ether. And I hope our support and regard for you can help light up some of dark where you are.

Ann

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CowgirlJane    14,261

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Funeral '#2 was today. The love and support from my imaginary Internet friends means so much to me. THANK YOU!

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Oregondaisy    2,021

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Hey, I am not an imaginary friend! I would love to meet you if you ever make it out of Seattle, down to Portland!

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moonlitestarbrite    902

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i have been online friends with a few women for 10 or more years. some of them i love dearly. i get real support from them that is very meaningful to me. ????

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Fluffnomore    1,235

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I call my online friends my imaginary friends too. But they are just as dear (and in some cases more dear!) than many of my IRL friends.

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MichiganChic    3,262

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CGJ, I am so sorry for your many losses. It is so much to bear at once, just know my thoughts and prayers are with you, supporting you as you care for yourself during this difficult time. xo

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LindafromFlorida    1,542

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Prayers today, for everyone going through suffering and loss. I have healed quite a lot from loss, but I know when it is happening to you it is a raw and horrible pain, causing much suffering. May God Bless and quiet your soul during this process.

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Texasmeg    568

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Cowgirl,

I'm so sorry for your losses and am glad that you can share your grief here. My thoughts are with you as you struggle with the grief and maintaining your transformation. Take care.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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