I need an accountablility partner! I struggle staying on track and I am 2 and half years out from my surgery and have slacked and put on 20 lbs since June. I need to get back on track eating slower, small bites and start over. Any suggestions???

Accountability is also my problem. I always find a justification for the bad things I eat. I probably would do better if I had a support group I could attend. I think facing people would motivate me to be more accountable. Thoughts?

Try making yourself accountable by logging food into an app. like My Fitness Pal. Put some reminders or alarms on your phone to remind you to log your food.

Come onto the site and let us know what's going on with you...what your eating that's good, bad or down right ugly and you will be sure to get lots of comments with support and advice and even a tisk tisk when needed!

Your in the right place!

The nearest suport group that I know of is where I had my surgery done 2 hours away. I haven't been exercising like I should or journaling my food. I just need a new start, I will try myfitnesspal. I need to make time to exercise. Any good quick recipes anyone would like to share would be appreciated.

Lucy, today is your day! Your closest support group is right here at your finger tips. Give yourself a chance, make a plan and like Nike say's Just Do It!

That has really been the only thing that worked for me. I can come up with a million excuses to not do something, and NO one would fault me or think less of me for it...but I do and that's the only thing that counts.

We have to be tough on ourselves and push ourselves to excel we know we can do it we just have to do it. Carve out the time, I always said I have NO time to cook, I get home too late, no one appreciates it, I'm tired I work 12 hours a day I drive over an hour to get home..it's dark I'm sick...blah blah..All of those are TRUE every single day!

BUT this year I vowed to MYSELF that I would stop eating out so often...and so far it's January 8th and I have cooked every single meal at home!

My kids sit down to the table to eat and are happy, (they are all over 18 mind you) my husband is happy and he helps me with the shopping and will start the meals up on the days he is off from work.

So all my excuses....not one of them could hold water! I bet if you start doing something for yourself you will soon see that neither do yours

Start today....Just Do It!

The nearest suport group that I know of is where I had my surgery done 2 hours away. I haven't been exercising like I should or journaling my food. I just need a new start, I will try myfitnesspal. I need to make time to exercise. Any good quick recipes anyone would like to share would be appreciated.

Look at the food and nutrition section of this forum. There's lots of recipes posted.

Lucy, today is your day! Your closest support group is right here at your finger tips. Give yourself a chance, make a plan and like Nike say's Just Do It!

That has really been the only thing that worked for me. I can come up with a million excuses to not do something, and NO one would fault me or think less of me for it...but I do and that's the only thing that counts.

We have to be tough on ourselves and push ourselves to excel we know we can do it we just have to do it. Carve out the time, I always said I have NO time to cook, I get home too late, no one appreciates it, I'm tired I work 12 hours a day I drive over an hour to get home..it's dark I'm sick...blah blah..All of those are TRUE every single day!

BUT this year I vowed to MYSELF that I would stop eating out so often...and so far it's January 8th and I have cooked every single meal at home!

My kids sit down to the table to eat and are happy, (they are all over 18 mind you) my husband is happy and he helps me with the shopping and will start the meals up on the days he is off from work.

So all my excuses....not one of them could hold water! I bet if you start doing something for yourself you will soon see that neither do yours

Start today....Just Do It!

Really great advice and I agree we need to learn to push ourselves, and stop letting those negative thoughts distract us from what we want.. Lisacaron says just do it! (And Im really not a vulgar person but hear me out) I say get out of that place in your head that holds you down with all those excuses, doubts, fears, and say "F*** it!! Im doing this now!" P.S. If you are someone who rarely swears like me.. It really feels powerful to say it out loud and get the sneakers on! :-) Good luck!

Edited September 28, 201411 yr by F_it

I messed up today I had bread for breakfast with a cup of coffee:(

Stress at work that's my excuse

I'm only two months out. I've lost about 20 lbs. Initially right after surgery and returning to my night shift I gained back 5 lbs. There were some things I told myself I wasn't going to do. This is just me so please don't bite my head off here.

1. There is no messing up- if I do it, it's a learning process. I have to figure out what works and what doesn't. I'll have to decide what I can live with and what I won't.

2. Be real- I want to make sure that the changes I am making are changes that are going to be a part of the rest of my new and healthier life.

3. Be patient- We all know that weight can be a challenging thing (that's why we are all here). It fluctuates a little

4. Be aware- If I see things are sliding a little, I see what I've changed and rethink that change.

I would love to be a part of our support group at my Dr.'s office but I just don't have the time with my night shift so lastly,

5. Check in- I check in with my new found friends on bariatricpal.com. I can vent, research, observe, whine, share and offer my own victories and short comings.

Best Wishes

Edited October 17, 201411 yr by blacktxbelle

Thank you for it was so good to hear you, I'm struggling but hopefully it will get better