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Good: I love looking at a tiny little serving and knowing it will fill me up. I have lost interest in sugar. Bad: I am filled with non-stop rage and fury about feeling like a failure. I have only lost six pounds. I've tried cutting calories, raising calories, drinking more, drinking less...you name it. I wish I had known that the sleeve doesn't work for some people.

Why are you so angry? How far out are you to feel like a failure already? You need to be patient and stick strictly to the program set by your nutritionist. Hang in there and it will get better.

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I'm a month out. I'm furious at how slow my weight loss is, and by feeling I have no control in making it speed up. Once I have insurance in March, I will see an endocrinologist. My family doesn't want to hear about it. I know I'm a huge downer online and I hate feeling this way. I feel a huge cloud of depression suffocating me; I am miserable. My clinic is at a loss as to how to help me. I cannot stay motivated losing 1-2 lb a month. My husband is kind but I can tell he is disappointed. I feel like my hope got cut out right along with 85% of my tummy. I eat anywhere from 600-800 calories, following all the rules we know and love.

I feel as though others in my situation would probably be angry, too, but somehow my feelings aren't considered valid by anyone. Sometimes it seems like it's only ok to share your feelings if they are positive. It is crushing to see post after post of people losing 15, 20, 30 lb in their first month. It is also crushing to have your feelings completely dismissed by comments like "oh well, you had a lower start weight so it must be normal to lose so little (according to surgeon, it's not) or comments about how I should just be happy with myself. If it were that easy, I wouldn't have risked my life and money on surgery.

Today was my first day working out vigorously since surgery, although I walk constantly, so I'm not sedentary. Working out made me very hungry but I've eaten 780 calories today so I don't want to eat more. Sitting here hungry and defeated, just like I have with any other weight loss attempt. I know it's illogical to be angry at my stomach, but I really, really am.

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Hell yeah I'd be angry.I agree with you, there must be a hormonal imbalance. Cortisone, thyroid hormones, and even electrolyte imbalances can slow weight loss. I'm an endocrinologist's dream.... I take pills to regulate almost all of ny hormones.... And for that reason I am afraid I will be in your boat too

Start a thread to vent, and find others who may have overcome it. And totally see an endo.

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I am so sorry for you, you have every right to be angry and disappointed.

What is your surgeon/nut saying or doing? It may ultimately be an endo thing but are your team helping you get to the bottom of this? I hope they are coming up with suggestions... Doesn't feel right if they have sleeved you and then stepped away.

One observation - I have never counted calories as my dietician said that all calories are not the same. So one month out, my focus was on 60g Protein, 64fl oz liquid and moving... are you hitting all the protein/liquids targets?

That aside I have nothing to offer other than sympathy and support. To go through being sleeved and have this outcome must be devastating but please don't give up. Someone has the solution, you just have to keep fighting to find it. X

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I'm a month out. I'm furious at how slow my weight loss is, and by feeling I have no control in making it speed up. Once I have insurance in March, I will see an endocrinologist. My family doesn't want to hear about it. I know I'm a huge downer online and I hate feeling this way. I feel a huge cloud of depression suffocating me; I am miserable. My clinic is at a loss as to how to help me. I cannot stay motivated losing 1-2 lb a month. My husband is kind but I can tell he is disappointed. I feel like my hope got cut out right along with 85% of my tummy. I eat anywhere from 600-800 calories, following all the rules we know and love.

I feel as though others in my situation would probably be angry, too, but somehow my feelings aren't considered valid by anyone. Sometimes it seems like it's only ok to share your feelings if they are positive. It is crushing to see post after post of people losing 15, 20, 30 lb in their first month. It is also crushing to have your feelings completely dismissed by comments like "oh well, you had a lower start weight so it must be normal to lose so little (according to surgeon, it's not) or comments about how I should just be happy with myself. If it were that easy, I wouldn't have risked my life and money on surgery.

Today was my first day working out vigorously since surgery, although I walk constantly, so I'm not sedentary. Working out made me very hungry but I've eaten 780 calories today so I don't want to eat more. Sitting here hungry and defeated, just like I have with any other weight loss attempt. I know it's illogical to be angry at my stomach, but I really, really am.

Your feelings are always valid. Even if no one else values them or doesn't understand or can't relate. I do notice an abundance of positivity and happiness by most users here but that's only because most come to get support, encouragement and positivity away from the possible negative environment and people who disapprove, we try to be that place...

You're extremely valid in your thoughts because I would feel the same way if that was my results after all the build up to lose so much. U had expectations that were not met so disappointment is a valid response. I still want to only encourage you to not be defeated, get your workouts in, adjust your diet accordingly, continue to track your eating habits and have your nutritionist discuss other options.

