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Loss of a good friend by her choice

juliegeraci

By juliegeraci, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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Jennifur    0

Jennifur
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yes, lessons is exactally it.

I have 5 true dear friends in my life and lots people I know, but my one best friend who I am going on vacation with for Easter is dragging me out to meet some of her friends. I need to get out with a new crowd in general. I am trying to change for the better having this surgery and having the drama and b.s. of what I have in my life now is not the best thing for me.

So I wish you all strength to surround yourself with the right people in your life.

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Terrilen    0

Terrilen
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Thank you Jenifur! I wish you peace during your transistion. Carla was my last friend in this area. I have 2 lifetime friends one in Melborne the other in Indiana we are "The Girls"! I am a homebody and I am going to have to change that to make some new friends...that scares me. But it will all be alright! You take good care! Thanks for the support!

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Jennifur    0

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Thank you Jenifur! I wish you peace during your transistion. Carla was my last friend in this area. I have 2 lifetime friends one in Melborne the other in Indiana we are "The Girls"! I am a homebody and I am going to have to change that to make some new friends...that scares me. But it will all be alright! You take good care! Thanks for the support!

Hey that is why we are here - for support right!

After weeks of therapy I have come to realize that change is scary but it can be Good scary, doesn't always have to be bad.

GOOD LUCK - and enjoy meeting new people - they may not all be your friends but you never know what great things can come from talking to people!

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We all go through this from time to time, sometimes we are the leaver and sometimes we are left behind. Peoples needs change . . . but you will always find those who are your "true" friends and stick by you no matter what. If a person leaves and is not willing to discuss reasons why, then it might be time to let go even if it is painful.

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I've had friends who have come and gone and I have friends who have stayed through thick and thin. Sometimes I've had to walk out of other people's lives because of their addictions, etc. that would have pulled me down with them. One quote I've always tried to keep in mind is:

"Don't be dismayed at good-byes. A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends."

~ Richard Bach

If you are true friends, she will be back. When she does, try to forgive.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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