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I'm scared of the death aspect too.. but if I stay big, and don't do the surgery, I could die from being so obese also. It's worth the risk, most definitely.

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Ok people. We know there are risks. But let's try and keep in mind that the death rate world wide is 0.1%. Thats still a risk of course but once we've decided and chosen a good team, we must focus on the positive effect this surgery will have on our lives. Good luck to us all :-) Lx

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Ok people. We know there are risks. But let's try and keep in mind that the death rate world wide is 0.1%. Thats still a risk of course but once we've decided and chosen a good team, we must focus on the positive effect this surgery will have on our lives. Good luck to us all :-) Lx

way easier said than done- but I am trying!!! my rate is higher because I am having a revision too. i also have anxiety on a Normal day! i take meds for that. thank you Jesus for Zoloft!!!! LOL!

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I'm scared of the death aspect too.. but if I stay big, and don't do the surgery, I could die from being so obese also. It's worth the risk, most definitely.

thats what i keep telling myself. i think in my search to find all the possible complications- i have scared myself to death. but i didnt do that with the band and look where that got me. so i thought- be smart- see what can happen before you decide. well ive been smart alright- and now im terrified. one minute im going to do it- the next i am not. this site is def. helping.

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i was a bag of nerves when i got my band done. Right before surgery they gave me a shot through my IV and made everything better! lol It was instant happiness and worry free.

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i was a bag of nerves when i got my band done. Right before surgery they gave me a shot through my IV and made everything better! lol It was instant happiness and worry free.

I wasn't really that nervous before getting the band. Maybe just a little nervous... but I do remember that shot LOL

Did you get the revision to RNY?

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I wasn't really that nervous before getting the band. Maybe just a little nervous... but I do remember that shot LOL

Did you get the revision to RNY?

Submitted to ins co this week. Waiting on answer

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Submitted to ins co this week. Waiting on answer

ah well good luck buddy.

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ah well good luck buddy.

=) tnx

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When do you think you will have the surgery?

The band I did great on until the slippage and complete un-fill... did you have slippage?

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When do you think you will have the surgery?

The band I did great on until the slippage and complete un-fill... did you have slippage?

No slippage but developed a hiatial hernia and had to get unfilled. Couldn't keep anything down while filled, even spit was difficult. Hoping for a late nov, early dec surgery date.

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I can relate, my surgery is scheduled for October 23, I was so excited as the months went by and got closer to Oct, but now I am a nervous wreck.

I'm sure we we will all be fine, and so happy as the weight falls off.

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No slippage but developed a hiatial hernia and had to get unfilled. Couldn't keep anything down while filled, even spit was difficult. Hoping for a late nov, early dec surgery date.

im in the same boat but slippage 2 years ago... total unfill...gained all the 60lbs I lost back plus 20 more. No other complications. Ive thought about pushing my date back... let me know when you get approved. Maybe change mine...

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im in the same boat but slippage 2 years ago... total unfill...gained all the 60lbs I lost back plus 20 more. No other complications. Ive thought about pushing my date back... let me know when you get approved. Maybe change mine...

I had great success with the band. The hernia messed it all up for me. I lost 90 lbs the first 9 months with the band. Started at 365; lowest was 250; currently 329; goal 215.. ill keep u posted with updates. Add me as a friend so its easier to find you.

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Yeah, it sure is scary going from the band to RNY. That is all that is on my mind and i'm not even sure yet if I'm going to do it all together and maybe just have them take the band out. I keep going back and forth in my head... am I ready for this? I was so gung ho before I got the band.. now, i'm that the surgery is scheduled and I pushed to get it... i'm like can I handle this mentally? Like i'm just not 100% positive.... it's hour by hour for me... LOL

You know, I can relate b/c I feel the exact same way. TERRIFIED of just the thought of it. I felt the same way w/ the band. I wish I had listened and did RNY in the first place but it was the fear that led me to the band. This is my last chance and my diabetes may not wait on me to keep procrastinating before complications start. I must do this for my health and it would be nice to look good too. I'm tired of changing clothes 4-5 times before going to work b/c of not looking good in whatever I put on. We are all in this together. LET'S DO THIS!

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