Ellie_Grace

I'm here but my surgery is not until 6/7 but I'm sure I'll need this support a lot as the time get closer and after!

Be patient with yourself and the process. We all went through something like this. Your body just had surgery and has to take a break to heal and adjust to the losses experienced. Each of us do this stall at different times and for different lengths of time and for some of us it happens often. But guaranteed your weight will start dropping again soon and if you are following the rules (i.e. enough Protein, sleeping, eating right, exercising and drinking enough water) there is no way you will not lose this weight. Honestly at your stage it will not stop. I had a major stall in the second month for almost 3 months, that included gaining weight. Heck, I just gained back almost 2 pounds in the last couple days. Am I frustrated yes, but I now know it will start up again and to just keep on plugging away. I even raised my excercise level and still gained. It is what it is and your body is doing what it has to handle all the changes. We did not lose this overnight and it is unrealistic to expect it to happen that quickly (I remember being lectured with that same quote and boy did it annoy me at the time lol), so reevaluate your goals and expectations and stop worrying. You are doing awesome, you have lost a lot of weight already and it will come off and you will love the new you, we promise!!
Three months out from surgery today and have lost halfway to my goal weight even with all the stalls and weight gains I keep experiencing. OH!! measure yourself everywhere and write it down, then every week check those measurements because those change even when you are not losing weight and it is nice to see that progress as well.
best of luck and keep strong it is worth it!!

The same happened for me and I had a few week stall in my second month. It will start coming off, just keep doing what you are doing and you will start losing again. Your body has to adjust to the changes in your body and needs a break. You are also still healing. Do not feel defeated because this is just the beginning and you will start losing again. After the stall I have never totally stopped losing, but I have gained and lost weight. I now average about a 3 pound weight loss a week, which is slower than many but it is consistent and it is working for me. I am now halfway done to my weightloss goal and will be 3 months on the 7th. Just be patient and consistent and it will start moving again. Remember this is a marathon not a race, and the slower the weight comes off the better you have for having less flapping skin- at least that is what I keep telling myself .
Drink enough Water, get enough Protein, get enough sleep, up your exercise and get those Vitamins and there is no way you will not get past this stall.
Best of luck and relax it is all good~
P.S. sometimes when you are in the stall you are losing inches all over, so measure yourself and check that every week as well, you might be amazed, I know it helped me.

Be patient with yourself and the process. We all went through something like this. Your body just had surgery and has to take a break to heal and adjust to the losses experienced. Each of us do this stall at different times and for different lengths of time and for some of us it happens often. But guaranteed your weight will start dropping again soon and if you are following the rules (i.e. enough Protein, sleeping, eating right, exercising and drinking enough water) there is no way you will not lose this weight. Honestly at your stage it will not stop. I had a major stall in the second month for almost 3 months, that included gaining weight. Heck, I just gained back almost 2 pounds in the last couple days. Am I frustrated yes, but I now know it will start up again and to just keep on plugging away. I even raised my excercise level and still gained. It is what it is and your body is doing what it has to handle all the changes. We did not lose this overnight and it is unrealistic to expect it to happen that quickly (I remember being lectured with that same quote and boy did it annoy me at the time lol), so reevaluate your goals and expectations and stop worrying. You are doing awesome, you have lost a lot of weight already and it will come off and you will love the new you, we promise!!
Three months out from surgery today and have lost halfway to my goal weight even with all the stalls and weight gains I keep experiencing. OH!! measure yourself everywhere and write it down, then every week check those measurements because those change even when you are not losing weight and it is nice to see that progress as well.
best of luck and keep strong it is worth it!!

I have to wear professional clothes to work as well. But I can not wear dresses, well would prefer not to since I work with 1300 sex offenders in a locked setting. Anyway, I have had to purchase clothes the whole time as soon as I started to drop. I just hit goodwill and salvation army and other thrift stores. Here on Fridays and Saturdays the clothes are half off. I found a goodwill in the better part of town where the rich folks donate their clothes and I have found pretty much brand new (excellent condition at least) clothes and many brand name clothing. I don't really care about that but it was nice anyway. I bought a weeks worth of pants and a some shirts to go with them, one sweater because they freeze us in our offices and something to wear to church and on saturday. Cost was no more than 60$ and I also have bought a few things in lower sizes as well to have things to wear as I drop and to try on to see how my losing inches is going. Nothing trumps wearing a set of clothing in your correct new size that fits well for making you feel good about yourself and to grab the notice of co-workers LOL. I notice that as soon I got into smaller sizes I stopped wearing the bigger ones because they made me feel frumpy and that is the last thing I want to go back to feeling. If you do not mind thrift store clothes go find a good one in a decent neighborhood (because the thrift store in the other part of town the clothes are not in good condition and I would not buy those and were the same cost since they were both goodwill) and splurge on a new wardrobe for less than 100$
Good luck. send pictures when you get into your new clothes

My mom calls them her bingo flags.
You have to actually picture an old lady yelling BINGO while waving her card in the air. LOL it cracked me up when she demonstrated for me.
Yeah...I guess you had to be there...

