I am quickly approaching my surgery. It became so real yesterday when I left my options class with labs to complete and a pre op appt. ... im so excited because I have truly taken this time to learn as much as I can about the sleeve and the new life style I will be living. I have always been a fashion diva with style most women appreciate despite my 20 to 18 size frame. I have not always been overweight, something that happened once I had a child and settled down in life. My question is do I tell my family, friends, and co workers? In the past ppl in my life have shown envy and negativity with the slightest glimpse of success. What are some of the things you guys tell ppl if you dont share your decision of surgery? For example my mother and I are close and lord knows I love her but she cant hold water let alone something like me being in the hospital or surgery. My family will want to visit me... any suggestions ???????

I told everybody because I was happy that I wanna do it

I forgot to mention my fiance and I are on this journey together. We hopefully will be getting sleeved a week or two apart. In his case not telling seems much easier because his family lives in the south and do not speak on a everyday basis like I do with my family. What are some of the reasons that you told people you were having surgery for? I can't use gallbladder surgery as an option because I have already really had that surgery.

What if you say you're having hernia repair surgery? Most people do have a repair done in conjunction so maybe it won't even be a lie

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You said Options class, so you're going thru Kaiser? Just wondering where you are having surgery

I would like to say I have been keeping it under wraps, but quite a few ppl know (husband, mom, dad, brother, my teammates and 4 close friends) However, there are some friends and family members that I do not want to tell until after. I am not sure of the reactions I will get from them and it's not their life, and really none if their business. Hubby is coming with, mom dad and brother because they are my immediate family, the 4 friends cause they are helping take care of my kids while we are away, and my teammates because 3 of us are going and will have to take about a month or so off. You don't have to tell anyone anything and you don't have to hide it either. You do what your comfortable with.

I did not tell my best friend is a healer and extremely dedicated to the natural means in medicine. However today I told my hairdresser lol. Today I saw a friend who had not seen me since my surgery on August 5th she said at the top of her lungs and in a surprised voice, "You've lost everything! " She asked me how and I told her I just changed all the habits in my life - - - which is the TRUTH!

You said Options class' date=' so you're going thru Kaiser? Just wondering where you are having surgery [/quote']

Im going to have surgery at WLA Kaiser

I told my healer friend today that I had the sleeve after we spent a good chunk of time hanging out. I brought up the subject up naturally when we were talking about health and food.

I told her I withheld this info from her because I wasn't sure how she would react. Of course, there was that initial silence while she absorbed what I said. She had questions, which I answered. I also shared more about the long year journey. Her response was, 'Well, as long as your have done your research."

All in all, it was sort of a non-issue. People don't care as much about our weight as we ourselves care

about our weight. She was surprised to hear I'd lost 65 pounds from my highest weight and that I used to wear a size 24. A couple of people now have said I carried my heavy weight well.

I told my healer friend today that I had the sleeve after we spent a good chunk of time hanging out. I brought up the subject up naturally when we were talking about health and food.

I told her I withheld this info from her because I wasn't sure how she would react. Of course, there was that initial silence while she absorbed what I said. She had questions, which I answered. I also shared more about the long year journey. Her response was, 'Well, as long as your have done your research."

All in all, it was sort of a non-issue. People don't care as much about our weight as we ourselves care

about our weight. She was surprised to hear I'd lost 65 pounds from my highest weight and that I used to wear a size 24. A couple of people now have said I carried my heavy weight well.

So I have an issue with keeping things to myself... In that I can't lol.

I've always been extremely open and honest with everyone about everything to a fault. I guess I figure if I lead a transparent life then I am completely accountable for my choices.

So most people at work know, and I've kinda hinted around it on my FB page. I guess I didn't come right out and say it because I didn't feel like dealing with all the crap from some people.

I've gotten a mixed bag of reactions. And I really couldn't care less what others think. I'm doing this for me, not for them. My main reason for the surgery and weight loss is because I have spinal arthritis, and I am just too young to not be able to do the things I want to do. So, if they want to be supportive, great, if not... Well I don't see them having to deal with chronic pain :-)

Do whatever makes you happy and if you want to tell someone, go for it. If not, that's your business!

So I have an issue with keeping things to myself... In that I can't lol.

I've always been extremely open and honest with everyone about everything to a fault. I guess I figure if I lead a transparent life then I am completely accountable for my choices.

So most people at work know, and I've kinda hinted around it on my FB page. I guess I didn't come right out and say it because I didn't feel like dealing with all the crap from some people.

I've gotten a mixed bag of reactions. And I really couldn't care less what others think. I'm doing this for me, not for them. My main reason for the surgery and weight loss is because I have spinal arthritis, and I am just too young to not be able to do the things I want to do. So, if they want to be supportive, great, if not... Well I don't see them having to deal with chronic pain :-)

Do whatever makes you happy and if you want to tell someone, go for it. If not, that's your business!

I actually had kind of a happy surprise this weekend. I was debating on telling my best friend as she is a personal trainer and has in the past had strong opinions about these kinds of things. I decided yesterday just to tell her and she was very supportive. She said that she knows better than anyone how hard I've tried over the years and the many different thing I've tried and that if this is what I needed then she would be supportive. She actually said to that she would rather I say it and own it rather than be someone who lies about it and says I did it all through diet and exercise. I'm still going to be a littlie selective about who I tell, but I'd much rather own it, then lie about it and say I'm having my gallbladder removed or something like that