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So my day started off really shitty. Got an email from some chick saying my husband is cheating. Im a frickin mess and all I want to do is shove food in my face so I can feel numb. This wasnt how things were supposed to go. Im supposed to be feeling great and thats not happening. I cant take much more.

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thats his insecurities, bc ur doing something for yourself. but do you know its true?

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I hope it isn't true, anyway "b**ch should not have sent you an email anyway" this is not supposed to be how it is. i just hope it is somebody being jealous and trying to cause trouble. If it is true, then I hope you find a way to get through it which ever way it goes. This just stinks that is all I can say. Wishing you all the best.

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I dont know what to believe. He did it 6 yrs ago so i dont know what to believe

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Its one of those i would rather just know the truth so i can move on. All this emotional stuff i so wasnt ready for. I never realized how much i knumbed it with food.< /p>

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i hear you on that one, but now its the true test of getting a new comfort thing. when my ex cheated i gained stupid amount of weight, now i look back and was like he won. You do you, and just remember love yourself.

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Thanks gurlie. Its so hard we have been together for almost 12 years and have 2 kids together. I dont want to put the kids threw that shit. I wen threw it and it f'ed me up and caused many of my issues that led me to be 230 pounds.

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ya i ended up getting his daughter, and shes not biologically mine. but i know as a kid i asked my mom to ended it with my dad bc of the cheating and arguing. but u also dont wanna show ur kids its ok. but whatever your decision we all support you, good luck, if u ever need to talk you i am here

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Yikes! Sorry that happened. My Mom and Dad had similar issues. I was so happy when they divorced about 14 years ago, now everything is great I love them this way, no arguing, just peace.

Best Wishes (Hugs)

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I dealt with this for years prior to my Lapband. Infact my Lapband was done one month after leaving. The pain was so hard to go thru without the crutch of eating. I can not gove you any tips because I drowned in my work. Infact my daughter just cried to me last week that she felt like she lost us both. in the same breath she said she is much happier now.

Your weight loss is for you and those kids!! Stay strong and scream to us! Stay or go is soley up to you and you will not find judgement as I did both. Do you go to the gym? Go hit a bag!! Makes you feel better. Pillows on the bed work well too! (for hitting or screaming)

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I dealt with this for years prior to my Lapband. Infact my Lapband was done one month after leaving. The pain was so hard to go thru without the crutch of eating. I can not gove you any tips because I drowned in my work. Infact my daughter just cried to me last week that she felt like she lost us both. in the same breath she said she is much happier now.

Your weight loss is for you and those kids!! Stay strong and scream to us! Stay or go is soley up to you and you will not find judgement as I did both. Do you go to the gym? Go hit a bag!! Makes you feel better. Pillows on the bed work well too! (for hitting or screaming)

Youre going to be too sexy for him anyway. Believe the email. Once a cheater always a cheater. Kick him to the curb

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Honey, I am sooooo sorry. No matter what, take care of you! You have to be healthy for those kids.

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