Be patient with yourself and the process. We all went through something like this. Your body just had surgery and has to take a break to heal and adjust to the losses experienced. Each of us do this stall at different times and for different lengths of time and for some of us it happens often. But guaranteed your weight will start dropping again soon and if you are following the rules (i.e. enough Protein, sleeping, eating right, exercising and drinking enough water) there is no way you will not lose this weight. Honestly at your stage it will not stop. I had a major stall in the second month for almost 3 months, that included gaining weight. Heck, I just gained back almost 2 pounds in the last couple days. Am I frustrated yes, but I now know it will start up again and to just keep on plugging away. I even raised my excercise level and still gained. It is what it is and your body is doing what it has to handle all the changes. We did not lose this overnight and it is unrealistic to expect it to happen that quickly (I remember being lectured with that same quote and boy did it annoy me at the time lol), so reevaluate your goals and expectations and stop worrying. You are doing awesome, you have lost a lot of weight already and it will come off and you will love the new you, we promise!!
Three months out from surgery today and have lost halfway to my goal weight even with all the stalls and weight gains I keep experiencing. OH!! measure yourself everywhere and write it down, then every week check those measurements because those change even when you are not losing weight and it is nice to see that progress as well.
best of luck and keep strong it is worth it!!

I so wish you hadn't asked that question. But...time to come clean and take my medicine.
Before my surgery, my wife and I and both of our sons often enjoyed eating at a Korean BBQ restaurant not far from the homestead. You guys probably know what I'm talking about. Gas grill in the middle of the table and you cook your own meat right at the table. Tons of options from teriyaki rib eye to chicken to baby octopus. We haven't been there in well over a year and decided that yesterday would be a great time to go back for a visit. My oldest son had other plans but the youngest one, his terrific wife, and the world's cutest grandson joined us.
I am forever mindful of what I eat and how much but hey, it was a holiday right? I'll spare you all of the details but I proceeded to eat about five pieces of sushi, maybe three to four ounces of teriyaki rib eye, and probably three or four ounces of white rice - you know the really sticky white rice that I absolutely love. Now if that wasn't bad enough, this place has one of those big machines that makes the best soft serve vanilla ice cream that I have ever tasted. Anywhere. I just had to have a small cup - maybe two, three ounces at the most.
Now - I'm close to eleven months post-op and have never had what the medical geeks call "early" dumping. About 2/3 of the folks who experience dumping (about half of all RNY patients don't experience any kind of dumping) experience "early" dumping. Early dumping usually occurs within 30 minutes of eating and sometimes results in vomiting. I on the other hand am in the 1/3 of folks who experience "late" dumping. Which usually occurs one to three hours after eating. Late dumping is strongly linked with hypoglycemia which is just a fancy way of saying that your blood sugars crash following consumption of too much sugar - you know, the stuff found in stupid amounts in starches like sticky white rice? And I seem to recall hearing that there's quite a lot of sugar in things like ice cream?
Where was I? Oh yeah, fast forward to roughly two, maybe two and a half hours later and we're all back home enjoying my grandson and watching a little U.S. Open Tennis. I'm hanging out being my usual lovable grandpa self and BAM - cold sweats, everything I have started shaking, major fatigue just kind of swept over me. So I say to my wonderful wife "I'm not feeling so good." And she says to me "You're not looking so good." And I say "I think I better check my blood sugar." So I stand up to go get the test kit and came about as close to passing out as you can get and still be upright. "Honey, I think I'll just sit back down on this here couch and perhaps you would be so kind to grab the test kit for me?"
Are you ready for this? My blood sugar was 39. For those of you who are not present or former diabetics, that's a touch on the low side. Like about 70 or 80 points. Much lower and I'd have been on the floor as opposed to the couch. "Honey, you suppose you could grab me a handful of grapes? Maybe even a piece of chocolate anything if we have any in the house?"
One of the strange things about hypoglycemia is that the recovery from it is one of the more dramatic responses there is. A few grapes and a couple of small squares of year old chocolate and in 30 minutes, other than feeling like I had just run a marathon, I was pretty much back to normal. Well, that and the unshakeable feeling of being a total jerk. Today I'm right back on track. A little older. A little wiser.

