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ive been heavy all my life and having sex (sorry blunt) just wasnt all that fun. too much fat on me, didnt find myself attractive, and so on. but now that ive lost a good amount of weight...im likin it so much more now. its easier and not as hard. i guess cuz i can move easier. anyone else feel that way? i know its a crazy topic but hey its the girls room!

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All I know is... I can't wait til I can do it again!!!

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RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! haha my fiance better get his rest! haha

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Sex has been easier and often more fun, but for me anyway actually orgasming has been much more difficult. I'm not sure if my kegals are weaker or what.

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Yup, I know exactly what you mean. Sex was difficult for me because whenever I'd get on top, within a couple minutes my knees would be killing me (I guess the pressure of my weight combined with having sore knees already from hailing around so much weight during the day)

I also am happier being sexual because I have less smelly crevices(I know, TMI!) but while I obviously don't always smell like a rose, I find that my genitals, arm pits and my body in general just doesn't get as stinky as they used to. My feet also smell better. I think I'm not sweating as much because it's easier to move around.

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Yes!!! Almost confident enough to try some special moves.... Lol

My problem is that I'm only 3 mos out but I have some loose skin on my lower tummy from going up and down in my weight all my life and having babies, so (sorry TMI) when I ride my man my belly jiggles all around lol and if I see it at all it makes me really self conscious. Does it get easier to deal with all that while gettin'nasty?

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I have never had sex...but my sexual earges are greater than ever

I wanna give into them. Even thought I want too, I'm not ready

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Sex is AWESOME after surgery. My honey can pick me up and move me to another position in one swoop. It's been great!

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I can tell a difference when I'm pleasing myself...I know TMI...but just wanted to share

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I have found that I can orgasm now from oral stimulation. Ok, like many others said TMI but...on topic. I never was able to " get there" before, although I still enjoyed the effort. Now I can reach climax in minutes! It amazed me and my partner. ( who has been around before the weight loss) Another NSV that I REALLY like!!! LOL

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Screw TMI this is a powder room, sex got ten times better after surgery. Like holy crap, I haven't been this freakin horny ever. I have always had a high sex drive but now its way higher. I love that I can move around better, not so self conscious of my body, and can go way longer than I use too.

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Ok ladies...I have to chime in here on this. Hubby and I have tried a few times..but I'm facing an odd situation that I've never had..and I'm too embarrassed to talk to friends about this.

I am so boney down there now that it hurts. No matter how we try to position...its all bones down there now. Its strange and it HURTS like hell!!

Any advice for me?

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Ok ladies...I have to chime in here on this. Hubby and I have tried a few times..but I'm facing an odd situation that I've never had..and I'm too embarrassed to talk to friends about this.

I am so boney down there now that it hurts. No matter how we try to position...its all bones down there now. Its strange and it HURTS like hell!!

Any advice for me?

i would highly recommend this book: http://www.soundstrue.com/shop/The-Enlightened-Sex-Manual/2996.pd

its worth way more than 13$ plus shipping.

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Yes!!! Almost confident enough to try some special moves.... Lol

My problem is that I'm only 3 mos out but I have some loose skin on my lower tummy from going up and down in my weight all my life and having babies, so (sorry TMI) when I ride my man my belly jiggles all around lol and if I see it at all it makes me really self conscious. Does it get easier to deal with all that while gettin'nasty?

get a sexy corset to wear until you get used to your new body!

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Ok ladies...I have to chime in here on this. Hubby and I have tried a few times..but I'm facing an odd situation that I've never had..and I'm too embarrassed to talk to friends about this.

I am so boney down there now that it hurts. No matter how we try to position...its all bones down there now. Its strange and it HURTS like hell!!

Any advice for me?

i would highly recommend this book: http://www.soundstrue.com/shop/The-Enlightened-Sex-Manual/2996.pd

its worth way more than 13$ plus shipping.

Can you share why this book is so great? What does the book tell you ?

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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