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I am truly sorry for anyone ive offended on this site. I feel like everyone hates me now. I speak my mind only to be criticized when someone disagrees with me. I really dont want attention (a few people have said this) I just want to be involved. I moved away from all my childhood friends and matured away from all my college friends so I have like no friends in the real world. I just want to be accepted. I am.crying writing this because I can't stand that people dont like me. I am truly sorry if I have offended anyone. This is not a call for attention but a heartfelt apology. I want to start new with anyone who has a grudge against me.

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There are like four people (women) on this site that...kinda annoy me. Anytime you say something different or offer a different opinion they jump down your throat. I read that whole previous thread with the "evil doctor". And I agreed with everything you said, so to be honest in my opinion you need not apologize for saying how you feel.

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I have no problem with people disagreeing with me. In my opinion, debate and discussion is how one learns and I am always open to that.

That said, I do have a problem with people who play victim and go into girly dramatics where none is necessary if someone disagrees back. The whole goose and gander thing, you know?

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I just want everyone to like me its a flaw I have. I really didn't mean to say anything to offend anyone. I said something when I first joined that offended a lot of people because they still bring it up. I was afraid of being self conscious after surgery because I think a lot of people look better in their before pics. It was just a personal prference and I really didnt mean for it to offend anyone. I'm just sorry.

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Everyone is entitled to their opinion and be able to say what they want. No need to apologize! Some responses to your stuff were completely uncalled for. You were lashed out against just for giving your views/experiences, which is ridiculous. Everyone has different experiences/insight/advice on things, which is why this a SUPPORT site, not a BASHING site.

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I have no problem with people disagreeing with me. In my opinion' date=' debate and discussion is how one learns and I am always open to that.

That said, I do have a problem with people who play victim and go into girly dramatics where none is necessary if someone disagrees back. The whole goose and gander thing, you know?

;)[/quote']

This is why I want to start over. I am sorry if I ever offended you. I have been very emotional and am seeing a therapist for my newly acquired self esteem issues.

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I am truly sorry for anyone ive offended on this site. I feel like everyone hates me now. I speak my mind only to be criticized when someone disagrees with me. I really dont want attention (a few people have said this) I just want to be involved. I moved away from all my childhood friends and matured away from all my college friends so I have like no friends in the real world. I just want to be accepted. I am.crying writing this because I can't stand that people dont like me. I am truly sorry if I have offended anyone. This is not a call for attention but a heartfelt apology. I want to start new with anyone who has a grudge against me.

Don't let others get you down. Speak your mind. If we don't agree or do agree this site is to exchange thoughts.

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There are like four people (women) on this site that...kinda annoy me. Anytime you say something different or offer a different opinion they jump down your throat. I read that whole previous thread with the "evil doctor". And I agreed with everything you said' date=' so to be honest in my opinion you need not apologize for saying how you feel.[/quote']

I agree.

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LipstickLady    25,682

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This is why I want to start over. I am sorry if I ever offended you. I have been very emotional and am seeing a therapist for my newly acquired self esteem issues.

You haven't offended me and you don't need to apologize to me. I've said it before and I will say it again, I do think that you are overly sensitive and it boggles me how ruffled your feathers get when someone disagrees with you even though you put yourself right in the middle of a debate. It's your right to do so, of course, this is a public message board, but what's that saying about the heat and the kitchen?

I will say that it twisted me a bit when I commented on something you said and then you went back and edited your comment. I would consider that a poor attempt to make me look bad, but I really don't care enough for it to matter. I do appreciate that you were honest about it, though.

I sincerely hope your counselor is able to help you! I mean that.

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kw2walker    211

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Everyone is entitled to their opinion and be able to say what they want. No need to apologize! Some responses to your stuff were completely uncalled for. You were lashed out against just for giving your views/experiences' date=' which is ridiculous. Everyone has different experiences/insight/advice on things, which is why this a SUPPORT site, not a BASHING site.

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I agree, we can have opinions, and at times agree to disagree.

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luckysmomma    407

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We all have a chance to start over each & every second of our lives, if we choose to. I am not certain what posts & threads you are referring to above because I only click on posts that catch my attention or are of interest to me, but - in my opinion - you shouldn't apologize for feeling whatever it is you are feeling. Life is tough. WLS is really tough. These online sites can be really, really tough. People can be mean, intentionally & unintentionally. My advice - learn the screen names of those who are negative to you on here - then, when you see a post by them...scroll on past their comments on whatever thread you are on. That's what I do - it makes my time on this site much more enjoyable & helpful. As far as being out & about - I hear what you are saying about friends & things - make new friends, go out, join a book club, join a bowling league, take a dance class, etc etc...Best of luck to you.

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You haven't offended me and you don't need to apologize to me. I've said it before and I will say it again' date=' I do think that you are overly sensitive and it boggles me how ruffled your feathers get when someone disagrees with you even though you put yourself right in the middle of a debate. It's your right to do so, of course, this is a public message board, but what's that saying about the heat and the kitchen?

I will say that it twisted me a bit when I commented on something you said and then you went back and edited your comment. I would consider that a poor attempt to make me look bad, but I really don't care enough for it to matter. I do appreciate that you were honest about it, though.

I sincerely hope your counselor is able to help you! I mean that.[/quote']

I edited it before anyone commented back...I meant to write it right away but I accidently pressed send

Edit: it wasnt maliciously done. When u asked if I edited it I wasnt sure which one u were talking about

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I am truly sorry for anyone ive offended on this site. I feel like everyone hates me now. I speak my mind only to be criticized when someone disagrees with me. I really dont want attention (a few people have said this) I just want to be involved. I moved away from all my childhood friends and matured away from all my college friends so I have like no friends in the real world. I just want to be accepted. I am.crying writing this because I can't stand that people dont like me. I am truly sorry if I have offended anyone. This is not a call for attention but a heartfelt apology. I want to start new with anyone who has a grudge against me.

For what it's worth, I don't hate you, I have no issue with you, and you don't owe me any apology.

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I edited it before anyone commented back...I meant to write it right away but I accidently pressed send

That's odd. It wasn't edited until AFTER my comment posted. But whatever... It's truly not worth another thought. I consider it a learning opportunity. If I am replying to something you said, I will be sure to quote it just to cover myself. ;)

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I agree' date=' we can have opinions, and at times agree to disagree.[/quote']

EXACTLY!!!

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