The same happened for me and I had a few week stall in my second month. It will start coming off, just keep doing what you are doing and you will start losing again. Your body has to adjust to the changes in your body and needs a break. You are also still healing. Do not feel defeated because this is just the beginning and you will start losing again. After the stall I have never totally stopped losing, but I have gained and lost weight. I now average about a 3 pound weight loss a week, which is slower than many but it is consistent and it is working for me. I am now halfway done to my weightloss goal and will be 3 months on the 7th. Just be patient and consistent and it will start moving again. Remember this is a marathon not a race, and the slower the weight comes off the better you have for having less flapping skin- at least that is what I keep telling myself .
Drink enough Water, get enough Protein, get enough sleep, up your exercise and get those Vitamins and there is no way you will not get past this stall.
Best of luck and relax it is all good~
P.S. sometimes when you are in the stall you are losing inches all over, so measure yourself and check that every week as well, you might be amazed, I know it helped me.

The same happened for me and I had a few week stall in my second month. It will start coming off, just keep doing what you are doing and you will start losing again. Your body has to adjust to the changes in your body and needs a break. You are also still healing. Do not feel defeated because this is just the beginning and you will start losing again. After the stall I have never totally stopped losing, but I have gained and lost weight. I now average about a 3 pound weight loss a week, which is slower than many but it is consistent and it is working for me. I am now halfway done to my weightloss goal and will be 3 months on the 7th. Just be patient and consistent and it will start moving again. Remember this is a marathon not a race, and the slower the weight comes off the better you have for having less flapping skin- at least that is what I keep telling myself .
Drink enough Water, get enough Protein, get enough sleep, up your exercise and get those Vitamins and there is no way you will not get past this stall.
Best of luck and relax it is all good~
P.S. sometimes when you are in the stall you are losing inches all over, so measure yourself and check that every week as well, you might be amazed, I know it helped me.

I have now lost 58 pounds which means I have lost exactly half of my projected goal for weight loss! I will try to post a picture later. To celebrate we are going to mountains to hike down to the crystal caves which is something I have not been able to do in 14 years. The hike down is fairly steep, about a mile, but hiking out is a tough one. About died doing it last time and swore it was my last. So when making goals for after surgery doing this hike was on my list. Now here is hoping I find it easier and I do it with minimal or no whining lol!! I'll take a picture after I complete it to show my first victory post-surgery not weight related!! Yay me!!

I have now lost 58 pounds which means I have lost exactly half of my projected goal for weight loss! I will try to post a picture later. To celebrate we are going to mountains to hike down to the crystal caves which is something I have not been able to do in 14 years. The hike down is fairly steep, about a mile, but hiking out is a tough one. About died doing it last time and swore it was my last. So when making goals for after surgery doing this hike was on my list. Now here is hoping I find it easier and I do it with minimal or no whining lol!! I'll take a picture after I complete it to show my first victory post-surgery not weight related!! Yay me!!

I have now lost 58 pounds which means I have lost exactly half of my projected goal for weight loss! I will try to post a picture later. To celebrate we are going to mountains to hike down to the crystal caves which is something I have not been able to do in 14 years. The hike down is fairly steep, about a mile, but hiking out is a tough one. About died doing it last time and swore it was my last. So when making goals for after surgery doing this hike was on my list. Now here is hoping I find it easier and I do it with minimal or no whining lol!! I'll take a picture after I complete it to show my first victory post-surgery not weight related!! Yay me!!

I could not stand the powder Protein drinks or any drinks for awhile. But someone suggested I add a banana and/or other fruit (I use banana and forzen strawberries which work like ice) and use almond milk or Silk instead of Water and it tastes tons better. Do not get me wrong, they still are not great and someday I can barely gag them down, but before I could not gag them down, so it is am improvement. So I do one shake in the morning (25 G protein since I do only one scoop and 8 oz liquid so less to drink) then I eat protein at every meal and if needed both Snacks. I am almost 3 months out and was able to start increasing my food around 2 months which broke my 3 week stall and being regularly losing since, about 3 pounds a week average.
Just experiment and force yourself gag down the one you can handle the best. I now can tolerate the premixed ones, but they are too expensive to drink except for once in awhile when I am in a hurry in the morning or run out of bananas like today.

