Hi!

I'm pre-op (hoping for an early February date) and have been going back and forth about telling my family.

Most of the friends I've told have been supportive (sometimes after a short time, but they ultimately came around and have been great). My family, on the other hand, tends to be judgmental, gossipy and negative. I know that I should tell them, but to be honest, I don't want to. This is an exciting yet scary time, and I feel that dealing with their reactions will add more stress. Has anyone dealt with anything like this? If so, can you please share your thoughts or tips?

Thanks.

Hi!

I'm pre-op (hoping for an early February date) and have been going back and forth about telling my family.

Most of the friends I've told have been supportive (sometimes after a short time, but they ultimately came around and have been great). My family, on the other hand, tends to be judgmental, gossipy and negative. I know that I should tell them, but to be honest, I don't want to. This is an exciting yet scary time, and I feel that dealing with their reactions will add more stress. Has anyone dealt with anything like this? If so, can you please share your thoughts or tips?

Thanks.

Hey Ready,

You can find a post from me almost exaclty like this a couple weeks ago. I was in the exact same boat as you. I origionally told only my husband, best friend and grandmother. I struggled with telling any other family members, and ultimately chose to tell aslo my father and sister. I was really nervous about it for the exact same reasons as you. I was just honest, stood my ground, and told myself I would not let them influence me negatively. It worked for me and I felt so much better.

Good Luck Ready!