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Getting grilled

CherryBlossom79

By CherryBlossom79, in Rants & Raves

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CherryBlossom79    11

CherryBlossom79
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Well at this moment I am getting grilled about why I am getting the surgery. I am holding my own tho! It is on an Icelandic chatroom were ppl know each other alot even outside the net. Some are asking how can I go thru with this when it is so scary. Telling me I should try first overeaters anonymous, greysheeters and lchf diet. Even one who had the band and is failing a bit at it is criticising my decicion, what is that??? I am mostly annoyed at that girl, just because she did not do the work and is therefore failing does not mean I will not. I have done ten times the research and everything then she ever has before I took my very well informed decicion.

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Nel    189

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Great thing about chat rooms, You can make a statement and leave. Just something like: Wow, I thought friends would give me some support, especially ones that have had WLS. Not my fault you chose one that didn't work for you. I chose this because I CAN"T dip 2 bags of oreos in coffee and wash em past that band. When you want to support my decision, feel free to message. Until then: feel free to go to judgmental arseholes anonymous. Thanks!

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CherryBlossom79    11

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Great thing about chat rooms' date=' You can make a statement and leave. Just something like: Wow, I thought friends would give me some support, especially ones that have had WLS. Not my fault you chose one that didn't work for you. I chose this because I CAN"T dip 2 bags of oreos in coffee and wash em past that band. When you want to support my decision, feel free to message. Until then: feel free to go to judgmental arseholes anonymous. Thanks![/quote']

True and she has admitted she did not go to have the band tightned when she was supposed to. And turns around and judges my decicion. Hmmmm

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Obeasta    92

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hahaha, well said Nella! you are awesome, girl!

Valkyrja, take Nella's advice. Don't you give fools like that the time of day.

I wish you well and good luck on your journey!

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soupysongbird    0

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Hi

I had my surgery on Apr 2nd and realized that if I had revealed what I was doing that I would be opening myself to all kinds of criticism I just wasn't looking for. So, I chose to tell my mom and a close friend and that was it. I realized by the time I got to the decision to do this the only people who would understand are those who have gained and lost weight a million times over the years. I hope that you would realize that you know what is good for you and congratulations on taking care of you.

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Cherry    71

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As I respond, I'm in waiting room. My surgery is in TWO hours. ONLY my husband knows. I have not told one friend or family member. My husband is also away for work for 8 months and is so worried. I had a friend drop me off thinking I was having a shoulder procedure. I'm right there with you!!!

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TinyMamiOf3kids    1,280

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Great thing about chat rooms' date=' You can make a statement and leave. Just something like: Wow, I thought friends would give me some support, especially ones that have had WLS. Not my fault you chose one that didn't work for you. I chose this because I CAN"T dip 2 bags of oreos in coffee and wash em past that band. When you want to support my decision, feel free to message. Until then: feel free to go to judgmental arseholes anonymous. Thanks![/quote']

Damn that's cold... "Can't dip 2 Oreo in cafe and wash them past the band" love it lmbo

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CherryBlossom79    11

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Luckely my family and friends are super supportive. They are very happy for me to have decided to get the surgery. I am so blessed and happy to have all this support. It just those darn ppl that have no say and do not really know me, ppl that think that just because I am fat I must be a food addict and a out of control overeater. My family knows better.

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Tcisme    13

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My mom has expressed to me quite Boldly that she does NOT want me to have GB surgery. I've tried to explain to her it will make me healthier.... But she gas only heard bad stuff. So I've decided to take her with me to a seminar. I'm hoping and praying this will change her mind. :(

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susieg55    4

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Honestly, I was prepared for lots of negative comments. Luckily, I only had one person tell me that thought I should try other avenues first and it was more out of concern than criticism. I went in prepared, mentally AND physically. I did my research homework and made it clear that ALL of my healthcare team were in favor of me having the surgery. I only waited as long as I did because I didn't have insurance to cover it and couldn't afford it without. I did my due diligence and was totally satisfied I had made the appropriate decision for me and pretty much made that known in no uncertain terms. Since you have done that don't let the naysayers get you down. They will always be there ready to pounce. Some people have nothing better to do. Be proud of your decision to take control of your health and ROCK IT!!

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Tcisme    13

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Thanks for the encouragement. Yes my mind is totally made up... I would love to have my moms support, but once she sees that I'm not turning back. I'm going strong with my decision maybe she will jump on board. :) I know she worries about me but maybe the seminar will show her that is to help me. I luv this app y'all are so positive and encouraging!

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susieg55    4

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Thanks for the encouragement. Yes my mind is totally made up... I would love to have my moms support' date=' but once she sees that I'm not turning back. I'm going strong with my decision maybe she will jump on board. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> I know she worries about me but maybe the seminar will show her that is to help me. I luv this app y'all are so positive and encouraging![/quote']

Try taking her with you to see your doctor. You will always be her child and I'm sure she is just concerned. If she hears that your doctor has your best interest at heart and he explains things to her so she understands, it may help put her at ease.

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Tcisme    13

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Try taking her with you to see your doctor. You will always be her child and I'm sure she is just concerned. If she hears that your doctor has your best interest at heart and he explains things to her so she understands' date=' it may help put her at ease.[/quote']

Yea I am going to take her with me May 6. Let her meet everybody and let her sit thru a seminar. She will understand this is a life changer and I need this. :)

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TinyMamiOf3kids    1,280

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Has not gas LOL

Lmbo

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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