Weird question i know but I feel like it's possible to hate the physical part of being overweight but like some things about being overweight i.e. the eating, being invisible etc. For those that have had the surgery and lost the weight, do you sometimes miss being overweight?

I miss eating, and it can be a challenge and boring to get in all the protein eating only 1 or 2 ounces at a time---BUT I wouldn't change it for the world.....I do not miss being 40+ pounds heavier......everything is better......my health, exercise, energy, you name it.....

I have been fat and thin many times. I think when fat all people see is 'the fat guy'' date=' So I am invisable. At times that is good. But not good enough to stay fat. Anyway now I am old and can use 'the old guy' as cover! :-)[/quote']

I think the reason we feel invisible is because when people see someone fat, it's painful to look at and they look away. That's what I did, even as fat as I was myself. I would look at someone fatter than me, compare myself, then think "there but for the grace of God, go I," and look away.

Now, nearly 60 lbs less, but still overweight, I now look at other fat folks, and I just want to throw my arms around them and say, "honey, you don't have to live like this anymore. There is a solution." 'Course I would probably be arrested for assault, so I don't. But, like any evangelist, I feel like I have found the solution and want to share it with everyone!

NEVER!

Not really, because I'm still overweight. Once I'm not overweight I will definatly not missed being overweight and unhealthy!! This is why we all started our journeys!!

I love hearing from post-op folks. At the pre-op you keep second guessing yourself and wondering if VSG is really necessary. It's different for folks that have never been thin, I mean if I hated being overweight why did i put up with it for us long? I loathe everything about being fat but I do enjoy food. My post-op NSV other than the great things that come with losing weight would be eating to live and not craving food all the time.

I won't miss being overweight (I'm still pre-op), but I'm terrified of being thin. Not terrified as in I need to have my psych eval redone, but terrified as in it's entirely unknown to me. I began putting on the weight in childhood, and I stayed on the overweight side of average until I met my husband. I ballooned to 276 on my wedding day. All of my teen years, dating years, adult experiences, married life, and role as a mom have been done as a non-thin person, and I'm a little freaked out by the unfamiliar. I will not miss the food, I will not miss the aches and pains and illnesses, I will not miss standing out in my community and church and peer group, I will not miss the excuses I feel I must make for myself ("oh, it's baby weight/stress/Thyroiditis/Adrenal Fatigue."). I am very much looking forward to blending in and being a participant in this life. It's just insane that that's an option for me.

I remember loosing weight years ago and getting too much attention. I do think I hid behind my weight, and I remember feeling exposed. This was in my 20's and I went from no attention, to men bugging me... strange men bugging me. Yelling stuff, approaching me and coming on to me. It was unnerving. I was shy back then. People do treat you differently.

A lady I work with went out of state to a family reunion and no one knew she had surgery. She walked up on a group of women, looking for "fat Sherry", where is that "big fat Sherry"? She looked at them and laughed and said... "Fat Sherry now wears a size 3, what about you women"? She told me when I started this journey to expect people to treat you differently. She also said she feels the same on the inside but everyone treats her differently because of her weight... some is good and some is bad.

I think this is part of the reason we are sent to the Shrink... lots to handle.

Ummmmm NO!

Well isn't this timely, I've just been approved for surgery. *crying tears of joy*

NO WAY!!!!!

I remember loosing weight years ago and getting too much attention. I do think I hid behind my weight' date=' and I remember feeling exposed. This was in my 20's and I went from no attention, to men bugging me... strange men bugging me. Yelling stuff, approaching me and coming on to me. It was unnerving. I was shy back then. People do treat you differently. A lady I work with went out of state to a family reunion and no one knew she had surgery. She walked up on a group of women, looking for "fat Sherry", where is that "big fat Sherry"? She looked at them and laughed and said... "Fat Sherry now wears a size 3, what about you women"? She told me when I started this journey to expect people to treat you differently. She also said she feels the same on the inside but everyone treats her differently because of her weight... some is good and some is bad. I think this is part of the reason we are sent to the Shrink... lots to handle.[/quote']

Perfectly phrased. I lost weight in the 90s and got enough attention that I was stressed and uncomfortable. My PCP even told me to quit losing because I wasn't a young girl anymore (I was under 40). Now at age 56 I think I handle it better and wanted to be thin and healthy more than enough to put myself out there and stop hiding. I don't miss it.

I imagine if you are a person that likes being extra large (like a friend of mine) you would not have this surgery...

Oh, and as far as being "invisible" when your fat?

I felt that way too. But it's just not true! I stuck out like a sore thumb! Really when I got back into a more normal weight I felt more "anonymous" when out and about..

I think what I mean is while "obviously seen" whilst fat, the ONLY thing they see is the fat... and nothing else. That's the "invisable" I mean...

I wouldn't say I miss it since I'm still 245. But I went out to a fancy dinner with husband at a steak house. I kinda missed the salad, steak, bread, etc. I love salads but I can't get one when we are out. But that's the only thing I miss.

I miss eating a big plate full lol

I miss eating a big plate full lol

Yup in my current state I feel like this is something I might miss.