Yesterday at work I had someone who works in the same building as me, not a co-worker of mine, tell me since I came back to work I look "almost normal now" what an a-hole. I had to go to the restroom and compose myself.

Some people are so ignorant. They just can't comprehend that you are the same person you were before surgery.

Yea there are alot of a$$ holes out there.

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Wow! How ignorant! Don't worry well all go thru it at some point in this process. Stay strong

Yeah some people have no consideration for other peoples feelings and don't realize that their words really have an impact on someone the way they do! I'm so sorry that happened to you! xhugsx

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My god ppl are f ing rude. Ignore them.

Don't waste your energy on negative people like that....ignore them, they are not worth a second of your time!

Thanks all. This guy is someone I have always avoided talking to because frankly, I think he's a total weirdo. It just sort of kept echoing in my head as soon as I grasped what he had said to me.

Work has always been somewhere that I felt valued because of my skills and my personality and a comment like that just cut to the bone.

I think self esteem is something most of us have or had issues with and it's been a problem for me ever since I was a child. Now that my protective layer (my fat) is going away, I feel more vulnerable than ever.

Sounds like a weirdo to me so I wouldn't value his comments much. So check this out...I was at my nephews grad party this weekend and there were people there that I have not seen since Christmas. My brother in law said to me that he could not believe that I had lost 60 pounds...that I must have carried it really well because he really could not tell I had lost it. Whatever fool!!! Here I'm working my ass off (literally!!!) and he does not notice!

How awful and rude. Don't worry he doesn't sound so normal.

You're fat but you can lose weight. That guy is an ass....nothin gonna change that

Sounds like they suffer from diarrhea of the mouth

Peoples comments can be so hurtful. It's really sad they have to make comments like that. I have had my share too. It amazes me how they can say things like that, things I'd never say in a million years.

Just remember, you can't change people's actions or comments, but you can change how you react to them. This person is obviously nothing to you, so don't let them bring you down! You know who you are and really that is all that matters! Let this person be an idiot they will get caught out there one day...KARMA'S a bitch!!

Why is it people who know you have had surgery think that it's totally ok to start their conversations with you or just plain ask how much weight have you lost? I'm much more than my weight loss! Not sure why it bothers me but it does... Only 2 weeks out so not back at work and coworkers etc are texting and asking etc

Sounds like a weirdo to me so I wouldn't value his comments much. So check this out...I was at my nephews grad party this weekend and there were people there that I have not seen since Christmas. My brother in law said to me that he could not believe that I had lost 60 pounds...that I must have carried it really well because he really could not tell I had lost it. Whatever fool!!! Here I'm working my ass off (literally!!!) and he does not notice!

You can't go by what a man says...they can't find there nose in front of there face. They don't notice anything! ( men, don't that that too personal...I'm sure you are not that type of man)

Why is it people who know you have had surgery think that it's totally ok to start their conversations with you or just plain ask how much weight have you lost? I'm much more than my weight loss! Not sure why it bothers me but it does... Only 2 weeks out so not back at work and coworkers etc are texting and asking etc

OMG...that's so rude. It would be nice if they would ask if u r doing ok or if you need anything.