I had surgery May 2,2012. I am almost 3 months post op. I was doing great. I have lost 43 lbs. Walking everyday and eating really healthy. Now I have lost it. I have nobody to walk with anymore. It seemed like everybody was supportive at first but recently nobody wants to walk with me and everybody around eats un healthy. My fiance acts like he don't care anymore if I do right or not. I have been depressed and not doing like I have been. i really need my encouragement back. This sucks!!

Where you from hun? Maybe you can meet someone from on here to be your support?

I'm really sorry that your support system is lacking. I know it can be a huge part of this process. Maybe you can find something that'll turn things around. Like whatever your next size is maybe by a smokin pair of jeans that you can wear for that couple of weeks (see if you can find some at Wally World or Sally Anne) and it'll make you feel that much better.

I hope that you can get your umph back. I'm here if you ever want to chat!

btw GREAT job on losing 45lbs so far!

I am from east TN. I hope it all picks back up. Thanks. Im here if u wanna talk also

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Hi Beth, Sounds like life is really challenging you right now and remember life never dishes out anything you can't handle. Try shifting your mindset when your walking and daydream about those sexy jeans, or something much funner is fulfilling your dreams. You will always need people to thrive however my dear you are the one with the power and the passion to change. I imagine you are such an inspiration to those around you everyday, you certainly are to me after loading 45lbs in a few months.

Get excited, find a friend to giggle with so hard you almost pee your pants and most importantly be kind to yourself. You are a phenomenal woman!

Thanks jade. That really means alot. I have always been overweight and i feel like a skinny person trapped in a big persons body. Lol. I hope things pick up soon. I have always been bad to put myself down. Hopefully soon i wont anymore ill be the person i wanna be

No one, absolutely no one, can define your destiny unless - you let them. Fiance, mother, father, sister, brother, boss, best friend, worst enemy - no one has that power unless - you give it to them. They can't demand it, they can't take it, they can't force it. No one can stop you from achieving your goal - except you. Sometimes in the heat of battle we have a tendency to mistake "needs" with "desires" and there is a big difference. You NEED to walk to achieve your goal. You desire a friend to walk with. Big difference. You NEED to stay focused on following the protocol that allowed you to lose 45 pounds. You'd like to have your fiance's support. Big difference. You NEED to eat healthy. You'd like it if everyone around you would eat healthy as well. Big difference.

You have everything you NEED to succeed. Life is meant to be good. You deserve to be happy. Celebrate the great job you've done already. Commit to never again giving anyone the power to control your destiny. There is nothing you cannot be, do, or have! You're gonna love the new you!!

No one' date=' absolutely no one, can define your destiny unless - you let them. Fiance, mother, father, sister, brother, boss, best friend, worst enemy - no one has that power unless - you give it to them. They can't demand it, they can't take it, they can't force it. No one can stop you from achieving your goal - except you. Sometimes in the heat of battle we have a tendency to mistake "needs" with "desires" and there is a big difference. You NEED to walk to achieve your goal. You desire a friend to walk with. Big difference. You NEED to stay focused on following the protocol that allowed you to lose 45 pounds. You'd like to have your fiance's support. Big difference. You NEED to eat healthy. You'd like it if everyone around you would eat healthy as well. Big difference.

You have everything you NEED to succeed. Life is meant to be good. You deserve to be happy. Celebrate the great job you've done already. Commit to never again giving anyone the power to control your destiny. There is nothing you cannot be, do, or have! You're gonna love the new you!![/quote']

Dude, how does anyone follow up after this post? I can't even spout a 1 paragraph Ivan do it masterpiece because you posted a Picasso!

Anyway well said ditto to what he said girl!

No one, absolutely no one, can define your destiny unless - you let them. Fiance, mother, father, sister, brother, boss, best friend, worst enemy - no one has that power unless - you give it to them. They can't demand it, they can't take it, they can't force it. No one can stop you from achieving your goal - except you. Sometimes in the heat of battle we have a tendency to mistake "needs" with "desires" and there is a big difference. You NEED to walk to achieve your goal. You desire a friend to walk with. Big difference. You NEED to stay focused on following the protocol that allowed you to lose 45 pounds. You'd like to have your fiance's support. Big difference. You NEED to eat healthy. You'd like it if everyone around you would eat healthy as well. Big difference.

You have everything you NEED to succeed. Life is meant to be good. You deserve to be happy. Celebrate the great job you've done already. Commit to never again giving anyone the power to control your destiny. There is nothing you cannot be, do, or have! You're gonna love the new you!!

WOW!! Extremely well said.. Great advice!!

Dude, how does anyone follow up after this post? I can't even spout a 1 paragraph Ivan do it masterpiece because you posted a Picasso!

Anyway well said ditto to what he said girl!

LOL! Thanks Dave!

Great advice and so very true!!

Thanks for the advice. I have told everyone. If they dont wanna support me then fine. Ill be a one person army.

Now that's what I'm talking about! Good for you!!

DLC is so right. Consider this a test of your determination. You CAN do this!

Okay guys and gals. I have good news. As i posted earlier i have decided to tell every body to either support me or oh well. I'm pressing on. Me and my fiance have had a long talk about he needs to get healthy and i would appreciate his support but if not thats fine. He decided to help and support me and we are joining a gym on Thursday together. It is not a huge gym mostly weights treadmill stationary bike and elliptical.

No one, absolutely no one, can define your destiny unless - you let them. Fiance, mother, father, sister, brother, boss, best friend, worst enemy - no one has that power unless - you give it to them. They can't demand it, they can't take it, they can't force it. No one can stop you from achieving your goal - except you. Sometimes in the heat of battle we have a tendency to mistake "needs" with "desires" and there is a big difference. You NEED to walk to achieve your goal. You desire a friend to walk with. Big difference. You NEED to stay focused on following the protocol that allowed you to lose 45 pounds. You'd like to have your fiance's support. Big difference. You NEED to eat healthy. You'd like it if everyone around you would eat healthy as well. Big difference.

You have everything you NEED to succeed. Life is meant to be good. You deserve to be happy. Celebrate the great job you've done already. Commit to never again giving anyone the power to control your destiny. There is nothing you cannot be, do, or have! You're gonna love the new you!!

Great advice!! I want you on my team!

Beth, I haven't had surgery yet but I want to say you can do this!! I am glad you both talked!. Good luck and good thoughts goihg out for you!!