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My husband is driving me crazy. He knows what I'm going through, he's been to all my appointments. He has read all my diet information. I have had nothing of any nutritional value for 2 weeks. Even if my stomach isn't physically hungry, my body is starving. All my husband talks about is food. We're on the phone talking about registering our kids for school and he pops in "ooh, can it wait, I'm gonna make me some eggs.... And some cheese toast that looks good." I've asked him several times to stop but he just says "i love you" and blows me off. I literally walked to my moms house. She's had a bypass & understands the need to not have food thrown in my face every time I turn around.

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I can relate. I was on liquids on July 4th.... My husband said to me. "want a rib". Thinking he was being funny.... I'm sorry, that isn't funny to me. I used to love food Network but found it hard to watch these days. I've become a house hunters international junkie now! Lol

Hang in there! You might have to just say to him, look, it's hurtful when you do this.

But to answer your question.... Men are both, asses and stupid!! Lol ;)

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I've told him its hurtful. He still won't get it through his thick skull.

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I'm in the clear liquid stage and all I watch is food Network. Doesn't really make me upset... In a sense it's almost fulfilling my cravings. Now my wife and kids made popcorn and I almost cried...

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The answer to your question is YES !!!!! I'm was lucky where I did not have to be on any diet before surgery. The only time my BF talked about food was when I was doing the colonoscopy prep. I was running to the bathroom every 5 seconds and was hungry as heck and could not eat. He was hungry too and kept on saying all the foods he wanted.. I just kept on saying "shut up" PLEASE !!!!! Men arrrghhhh !!!!

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My husband has this annoying habit lately of saying "You know, you won't be able to have that (whatever I'm eating at the time) after surgery". It's like why does he say that!?! I know I won't be able to have it anymore, why does he have to mention it? I guess he doesn't say it to be mean, he just isn't thinking before he speaks.

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Man thank god my husband and I are going to have to do the same. He too is going to get the bypass. The only difference is I'm on a 3 week liquid only diet and he will be on a 2 week liquid, unlimited fruit and veggies. Sh!t thats a big difference now that I think about it. lol I'm on day 6, and damn proud of myself :)

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My boyfriend, or well ex boyfriend did the same thing, we broke up on Friday after a long fight about him being immature and irresponsible and not being there for me and not being supportive.

Men suck!

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Yes certain men sucks! Including mind.

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I think for me I went into this realizing that truly it's only ME that has to change how I'm eating. It's my journey not my husband's and not my son's. I knew they'd bring stuff into the house that I couldn't eat. Heck after surgery it takes quite a few weeks/months before we can have a full "healthy" menu. I sure do miss crunchy stuff because they were my downfall...and right now...I'm with Wps2, popcorn is a tough one. I love popcorn, must plain popcorn. It's healthy but, it's a no go for me right now and I know it. So when it's being eaten in the house it's difficult and man you can hear every single crunch and I swear the crunch noise is louder. LOL But...I have to remind myself that I chose this path my guys didn't. I guess it does help though that they are also very caring in that, they will ask me if there is something they can do for me or get me often and they make sure I'm ok. They don't think twice about having their popcorn, take out food etc but, they do need to eat. Again I just remind myself that I chose this and I'm doing this for me.....it will benefit them in the long run but, still this choice was for me and my own benefit first. Keep that in mind the next time your spouse or family is eating something you can't. Believe me it's hard certain days...especially if after the popcorn, some other snack is then picked up. Then I start thinking...My God...I used to do that and no wonder why I gained weight and then I'm proud of myself for taking this step. AS much as I'd like them eating healthier too, THEY lift the food to their mouths not me. I don't bring the stuff in so it's their choice. I love em anyway. :) Continue with your own journey, don't let the comments get to you...let it roll because when it's no longer funny to them, its not worth saying. Easier said then done sometimes I know....but you can do it. :) Half this losing weight battle is putting things in perspective for yourself and keeping positive. Let em have the ribs, popcorn, candy.....while you lose weight and get healthy, happy and more fit :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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