Ok so as the weight is coming off, my husband is freaking out. He is getting more grumpy. Is this normal? He was very supportive (he's overweight himself) with me joining the gym, and all the doctors appointments. I'm still pre op. But since losing 30 lbs, he keeps saying I'm changing to much, and that I wasn't like this when we married. We have 4 children together, and we have been together 12 years. I'm not going anywhere. I love him. But I tried explaining to him that when your BIG you say no to a lot of things, and as the weight comes off I'm more comfortable saying yes! Any advice here?

I guess the only thing we can do is offer them as much reassurance as possible. I am still pre op as well and my fiancée has been very supportive so far but I am so afraid of this. I don't want to be a statistic and I try not to think about it too much because I think that just manifests it into reality. I don't know what to say honestly other than keep him involved and reassurance that you love him, you might have to meet him more than halfway. Be understanding and you know try to see it from his perspective, he may be feeling insecure. Hopefully it's a short lived phase. Goodluck and hopefully you will have some insight to share with me if or when I run into the same situation. It seems like it is inevitable with weight loss and relationships, I see it so often.

Ok so as the weight is coming off, my husband is freaking out. He is getting more grumpy. Is this normal? He was very supportive (he's overweight himself) with me joining the gym, and all the doctors appointments. I'm still pre op. But since losing 30 lbs, he keeps saying I'm changing to much, and that I wasn't like this when we married. We have 4 children together, and we have been together 12 years. I'm not going anywhere. I love him. But I tried explaining to him that when your BIG you say no to a lot of things, and as the weight comes off I'm more comfortable saying yes! Any advice here?

I think it's a man thing, my husband get a little jealous, I tray to reassure him I'm not going anywhere, just give him time, it's just their insecurities kicking in, it will leave, it'll get better.

Thanks, I'm going to keep showing him I love him, and maybe he will join me in some new things!

Thanks, I'm going to keep showing him I love him, and maybe he will join me in some new things!

he will jump on board, keep showing love like you said.

I was going through the samething, but I made a game out of it, now my hubby get to " hit it" every 5 pounds lost so I kind of say wanna hit at 275 280 or you wanna try out this 235 blank, instead of hey I lost blah pounds. It keeps him involved and happy wink wink .

My husband had a hard time at 1st. I think seeing is morph into this new body right in front of their eyes brings a bit of their insecurities to light. My husband made comments at 1st like I wouldn't want him anymore now I was thin etc blah blah crap. I recognized he was insecure. All u can so is keep working in assuring him.