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Yeah....you got me all hot and bothered.

LOL! You mean all hot & buttered!

Oh no, we might be unwittingly luring in Pokeychic!

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Oh no put the gravy away!! And staying with the thread I think I've still got a long way to go before I get 'checked' out by anyone.. I'm on the journey though! ????

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Damn did I say that with my out loud voice?

Butter, it's ALL out loud now!

But none of that for you, you're doing fantastic & inches away from your TT (of which I am massively jealous, I might add)!!

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Ok this may sound a bit self centered but I wasn't chubby my whole life so its nothing new here. I use to have fan clubs before I got married and popped out 3 beautiful kids. For me is more giving myself the attention I deserve.

Its funny what a pretty girl can talk a guy into doing lol.

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Ok this may sound a bit self centered but I wasn't chubby my whole life so its nothing new here. I use to have fan clubs before I got married and popped out 3 beautiful kids. For me is more giving myself the attention I deserve.

Its funny what a pretty girl can talk a guy into doing lol.

Damn! fan clubs??

Lol! I like a girl with a healthy self esteem! :P

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Damn! fan clubs??

Lol! I like a girl with a healthy self esteem! :P

Lol I try ;)

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I used to be hot when I was young. Of course I didn't appreciate it then. I got a lot of attention, then that tapered off when I started gaining weight in my early 20s. I think the last time I was hit on was when I was 21 (15 years ago). So I really don't know how to handle it anymore. Not to say that I'm hot now - nope, don't think that's gonna happen! But I just got back from Florida on vacation and I was hit on in a bar. It was so odd! I think if I hadn't been drinking quite a bit, I would have stammered and blushed. But I just thanked him for the compliment and told him I'm married. He was really nice about it and didn't go any further. It would annoy me if someone was pushy or touchy - I'm not sure how I would handle that.

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Well buplee

Now that I'm officially hot....... I....

Oh **** :P who am I kidding! hot I'm not! :D

But should I get there? Well I will lap it up like a hungry kitty!! :D

Oh wait that's not right either....

Ummm.... when some men look or talk to me now I can feel the difference for sure.

I just walk on by like I don't care (because I don't)

I'm married.

:)

I imagine I would do the same. Not only am I married, but they wouldn't have thought to talk to me before so screw them when I look good.

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What bothers me most is how overweight men and women get treated in the corporate world. I have noticed that thin, good-looking people don't have to produce a good work product to get noticed and promoted. People automatically think thin, good-looking people are smart, energetic, and have it all together and fat people are stupid, lazy and incompetent! There is definitely weight discrimination - too bad that's not a protected class! Ha/ha

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What bothers me most is how overweight men and women get treated in the corporate world. I have noticed that thin' date=' good-looking people don't have to produce a good work product to get noticed and promoted. People automatically think thin, good-looking people are smart, energetic, and have it all together and fat people are stupid, lazy and incompetent! There is definitely weight discrimination - too bad that's not a protected class! Ha/ha[/quote']

I have to agree with this. I'm at a management level, and I had to do MUCH more to get here than some of my peers (and in fact was promoted by someone from another, less weight-conscious culture) but now that I have lost 50 lbs I've noticed that I'm getting some different responsibilities and recognition. It's frustrating that how one looks matters to that extent. My abilities haven't changed, just my pant size!

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def notice more attention and flirtation. i was single for almost a year after surgery. i dated more then usual but there are still the same amount of frogs out there. i found love with a very caring and loving man who supports me so much.

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My former manager who was very overweight before losing 160lbs via wls experienced this while on an interview. The interviewer drew a big circle with arms and told him that his weight would keep him from being hired by him. The SVP told insulted him and said he could not never be taken seriously in management at his company. Which by the way was a Fortune 50 financial firm. My former boss sued and settled the case for $50K. That was a very expensive mistake by the interviewer, who had to go through sensitivity trainer as a condition of the settlement . I wonder how often that happens and goes unreported?

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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