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Am in the waiting room of my initial consult with Dr. Marley. Walked in got weighed saw a cabinet with bareatric food supplements, I ha to hold back my tears. Weight 257. BMI. 48

I let myself get to this. Posting on here to try and get it out some I am not a sobbing mess when he comes

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I know how you feel! I was very embarrassed and ashamed of myself. Hang in there!

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You will be fine.

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You shouldn't be sad or ashamed. It happens. Just focus on the fact that you're taking the first step into a healthier lifestyle. Beating yourself up isn't going to change anything. But starting this journey with a goo attitude will.....

Best of luck!!

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Am in the waiting room of my initial consult with Dr. Marley. Walked in got weighed saw a cabinet with bareatric food supplements' date=' I ha to hold back my tears. Weight 257. BMI. 48

I let myself get to this. Posting on here to try and get it out some I am not a sobbing mess when he comes[/quote']

Hi Nish,

We all go through this.. It's the w's. Who, what, when, where, why. When did I gain this much weight. Why couldn't I stop it? Why was I eating? Etc. Most of us are getting this surgery because we have some unsafe connection with food. Yes, I understand the embrassement, which gets worse during the first month post opp. That is also y we r here - ur support group.

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Embarassment implies a sense of choice. Science is discovering that is simply not the case. Take a moment and look at the video link in my post at - http://www.rnytalk.com/topic/1912-a-tough-nut-to-crack/page__fromsearch__1

Fascinating information from a leader in the field of bariatrics. You're gonna love the new you!!

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Thanks everyone.

DL that was a good and informative video to watch

Leb I think it was realization. Yup I'm fat yup I am morbidly obese I can't do it by myself I have to have surgery. It is embarrassment. Shame. Fear. Scared. Then a Realization it wil actually happen. Everything just hit me at once

He is predicting 4 - 6 weeks before I will have surgery depending on how fast everything else gets in. I had blood work right after that, I was able to schedule the psych appoint for tomorrow morning. A scope on Monday to see if I have a hernia So the last piece of the puzzle will be the nutritionist

Emotional day.......

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Maybe this will cheer you up a bit. My starting weight was 260. Surgery day weight 248 (7/2/2012). Today's weight 239! Eleven pounds gone since 7/2! I am on my way....you are too. Hang in there.

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Nish,

Hang In there! I can appreciate the feelings heck I am having them too but remember that not everyone has the metabolism of an Asian monkey! That's not your choice that's just the card that was dealt. Come here and write whenever you need! We are here for you!

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Heck Nish, you're gonna have most of the hard part over in a couple of days!! LOL!!

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Nish' date='

Hang In there! I can appreciate the feelings heck I am having them too but remember that not everyone has the metabolism of an Asian monkey! That's not your choice that's just the card that was dealt. Come here and write whenever you need! We are here for you![/quote']

Lol @ asian monkey

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I'm 5'6 preop weight 338 that's a bmi of 52.5 surgery date 6/11 weight 321.5 what's funny is I left the hospital 336. I don't know how much I weigh today I don't own a scale (nor will I) I go to my 1month follow up Thursday so ill let you know. I am a slow loser, but nonetheless a loser.

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