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So I had my surgery 6/11/12 and this ain't working! I no longer dump on anything! I can eat more than I'm supposed to. And I've only lost 60 lbs. Started at 338 day of surgery 321 but was 336 after surgery I'm at 278 now. Its so freaking hard because I no longer have support from my husband who demands junk food fried food pop and fast food. I talked to my Dr and nut and they said don't eat it....if it was that easy I wouldn't have needed the surgery to begin with. I walk about a mile a day but that's the extent of exercise. I have 3 levels in my house and 4 kids so I'm constantly up and down stairs. Oh and the kicker I now suffer from insomnia so I only sleep 2-3 hours a night. Sorry for the rant I'm just so frustrated #stillfat

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I'm sorry that you are going thru this. I.hope your husband can meet you half way some how.

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I'm the cook here & I do the food shopping. I do fry food but I honestly don't eat it. I do make steak with onions on the side for me with boil potato. Be strong!! You can do it. Think! Nothing feels so good as being thin. Cute clothes. Great sex! Be strong don't give in.

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So I had my surgery 6/11/12 and this ain't working! I no longer dump on anything! I can eat more than I'm supposed to. And I've only lost 60 lbs. Started at 338 day of surgery 321 but was 336 after surgery I'm at 278 now. Its so freaking hard because I no longer have support from my husband who demands junk food fried food pop and fast food. I talked to my Dr and nut and they said don't eat it....if it was that easy I wouldn't have needed the surgery to begin with. I walk about a mile a day but that's the extent of exercise. I have 3 levels in my house and 4 kids so I'm constantly up and down stairs. Oh and the kicker I now suffer from insomnia so I only sleep 2-3 hours a night. Sorry for the rant I'm just so frustrated #stillfat

Try to join a local support group. Go to your primary to see how they can help with the insomnia. Remember you will be loosing weight up to 18 mths, take advantage of this time to keep on track. When you are in control of your actions you feel good about yourself. Good luck and chin up!

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I'm the cook here & I do the food shopping. I do fry food but I honestly don't eat it. I do make steak with onions on the side for me with boil potato. Be strong!! You can do it. Think! Nothing feels so good as being thin. Cute clothes. Great sex! Be strong don't give in.

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I had my surgury 6/14 and have only lost 53 pounds so you are doing great remember this is a marathon not a sprint just do your best I get the husband thing mine eats crap all the time I have trying to go with the mental approach of I don't want to instead of I can't when ever my kids ask why I'm not ratting something I never say I can't I say mom wants to make health choices I dont want to put junk in my body. Now my kids follow my husband asking him why he likes to put junk in his body. Good luck

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Stay positive :) You have lost alot of weight so far. Good job Keep it up.

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My husband is same way as well as my adult son living back home. They have no compassion on what I am having to do. So the other day in the midde of cooking something I know I can't have I put the cooking utensils down went in while they were just laying in the couch watching TV like always and said I was done. I refuse to cook what I can't eat so if you want to eat cook it yourselves. Gave them the utensils and walked away.

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The surgery is afterall a tool... There might be underlying issues with poor food choices after going thru all this. Maybe a therapist could help. Good luck my dear!!

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My husband is same way as well as my adult son living back home. They have no compassion on what I am having to do. So the other day in the midde of cooking something I know I can't have I put the cooking utensils down went in while they were just laying in the couch watching TV like always and said I was done. I refuse to cook what I can't eat so if you want to eat cook it yourselves. Gave them the utensils and walked away.

Good for you

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I do have junk food in the house but i always make sure i have something i can and should eat so i am less tempted by the kids. Also try doing the http://www.5daypouchtest.com/ if u r eating more than half cup to a cup of food.< /p>

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Stop for just a moment and think about what you've accomplished already. You've lost an average of five pounds a week for three months. If you maintain that average for six more months, you'll lose an additional 120 pounds. Total loss - 180 pounds in nine months. You are doing absolutely amazing! Celebrate your success every day!!

Almost half of all gastric bypass patients never experience dumping. And yet the success rate is 85%. Gastric bypass is the most effective treatment for obesity known to medical science. It's not about dumping! It's about what I call The Prime Directive - lifestyle changes. You can read more in my post here .

It's unfortunate that your husband is not supportive but no one, absolutely no one, can control your destiny - unless you let them. They can't take it. They can't demand it. They can't force it. You started this journey for your health, your self esteem and your peace of mind. And it will be your commitment, your determination and your courage that will take you where you want to go. You can do this and when you do - you're gonna love the new you!!

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My husband is same way as well as my adult son living back home. They have no compassion on what I am having to do. So the other day in the midde of cooking something I know I can't have I put the cooking utensils down went in while they were just laying in the couch watching TV like always and said I was done. I refuse to cook what I can't eat so if you want to eat cook it yourselves. Gave them the utensils and walked away.

I LOVE IT!

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Good motivation!!

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So I had my surgery 6/11/12 and this ain't working! I no longer dump on anything! I can eat more than I'm supposed to. And I've only lost 60 lbs. Started at 338 day of surgery 321 but was 336 after surgery I'm at 278 now. Its so freaking hard because I no longer have support from my husband who demands junk food fried food pop and fast food. I talked to my Dr and nut and they said don't eat it....if it was that easy I wouldn't have needed the surgery to begin with. I walk about a mile a day but that's the extent of exercise. I have 3 levels in my house and 4 kids so I'm constantly up and down stairs. Oh and the kicker I now suffer from insomnia so I only sleep 2-3 hours a night. Sorry for the rant I'm just so frustrated #stillfat

Please don't give up you have a bad support system so go find one that will support you. Call your doctor and ask if there is a support group around you. To hell with people that can't support you and are out for what makes them feel good. What about your needs. Would it kill them to support you and understand what you are going though.

Sorry I know they love you but that makes me mad that some people say they love you but don't support you. My wife is so supportive and goes out of her way to help me she even goes to support meetings with me.

Hope you get some help good luck don't give up

Surgery Anniversary 7/30/12

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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