Ok Ladies (and men too!) I need some advice, opinions, etc. Although validation from friends & co-workers is nice, it kinda makes me uncomfortable. What I'd really like to hear is some feedback from my hubby, but after losing 33 lbs he hasn't said a word! No 'you look good' or 'I can tell you've lost weight' . Nuthin'. Nada. He's never been big on the compliments to begin with, but c'mon! I'm 6 lbs away from Onderland, and I haven't been there in 15 years! We've been married for 19 years, and he is supportive of everything I do, every crazy diet, fast, exercise program, whatever. BUT, he just never SAYS anything!

It's getting kind of frustrating, I want a little validation from the one person who knows me best and from whom I am not self-conscious about getting feedback. I'm starting to feel like maybe my loss isn't even noticeable. Maybe I have to lose waaaaay more before it can be seen. But other people have commented, so I don't know. Very confusing.

Any suggestions?

My hubs didn't start saying things to me until we were out with some friends and they were telling me how great I looked. I think he needed to see that I *liked* hearing these comments. Now he says stuff all the time to me. Thank goodness it's all GOOD stuff... not like "Wow, your butt sure is saggy." LOL Well, it IS saggy, but he knows I don't want to hear that.

Boys! Honestly, I've come home with my hair cut short and a very different colour and neither my hubby nor teen son noticed - even the dog was looking at me funny!

Try asking "Can you see anything different about me?" and twirl around. If nothing else it will make him sweat...

My hubby would be just as likely to respond with "oh that, well you've had that surgery so what did you expect?", as if that makes it not worth commenting on.

Of course if you are getting into shape and he's not, he may be feeling pressure to do something himself. Or fearful a more complementary Prince Charming will take you away.

It may also be emotional. He's been on the roller coaster with you all these years and wants to be supportive by actually not saying anything.

My boyfriend is just the same..until I bought a new pair of Tanga Panties and a new bra..he wasn't allowed to get into them until he told me how i looked

Just a suggestion! It gets the point across and you get something sexy out of it!

LMAO! I LOVE this!!

It may also be emotional. He's been on the roller coaster with you all these years and wants to be supportive by actually not saying anything.

Good point, didn't think of that...