We are here to help u thru this...some people hit stalls and feel the same and need a little encouragement when they feel sown about it. I can't wait to see ur update...when u least expect it..the loss will probably creep up on you!! Good luck..

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I have been blessed with a super easy recovery, but we all have our struggles and sacrifices.

1. 30/30 rule (my NUT requires no liquids 30 minutes before and after meal in addition to none while eating)

2. With the above rule and f3 meals a day, it is HARD to consume 2 Protein shakes and 64 ounces of water!

3. No caffeine - I did not consume a lot pre-surgery, but I needed one dose in the morning to get going.

4. I thought I would really miss bread, Pasta and rice, but so far I don't.

Worth every bit of it and more!!!

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Nothingupmysleeve, every single person on here would be liar if they were to say they would be patient in your situation. I would be pissed. We didn't go through this to see the scale stand still. No one can discount others feelings of disappointment especially with what you are dealing with. Even when people lose 15lbs and see others lose 30 in the same amount of time there is a question of "why am I not losing that fast"? I know I feel that way sometimes. I am so sorry for your troubles, wish you nothing but the best, and hope you find the answers you need to be successful ASAP :)

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Everyone loses at a different rate. There are different factors, in terms of the amount of weight to be lost, age, activity level, and general health. Most people are upset with their initial weight loss amount, whether you lose 10 or 30lbs. We have to keep things in perspective when it come to weight lost after surgery. We did not get overweight overnight or in 30 days and we won't lose that way either. Stick to the plan and be patient and you'll see the pounds melt away. I lost 16 lbs in my first 30 days and was disgusted, and then lost 60 lbs in 4 months. So, just hang in there and the results will happen. Good luck to you all.

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Nothingupmysleeve, Hang in there. Please talk with your doctor/Nut and tell them what is going on. Perhaps you need to have your CBC blood panels done make sure your not low in VitD or Vit B also have them check your hormones and your thyroid all of these things can add to the slow process of loosing weight. And a major anger too. If you get these all in balance you will see that everything will fall into place. Pleae be encouraged!

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For me it was the drain tube. I could not stand up straight . I was short of breathe. I could not get out of bed without help. After they removed the tube I felt 100% better. I was only in the hospital for a day. I slept pretty much all day for the first 3 days. I am very sensitive to anesthesia . Drinking and eating was also difficult, I felt so good after a week I forgot I had even had surgery. Good luck , and remember we all experience different things, you will do great, go in with a positive mind, knowing that when you wake up it's your second birthday to a new life, a healthier life.

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Patty61, I was a crazy one who didn't want my drain out! I wanted it to stay in even though it was a bit uncomfortable because seeing the Fluid gave me peace of mind that my stomach wasn't leaking any unusual fluids. The Dr thought I was "different" for not wanting it out. The most difficult part for me has been getting enough fluids in and taking Vitamins. I hate pills! I feel so much restriction when I eat and drink still, so hopefully it will let up a bit over time. I LOVE Water and get frustrated that I can't drink it the way I used to.

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Being over 2 years out, my biggest struggle is dealing with my head hunger and not listening to my thoughts that deviate me from clean eating. :P

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I hav problem with liquids and Vitamins also. One day I can drink crystal light tea and the next day I can't stand it. I have so many different drink mixes that I like for a day and then I can't stand. I still don't take my vitamins everyday.

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Here's a couple: 1. Not drinking while I'm eating (big one) 2. Listening to others tell me I wasn't "big enough" for WLS 3. Getting funny looks at places like Olive Garden when my hubby orders the "Tour of Italy" and I get a skewer of shrimp or something equally miniscule lol 4. Trying to keep my pants up (yet stubbornly refusing to buy new ones until I absolutely HAVE to -- Goodwill is my favorite shopping mecca now) 5. BIGGEST ONE: STALLS (have already been through two -- one at week 3 and one that I came out of Saturday that lasted 5 WEEKS!) 6. Feeling like I should have lost MORE by now...though I do know my rate of loss of still very good, the stalls contribute to this feeling 7. Constipation :blink: (though I have found some "cures" for that)

I agree with each and everyone of these. I do want to add one, though. I have a problem some days not eating enough. It contributes to be not loosing and is quite frustrating.

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i love having the problem with kepting my clothes up even tho its a pain in the ass lol and yes im too stuborn

Me too. However, I finally gave in and bought elastic dress pants to wear to work when I was literally having to hold my pants to walk! Hopefully these will last through a couple of sizes!

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