Approved for Surgery & No one to tell

[Sofficial 162]

I know

I only told my husband and children also. People argue all the time about "secrets" and "Shame". It has nothing to do with that. The bottom line is, it's nobody's damn business! I don't live my life as an open book so why would i disclose personal medical issues? Also, I don't care to hear people's opinions because most would say I didn't need it...I say walk in my shoes before judging! Believe me, most people I know who freely tell about their weight loss surgery are surrounded by people who claim to be happy for them, yet trash talk them behind their backs!

I'm very excited about the surgery so I tell people all the time and take time to explain why its so important for me to have this, and I've been getting pretty good feedback. But today I told my neighbor while we were having small talk and she really pissed me off with all of her negativity. She started telling me that she lost 100lbs on her own by cutting out beef and pork and how her mom had it done in 96' and she's still real heavy. She was really drilling me!!!! Like it was her sole mission to convince me to not have the surgery. I mean what does me having this done have to do with you!! At that point I told myself I'm done with telling anymore people, I don't have time for the negativity. And I also think one of my best friends is secretly not wanting me to have the sleeve because she's afraid of me getting all of the attention when we go places (now she's getting all of it) and I'm fine with that because getting a lot of attention is one the things that I know I'm going to dread. Back when I was smaller and in shape I used to HATE it when men constantly hit on me. I know it sounds crazy but I am actually enjoying being looked over and ignored LOL, now I have freedom to do things without some man constantly staring and gawking at me. Now I'm getting way off topic, but yes sometimes I believe that other people's negative thoughts can block good things from happening to you. I mean I don't follow that theory to a T, but sometimes I feel its true.

[MsK1972 112]

Jashante thanks for sharing, I completely agree w/you. That's why I'm keeping this to myself, ain't nobody got time FA DAT!! Lol ! I'm excited and ready to get started on my new lifestyle.

[nadoue 158]

Well let me just say after 2 years, only my healthcare staff knows about it. My lips are sealed. And I meant I didn't tell a soul, not my bf, no sis no one. Yeah they cared for me at the hospital for my gallbladder story! No. Regret and living the life

[MsK1972 112]

Nadoue

Thanks....I needed to hear that because I actually told them about the removal of the cyst which is serious and added a little more drama to compensate for how sensitive my belly will be...But in no way am I telling ANY of them about the Sleeve....nope, I don't need the negativity. But I was feeling guilty at first...my mom may be flying in to support me and I started feeling guilty for not telling the ENTIRE tale...but you know what, its nobody's business....its just not. i am so glad i have this site...it really is a huge support system..

[nadoue 158]

Nadoue

Thanks....I needed to hear that because I actually told them about the removal of the cyst which is serious and added a little more drama to compensate for how sensitive my belly will be...But in no way am I telling ANY of them about the Sleeve....nope' date=' I don't need the negativity. But I was feeling guilty at first...my mom may be flying in to support me and I started feeling guilty for not telling the ENTIRE tale...but you know what, its nobody's business....its just not. i am so glad i have this site...it really is a huge support system..[/quote']

You will be fine, my family flew from Florida to take care of me and I keep it a secret. No guilt no shame. It's my business and I don't see how it is important to tell

[LipstickLady 25,682]

A large gnarly mass was found on my liver during surgery so they removed it. So, did I have two surgeries? I think?

[MsK1972 112]

You did Lipsticklady...Lol! You just weren't expecting to, I guess it's good that I already know. Ps. I hope all is well and the mass was benign!