Since we been together 17 years I owe it to him to let him know since he ask about my feelings towards the marriage.

In conclusion he so called says he will change. I said that's what's always said but it doesn't happen. Verbally abusing my kids & me it's very bad. I don't want to be with you cuz I want to do what I want. I see no future here & I'm getting older & I need to leave. He said I can always leave & rent a room somewhere. I said let's see what happen. I'm serious if there is no change I'm already set on leaving & what you say won't matter anymore. He continue to say he will change & I continue to say I'm planning on leaving depending on you. He knows this is serious cuz of everything that was said in the conversation. He even said he will let me do whatever I want if I want to go out with friends to the strip clubs. What??? A jealous insecure man wants to keep me here cuz he is 21 years older or he thinks ok let her do whatever she will stay with me or what. I'm lost for words.

You need to try counseling as a couple. See if he's willing.

You need to try counseling as a couple. See if he's willing.

I will see if he is willing. Thanks