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I too am tierd of it all and want my band out! I had my band put in in October of last year and it has been a pain in the ass from the momement I came out of surgery! My Dr, was not very interseted in the aftercare part so I have had 4 fills one of which was so toght i got soooo sick I lost 20 pounds in less than 5 days! I have been throwing up since i could go on solids and everyime we did the floro everything was always fine...always loosen the band to where i barley had any restiction. I too got to where out of starvation and frustration learned that the sugary softy foods stayed down. I had only lost 32 pounds total with all this insanity so it did not take me long to put that back on and then some! I just got sick of holding my head over toilets and puucking into cups! And everytime I go to the Dr I am told I a m fine and that i need to be more dedicated!! ARRRRG! I was soo loyal and dedicated to the Lap band way of Life...but something went terribly wrong and no I feel like I have that thing alien in my stomach..and its going to jump out tearing me open like int he movie! As long as he has that Lap Band HA! ANyway I hear you and TOTATLY understand! You take good care and good luck!

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I think many bandster have days they wonder if it's worth it, simply because we can't just eat anything we have a craving for, but for me, I love my band and I hope to be one of those people that can keep it for years to come.

I'm truly sorry to hear you're that upset with you band and I wish I had some fantastic advice to give you, but with your state of mind, I think it would be pointless.

Please keep us informed as to what you decide to do, I do wish you the best.

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I too, have struggled with my band. I have wanted it taken out of me. I have spent a lot of time crying. I had my band put in 2 years ago. I initially lost approx 55 pounds. I then started with the "get a fill" to being too tight, to "getting unfills".... then I just had all the Fluid taken out and gained back all of my weight. I "learned" what would go down my band and satisfy my "cravings" at the same time, but it led to my weight gain and further depression. I also dealt with a doctor.......who....is not an encourager! In fact, he was pretty mean! 8 months later, and my health deteriorating, I decided to "GIVE THIS BAND THING ANOHER TRY!"... I changed to a new doctor...and had a fill. I ate salads and then all of a sudden my band was too tight! JUST LIKE ALL OF THE OTHER TIMES! I couldn't get liquids down for over 2 days. I had 3 choices, go to my doctor, the ER or stay home and die. I went to the doctor. She took a little fluid out of my band. She assessed what I had been eating and we came to the conclusion that it was the salad. She said that salad will irritate the band. I felt like a light bulb went off! I started looking back at all of the times this happened... and yes.....I was eating salads and then would start having this problem! I really think it was the salads! I am now restricted and seem to be at a pretty good place right now and am praying for the best. So far, so good! I am able to get fluids down and am relearning how to eat. I am spent so much money, time and energy on this band, that I am determined that I am going to let it help me become healthier! Good luck to you too!

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So I originally started this thread back in April. I can't say that a lot has changed as far as what I can/can't eat. However, I have had insurance for a few months and I have been having tests done to see what is going on.

I started with a new doctor as my old doctor just seemed to chalk it up to me not eating right. That is the most frustrating part of it all. I don't get stuck on BAD stuff I shouldn't be eating in the first place. I get stuck on all of the things I SHOULD be eating.

So anyway, he scheduled the upper GI where they could obviously see that things were going VERY slow if at all. I then had an endoscopy this past Tuesday and he reported that everything looked "normal." He did take a biopsy and I will find out about that next week (after the holiday weekend). How can everything be "normal" when I am having such life-altering problems?

I'm now back up to where I started before I had the surgery to begin with. I barely even TRY to eat the good stuff anymore because I KNOW it's going to bother me. It's like I consciously and subconsciously eat crap because I know I won't have to go through the pain and vomiting.

This new doctor thinks that they can submit it to my insurance that I have to have it out due to difficulties and he acted like it shouldn't be a problem, but who knows. It's such a strange phenomenon that right now I would give ANYTHING to be able to eat all of the healthy "diet" foods that I loathed before. I'm actually TIRED of eating junk food. It never fills you up and it makes your cravings worse. It's a vicious cycle. What I wouldn't give to eat the healthy stuff!

On the other hand, it's scary too! I've already gained back what I lost and I DON'T want to get higher!

My soon to be mother in law had her band put in a month ago and has lost over 50 pounds. Her experience has been roses, which just confirms for me that this just isn't working for me at all. Mine was never roses. I had ups and downs with mostly downs. My Dr. did say that the band just isn't for everyone. I always take comments like that to mean that I am not doing my part to be successful, but I swear to god....I was like the poster child for lapband surgery from day one. Now I'm not because I can't be. I actually attribute my weightloss to a medication I happened to be taking at the same time I had my surgery!

I need to quit blabbing on. Just wanted to update and say I hope to god I can get this thing out soon.

I'm so glad so many of you have had great experiences. I wanted it to work sooo badly! I just can't even pretend to be positive about it now after all I have been through.

Thanks for your ideas/advice. I welcome it.

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