Totally, for sure you can tell. How many sizes have you dropped? It looks like at least a couple

I could not stand the powder Protein drinks or any drinks for awhile. But someone suggested I add a banana and/or other fruit (I use banana and forzen strawberries which work like ice) and use almond milk or Silk instead of Water and it tastes tons better. Do not get me wrong, they still are not great and someday I can barely gag them down, but before I could not gag them down, so it is am improvement. So I do one shake in the morning (25 G protein since I do only one scoop and 8 oz liquid so less to drink) then I eat protein at every meal and if needed both Snacks. I am almost 3 months out and was able to start increasing my food around 2 months which broke my 3 week stall and being regularly losing since, about 3 pounds a week average.
Just experiment and force yourself gag down the one you can handle the best. I now can tolerate the premixed ones, but they are too expensive to drink except for once in awhile when I am in a hurry in the morning or run out of bananas like today.

I eat a soft boiled one almost every day

Singing Loudly and very Off Key!!! Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you!! Have a great day!!!!!

I agree with everyone on here. I went through a 3 week stall in my second month and it drove me bonkers and got all the same advice you are getting. One thing I was told was to measure myself with a tape measure. I did that on every measurement I could possibly do and I am grateful I did. Because generally it seems when I am stalled again I am losing inches somewhere on my body. Not just waist or hips but sometimes they stay steady but my bust or arms are losing it. This measuring once a week has helped me to focus on another change not so obvious to see. Also your body has been traumatized and it is not surprising that it needs to take a break every once in awhile. Be patient and as long as you do the plan and stick with it (Protein, Water,Vitamins, enough calories, sleep and exercise) there will be no way at this stage in your process for you not to lose weight.
Best of luck and be patient and loving with yourself you deserve it!! Stop being so critical of you and your progress, dang it, you are awesome!!

I don't think they look bad either - wish I had a friend or family member who was a plastic surgeon.

I was sitting in bed and hit my thighs and was like wow these are hard, hubby laughed and said you got muscles now and pointed out various other places LOL. No boob muscles. Haha but showed me under. Just didn't think I would have them only 3 months into working out.

Like everyone else says, double check to make sure your insurance covers gastric bypass. You are on the right track by attending the seminar and scheduling an initial consult with your surgeon! My surgeon required a lot of pre-op testing, but I don't mind, because the more testing you have, the better your chances are of showcasing how much you need this surgery for your health. Pre-op testing included a psych evaluation, cardiology consult and stress test with EKG, extensive blood work, consult with a gastroenterologist and upper endoscopy, sonogram of the abdomen to rule out gallstones, two sleep studies, pulmonary consult, informational seminar, 2 support groups, and I think that's it. My insurance has required a 6 month supervised weigh-in/diet and I also have on my file a 6 year hisory of weight from my doctor...they don't ask for it, but I thought I'd get it anyway to up my chances of being approved.
The testing is extensive, but worth it. If you get stuck doing a 6 month supervised diet, don't be discouraged. A lot of insurance companies require either a 3 month or 6 month supervised diet to weed out anyone who doesn't have the patience and time to committ to it. Remember, insurance is looking for anyway NOT to pay, so don't give them a reason to!
It's quite a journey, but many have said that patients who have the most success long term are those that have a journey...those that don't get approved in 2 months and then have the surgery. Time really does help to gather information, ready your mind, and your body.
Good luck!

I just quit recently on July 7th in preparation for my surgery some time around December. It was incredibly hard the first few weeks, but I've found that all physical cravings are now gone, so it does get better! Any time I feel like I want a cigarette, I think about how badly I want the surgery, and that helps to stop the craving. At times I know I want a cigarette, but I want the surgery so, so, SO much more...so it's just not worth it.
Think about how much you would regret it if you did have one! Think about how far you've come! Be proud of yourself in your accomlishments and anytime a craving comes, just say to yourself "this too shall pass"...and it certainly will

welcome to the group! Congrats on your sugery date! ok now maybe you can ask some specific questions to answer because there is a lot of info to share and I am guessing you do not need to hear everything, just answers to specific concerns and fears you are having. So if you ask them someone here will be sure to answer them for you... NO question is a stupid or bad question so shoot!

Soda is recommended as something we should never drink again, but others say they have had it. Debate is whether it strectches out pouch and it is empty calories and diet soda is bad for cravings and caffeine is bad for bones. Like everything there are conflicting reports on what one can have and not have. I think what you will and not be able to have will be individualized. So far I can handle anything I have tried except if it has too much sugar (greater than 10 g sugar, stupid greek yogurt got me). But I have not tried fried foods, pizza etc any real unhealthy junk food from before, so who knows how I will react to those. Plus what you react badly to now changes over time. But to stay healthy and maintain weight loss it might be important to consider what you eat and keep junk food, swwets, soda etc to a minimum once you are able to tolerate them again(don't believe in total depravation) a real mimimum.
Just my two cents worth, not worth that much LOL