relationship with significant other

[JenSul 21]

Hi, just wondering if and how your relationship has changed with your S.O. after your weightloss... good, bad, no change?

thanks!

[Miss Mac 6,262]

I am the one who is changing. Even though I am just at halfway to goal, I feel spicier and friskier. I am more able to go places with him, like to the grocery store. He used to do all of the marketing because my mobility issues were substantial. Now I can go out hanging onto his arm or using a cane. It gives us more to talk about, plus I am getting better exercise by walking. I approach him more because I feel more loveable. See, that is kinda sad, because he has loved me "as is" right from the start. The issues have all been mine because of my own body dismorphia. The weight loss impacts a lot more than just pounds. I have to also dump the negative self-talk....that junky stuff that rattles around in my head. If anything, my sleeve is bringing us even closer.

[VSG-Neki 9]

I'm only a week post op, but my surgery and weight loss has actually brought my husband and I closer. We've had to work together to support each other because a week before my surgery, my husband lost his father. So it's been tough for the both of us but has made our relationship a lot stronger.

[swedishfish1020 59]

My husband said he needs to step up his healthy eating and fitness. He has to keep up with his hot wife. Love him!

[Debi Amador 120]

My husband is also over weight. He is 6'2" and weighs about 290. Now that I am getting healthier I really want him to get healthier too. I find myself trying to push him to join me on my trips to the gym and he is fighting it. He tells me he is comfortable with his weight but I am not comfortable with his weight. It is putting a little strain on our relationship but not much.

[Kissifur 244]

I have wondered about how weight loss affects a relationship when one person is still overweight. My husband is not overweight by much but I want to make sure I continue to love him for him like he has done for me.

[skinnygirlwithin 693]

My husband said he " step up his healthy eating and fitness. He has to keep up with his hot wife."

@swedishfish1020 Funny my hubby says the EXACT same thing... I think its cute! Although he is far from over weight at 5'8" and 175lbs

@JenSul- This surgery at first was tearing us apart... but then i had the surgery and got through christmas... by Feb, we were back on track & stronger then ever... We do so much more together... we are enjoying life together... its like we are dating all over again...

[HalloweenBaby24 447]

I'm still Pre-op and had this worry going into it, I worried since my husband is also over weight (6'1 330lbs) that I would make him feel bad when I start dropping the lbs. But we talk about it a lot, and so far has been really supportive. He says he loves me at any weight, but he looks forward to my weight loss and new body as much as I do lol

Thankfully he knows things will have to change diet wise and is going to try his best to eat better and join me at the gym when the time comes, Who knows he might come around to the idea of WLS to but I'm not going to push him into it, it's his decision as much as it is mine.

[MIMamaof2 30]

My husband is also a WLS patient (RNY). He's been my rock, my encouragement and my cheerleader. He comments on how hot I look in clothes now. We loved each other before WLS but I think we are closer as a couple after. We walked a 5K together last weekend. We finished in 48 minutes. Not bad for a fat chick.