I'm really putting myself out here, guys. If I didn't think the world of people on here, I wouldn't be mentioning this...and I really apologize if this is in the wrong forum...

Ever since I've lost a little weight, I've had more chances to have sex. Great, right? Not so much. Whenever I attempt to have sex, I physically can't. It's because I'm so nervous about it and/or the possibility of getting them pregnant. It has really come to a point where I have little or no sex drive. I'm sure it's not a physical issue.

Truly, it is absolutely demoralizing when it happens, and it's I'm not really sure why I felt the need to publicly humiliate myself by posting this, but I just hoping that I wasn't the only one who has this issue and to see if anyone had any advice...

Hey Never Again,

I feel your pain. After my divorce, I was terrified of women. It took me a long time to start dating again, and then once I started, I took it way way too slow for most women. Lack of physical intimacy ended most of my relationships, but, now I know, I wasn't ready for the physical side of things.

Once I started to get some confidence back, after one or two dates, I would let my partners know that I needed to take the physical side of things slowly, without letting them know too much detail. I certainly found that letting women know that it has been a long time since I have had sex, eased my mind, and most were ok with it and very understanding.

On another note, I when I met my fiance, things were very comfortable between us right away. With that comfort present, we had a physical relationship right away, and I haven't turned back since. Once you find a girl who is understanding of your feelings, and there is a comfort zone developed, you'll perform just fine.

When you let these women know that you need to take things a little slow, some may walk away. I came to realize that the women who walked away, I didn't want anything to do with anyway.

Q