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Hi

Here's something that I've posted here several times over the years for "new" bandsters that many people have found very helpful. Just to add... following the surgery you may have shoulder pain from the gas used during the surgery... some people get it... some don't .... mine last only 3 days... that was the only pain I had. I found a heating pad REALLY helped along with walking.

I think many of us have felt or are feeling what you are going through right now.
I know for me I never realized how much food controlled my life. I had a really hard time with “head hunger” in the evenings.
I’m now entering my 8th year of being banded and have talked about this here several times but I think it’s worth repeating for new bandsters.
Try and take it one day at a time. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t go into this journey saying “I’ll never be able to eat this or that ever again.” I can eat ANYTHING except rice and apple skins and no carbonated beverages. Follow the guidelines given to you by your doctor. Remember… take tiny bites (the size of your pinky fingernail) and remember to finish what you have in your mouth before you take your next bite.
When I was losing weight I checked in every month with my family doctor to get weighed and measured. (I don’t own scales) I also attended three coffee groups for people that are banded. (I host them). These things really keep me motivated and on track. I still check in every month with my family doctor to get weighed-in and I host two coffee groups. For me support from fellow bandsters plays a big part in this journey.
Back when I was banded my family doctor and I came up with something called the “Egg Timer Distraction”. It’s kind of difficult to explain here but I’d be happy to email you the .pdf document. It REALLY helped me with “head hunger”. I can’t tell you the number of people in my lapband coffee groups over the years that have said how helpful this “trick” has been in dealing with their head hunger.
Also, I’m not really a “diet” book type person but I recommend you pick up two books.
Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat: How to Break Your Eat-Repent-Repeat Cycle – by Dr. Michelle May
I had the pleasure of hearing Dr. May speak at a conference when she came to Toronto and her book and guidelines really work well with the lapband journey.
The second book is:
The End of Overeating: Taking Control of the Insatiable American Appetite – by David L. Kessler
Please feel free to e-mail me if you have any questions and also if you would like a copy of the “Egg Timer Distraction Document”. --- tomander@bell.net
Tom, Toronto
Banded July 6 06
Wt. Loss: 160 lbs
tomander@bell.net

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all good statements. I had some panic the day before my surgery , almost cancelled but my daughter bless her heart came to see me and she said Mom you know this is what you need to do and you will do great. I actually took a little xanex the night before so I could sleep (about 1/2 of one) and it took the anxiety level down. After surgery I had some pain but not severe, took liquid Tylenol for few days, had some shoulder pain, used my heating pad and then about a week later I was back to normal. Eating the lapand way was not as difficult as I thought. Reading all the negative nelly things on here is not good for anyone. I can honestly say this is the best thing I ever did for myself and I feel 20 years younger. Make up your mind that you will be successful and follow your Dr's instructions. We are all here to help you . Come back and let us know how you are doing.

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I totally agree, I also, had cold feet the day of surgery. I was in the prep room and went what if it doesn't work for me. what am I doing! I am almost 5 years out and love my new life!

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WOW!...Thank You All SO VERY Much...I Look At Your Weight scale From Beginning To Now & Am Amazed..i Can Only Imagine How Good It Would Feel To Even Stand Up Or Bend Down Without Pain In My Joints..My Husband Rubbing ASPERCREAM On My Feet Every Night...Can't Do Vacations Because I'm Too Limited..Can't Even Fit In Resturant Booths Any Longer, It Is So Embarrassing & Shamefull...I Have Begged & Pleaded & Wrestled W/ God For So Long, PLEASE, Help Me Outta This PIT...I Cannot Do This Alone...Thank You All SO VERY Much, I FINALLY Feel As Though God Has Given Me Hope Through Your Journeys Also...That Is What Life Is Really All About, Encourageing One Another, Helping Each Other & Being Fit, Healthy & Active...God Bless You All SO Much..When I Was Sunk Down Deep In Doubt, You Have LIFTED Me Up...LOVE, LIFTED Me...Have A Good Day!...Mrs. Debi...{Gods Industrious Bee}...+

Oh, Bee, I too remember not fitting not booths! Now, i am the one that slides into the booth and says, oh, booth, no problem!(((hugs)))!!!

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Again...God Bless & Thank You Much...I See My Surgeon This Afternoon 3:30 P.M...To Have Physical, Questions & Answer Time..And I Gather To Start My Pre-Op Diet...I Also Have To Have Him Remove My GallBladder, Which He Has Said He Can Do Too, During My Lap-Band Surgery!..And Now I Have A Bad ToothAche..I Went To My Dentist Last Week, I Thought I Best Deal With It Now, Before The Surgery, I Don't Need Any More Problems Or Fears..He Said That I Have A Lower Right Side Molar That Needs A Root Canal Or To Be Removed...I Told Him That I Was Having This Surgery, And Would It Affect That?...He Said, It's Probably Best To Deal With The Tooth BEFORE.. Then He Started Me On Some Antibiotics, Which I Take 2 Times A Day..At Noon & At Midnight!..Minocycline...I Have 7 Days Left Of Them, He Said He Is Booked Up Till July, So Unless He Has A Cancelation I Will Just Have To Get This Infection Under Control Before My Lap-Band Surgery...I Will Of Course Also, Tell & Ask My Surgeon All About It Today Also & Ask His Advice..So, What Do Ya Think?...Am I Still OK, For My Lap-Band Surgery?...I Hope So...I Just Need To Know If Anyone Out There Has Had Any Similar Problems Before Their Surgery & All...Thanks So Much & Have A Good Day...Mrs. Bee

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Mrs. Bee,

I just had a case of bronchitis and my surgery nurse told me I had to be off antibiotics seven days before surgery. Best advice talk with your surgeon,keep your head up and look at all the support we have on this site.

Getting banded 5/27

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