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I am having surgery next Friday the 21st in Mexico. I start my preop diet tomorrow and I am both nervous and excited for this journey. When ever I start to doubt this decision I think forward to the future and how happy I will be six months to a year from now. I am turning 40 this year and have a four year old son and a three month old daughter. I just try to remind myself that I want to be able to ski, hike, ride motorcycles etc. with my wife and kids in ten more years. With that being said, I still have a bit of doubt that I am making the right decision and that mostly comes down to selfish reasons like not being able to eat huge meals or socially drink much.

I would love to hear some positive comments on how this surgery has helped change your life. I even in encourage the negatives ones if you have any, I want to be fully informed before I get on that table.

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Having the VSG completely changed my life. I am a very healthy woman today! I have lost a lot of weight, I wear much smaller clothes... I am super confident in myself whereas I cannot say this before my surgery. I always felt held back...

But my life has meaning. I don't think I needed a WLS to finally realize this, but was the path destined to get me here. Life's good, like I always say. All this said, it's your journey and your decision. It's normal to have cold feet. Absolutely! The only thing I'll recommend is while it's good to have a positive outlook for your longtime future - please don't dismiss your everyday positive battles and outcomes. Don't be too eager to lose really fast. Just take each pound and Celebrate them individually and proudly.

Best wishes! :)

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I am 3 months out yesterday. My life has changed in so many ways - FOR THE BETTER.

Your apprehension is normal. I waffled back and forth during my waiting period and almost backed out the day before surgery and the day of surgery. I was scared to death!!!!!! If I had known then what I know now, I would have saved a lot of anxiety.

First, the big meal thing...I loved to sit down to a big steak dinner with all the sides like a loaded baked potato. Give me a pizza and I was in heaven. And, I loved my sweets.

Now, I can still have steak, I just eat much, much less. I might have a couple of bites of potato. I can have pizza, just not 2 or 3 large slices (my favorite pizza is one I make with a tortilla shell). Sweets - I really don't want them any more, but if I do have something, it's a couple of bites.

I, like you, thought I was going to feel deprived - not so. After 3 months, I'm back to being fairly normal, can eat out at a restaurant and eat the same things my family does, just in much smaller quantities.

It's not all sunshine and lollipops...I get frustrated that I can't eat faster. Sometimes my brain wants more food than my tiny tummy can handle. But, the energy I have, the pain I don't have and the increased quality of life, totally trump that other stuff.

Best of luck to you!

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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