It’s tough being around loud, pushy people who voice every emotion they feel when they feel it. On the opposite end of the spectrum and easier to be around are quiet people who don’t complain and keep their feelings to themselves. As it turns out, your body begins suffering physical symptoms when you hold unresolved emotional feelings inside. Research supports that the more the emotional baggage is felt internally, the worse it is for the body. Nowhere is this demonstrated as clearly as heart disease or with emotional issues such as depression and anxiety.

Women’s bodies are another area that suffers from emotions held in is. According to experts in mind/body medicine, our emotions affect our bodies because they are linked to our bodies via our immune, endocrine and central nervous systems. Just as a broken heart affects our heart and can lead to death, what we feel affects our body and how effective it works. For women, emotions such as unresolved grief or anger at a partner can cause intestinal problems and headaches as easily as it can cause chronic pelvic pain, and many other bodily issues. Holding in emotions weakens your body’s immune system which make it tougher to ward off colds, infections, and when you do get sick you have a more difficult time getting well.

Observing a list of body functions affected when women (or men) hold in their emotional baggage is staggering. This is why when you become ill it is so important to evaluate what you are feeling, and what you have been feeling for the past six months because some illnesses, such as rheumatoid arthritis, may take months to become symptomatic.

• Constipation or diarrhea, as well as stomach pain/ulcers
  
• Back/Neck pain
  
• Depression
  
• Insomnia
  
• High blood pressure
  
• Anxiety/Depression
  
• Weight gain or loss (eating disorders always have an emotional aspect)
  
• Sexual problems
  
• Rheumatoid arthritis
  
• Fibromyalgia
  
• Asthma
  
• Cancers (for example, pancreatic cancer may present with depression before the patient is symptomatic with cancer)
  

Emotional healing is very different from physical healing. When I worked with cancer patients I was reminded of this fact many times. The tumor went away, and the body healed, but the mind lingered sometimes for years over the experience of losing hair, a body part and/or trust in your body. Counseling becomes a wonderful way to release pent up feelings so you can heal emotionally. There are many ways you can help your loved one or yourself unpack your emotional baggage. Try these suggestions and practice them frequently.

• Laugh as much as you can. Watch funny videos and allow yourself to laugh out loud.
  
• Cry when you need to, don’t hold it in, and just let it flow.
  
• Practice voicing, “I’m angry.” You don’t have to do an action with it, just say it out loud and say why.
  
• Mindful actions. Before you take any medication for a headache, tummy ache, backache, to stay awake, or to fall asleep, ask yourself what am I holding on to. Begin jotting things down. This small action offers huge rewards.
  
• Massages are a common treatment for people who have gone through horrendous crisis, and they’re also a wonderful treatment for fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis. Breathe and let go of held in emotional pain as the therapist works on the body part that holds the physical pain.
  

Medical care has come a long way with advancements in treating so many illnesses. Your body is more than physical though; there is an emotional and soulful part, which is more complicated to treat. Knowing yourself and being able to express uncomfortable feelings is healthy, not only for your mind, but for your body and soul as well.

–Mary Jo Rapini

Excellent article. Thank you for sharing. We can forget that we have emotions tied to many things in our lives. Even the good things can sometimes leave emotional issues that we don't realize exist.

Things like a move which could be positive for happy reasons, or having WLS to improve the quality of our lives can be emotional and tumultuous, and when we are tired or emotionally exhausted from those positive things we feel guilty about it and we tend to care for ourselves less.

I think that those are the times when we need to care for ourselves even more, to love ourselves enough to give ourselves a break, to decompress, give a little extra TLC to our body's and minds, and take a deep breath or four before jumping back into the fray again.

I think that counseling is a good way to deal with emotional baggage, but is it wonderful? Not so much, for me anyway!

Really needed this positive thinking , this day, and week very stressful for me , but I will continue to remember I am no good for my self if I don't continue on my journey , and since being banded I will take care of y self first so I can be around a lot longer for more mile stones in my childrens , lives and mine also.

Very good article. I can definitely relate. I've had a lot of emotional trauma in my 45 years and have suffered with depression and was hospitalized in Jan 2010 for it for 5 days. Every Jan 17 I think about that day and thank God that I was given a second chance to live. See, I didn't think that anyone loved me although I was surrounded by a whole family that did. My feelings were distorted and I thought my family would be better off without me. What was I thinking with 4 kids & a husband who loved me? I was completely overwhelmed and I wanted to stay in bed all the time and sleep and eat my way through life. My husband literally saved my life and took me to the hospital and over time I got ok. I got my emotional well being under control and then on 9/13 I got my eating under control. Life is good today for me and you truly can overcome depression with the right help! Sorry this is so deep, but this article brought back that incident that I keep inside me and never talk about.