Like the title says today I am 2mo and 3 days out from surgery. I am 51 lbs down from the date of surgery and 76 lbs down from my 1st Dr. appt. I wanted to put how I am feeling about this cause it may help someone else, and to find out if anyone else has felt the same.

I have mixed emotions about this.

1. Is wow 76 pounds gone that’s awesome.

2. Why is it not more? I should be doing better.

I am nowhere near as excited about this as the people around me are. So I went and talked to my Physiologist about this. What he had to say made a lot of since. He talked about the 5 steps of depression over a loss. He told that the surgery can be viewed as an emotional loss for a lot of people. He said think about it you had over 45,000 meals in your life, food was always there and your relationship with it has changed dramatically. After talking a bit more we came to the conclusion that I am bouncing back and forth between step 4 Depression and step 5 acceptance. How can I be really excited for something when I have not fully grieved the loss of my old relationship with food and fully accepted the new relationship with it?

Now this all made prefect since to me. Since that talk I have felt better and am getting more excited about the weight I have lost and trying to make little games out it to motivate me more and hit bigger weight loss numbers. Like if I worked out for 30 minutes today let’s see if I can do 40 today. Or maybe get more done in that 30 minute time frame.

To me this has been 99.9% mental and knowing that I been able to fix it slowly but surely.

I and hoping to lose at least another 25 pounds by 3 mo. Out that April 28th

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So I went and talked to my Physiologist about this. What he had to say made a lot of since. He talked about the 5 steps of depression over a loss. He told that the surgery can be viewed as an emotional loss for a lot of people. He said think about it you had over 45,000 meals in your life, food was always there and your relationship with it has changed dramatically. After talking a bit more we came to the conclusion that I am bouncing back and forth between step 4 Depression and step 5 acceptance. How can I be really excited for something when I have not fully grieved the loss of my old relationship with food and fully accepted the new relationship with

Blah blah blah.......psycho babble from some shinny guy that read it instead of did it.....

Did you ever see the Movie with Tom Hanks where he was stranded on that island for a couple of years. He lost a ton of weight. I doubt he was depressed because he failed to grieve for his lost meals. He was more concerned about just staying alive.

You just have too much time on your hands worrying about eating. Get out and exercise and do things and forget about every single pound or the meals you're not eating. Food is still there. You're just adjusting to your new pattern of eating. Once it becomes your new normal, you will be fine.

The weight loss is gonna take time. You are over anxious now but once you reach your goal, you'll probably feel amazed how quickly you got there. We humans never seem to be satisfied with the here and now. Relax. It ain't about grieving over stuff. Revel in the thought of the new life you have ahead of you.

Like the title says today I am 2mo and 3 days out from surgery. I am 51 lbs down from the date of surgery and 76 lbs down from my 1st Dr. appt. I wanted to put how I am feeling about this cause it may help someone else, and to find out if anyone else has felt the same.

I have mixed emotions about this.

1. Is wow 76 pounds gone that’s awesome.

2. Why is it not more? I should be doing better.

I am nowhere near as excited about this as the people around me are. So I went and talked to my Physiologist about this. What he had to say made a lot of since. He talked about the 5 steps of depression over a loss. He told that the surgery can be viewed as an emotional loss for a lot of people. He said think about it you had over 45,000 meals in your life, food was always there and your relationship with it has changed dramatically. After talking a bit more we came to the conclusion that I am bouncing back and forth between step 4 Depression and step 5 acceptance. How can I be really excited for something when I have not fully grieved the loss of my old relationship with food and fully accepted the new relationship with it?

Now this all made prefect since to me. Since that talk I have felt better and am getting more excited about the weight I have lost and trying to make little games out it to motivate me more and hit bigger weight loss numbers. Like if I worked out for 30 minutes today let’s see if I can do 40 today. Or maybe get more done in that 30 minute time frame.

To me this has been 99.9% mental and knowing that I been able to fix it slowly but surely.

I and hoping to lose at least another 25 pounds by 3 mo. Out that April 28th

I think your psych is correct and most of us go through those exact things. I don't really care what it is, if you find something that helps you and something that motivates you than your lucky. You're doing great and thank you for sharing your experience for I'm sure it will help many.

Like the title says today I am 2mo and 3 days out from surgery. I am 51 lbs down from the date of surgery and 76 lbs down from my 1st Dr. appt. I wanted to put how I am feeling about this cause it may help someone else, and to find out if anyone else has felt the same. I have mixed emotions about this. 1. Is wow 76 pounds gone that’s awesome. 2. Why is it not more? I should be doing better. I am nowhere near as excited about this as the people around me are. So I went and talked to my Physiologist about this. What he had to say made a lot of since. He talked about the 5 steps of depression over a loss. He told that the surgery can be viewed as an emotional loss for a lot of people. He said think about it you had over 45,000 meals in your life, food was always there and your relationship with it has changed dramatically. After talking a bit more we came to the conclusion that I am bouncing back and forth between step 4 Depression and step 5 acceptance. How can I be really excited for something when I have not fully grieved the loss of my old relationship with food and fully accepted the new relationship with it? Now this all made prefect since to me. Since that talk I have felt better and am getting more excited about the weight I have lost and trying to make little games out it to motivate me more and hit bigger weight loss numbers. Like if I worked out for 30 minutes today let’s see if I can do 40 today. Or maybe get more done in that 30 minute time frame. To me this has been 99.9% mental and knowing that I been able to fix it slowly but surely. I and hoping to lose at least another 25 pounds by 3 mo. Out that April 28th

Each of us is so different - for some, they can go without mourning the loss and just live life and it's all good. For others, probably those who relied on food as an emotional crutch (that's a lot of us!), mourning the loss of that relationship with food makes sense. And really what it comes down to is that by sharing what has worked for you, you may really help someone else.

You have had great success, I think that getting to that place where you can appreciate it does make all the difference. Congrats!