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I'm into my 7th month and pretty much in the same boat. I lost 65 lbs, stalled for a month, dropped 7 more lbs and have stalled for about 6 weeks. I'm not really dieting very strictly anymore, just making better choices and trying to be somewhat normal.

I still have 20-30 lbs to go.

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I still have about 85 more to go. I just get so confused. I don't know if i should be watching calories and carbs? Protein and sugars? I don't know what to do.

Me neither. It is frustrating. My thin friends eat and drink a lot more than I do. I mean a lot.

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I didn't lose anything for 2 months. (9-11) I thought I was done and went out and bought new clothes. Then I started losing again so now my clothes look too big. You definitely need to change things up. Try a different kind of exercise every couple of weeks. I also upped my carbs for a week, good carbs, fruits and veggies, and then went back on just Liquid Protein for 3 days. That worked almost every time I would stall out. Keep your body guessing but make sure you're getting enough Protein and calories to keep from going into starvation mode. Remember as you lose and become more active, your body's needs change. So you have to make adjustments.

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So if watching carbs and limit myself to 20 grams a day' date=' does that mean no bananas and fresh fruit? [/quote']

I'm not familiar with a star crunch Shelly, but I'll bet you could eat A LOT of fruit for the same carbs and calories as just one of those. Look for a book called Eat This Not That! It is very enlightening. Check with your doctor, but I believe it's 20-30 g of good carbs per meal, not per day. The average recommended amount is < 130 g per day to maintain a healthy weight. Less if you want to lose weight. (Livestrong.com) good luck!

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I am going to be totally honest here because i hope others would be with me.

Do you see a dietician??? Can you call yours? Were you given a pamphlet on the diet to follow throughout the process? I still look at mine as a reminder. It doesn't say count your carbs or sugars. It says 1200 calories, 60-80 gm Protein, eat Protein first. Follow a balanced diet. Make healthy choices.

I say call your dr or nutritionist, look back at any pamphlets or meal plans you were told to follow, just kind of do a refresher. Track what you eat. You will be surprised!

Also, FYI, little Debbie stars are 300 calories EACH...definitely find something else to satisfy your sweet tooth... Otherwise, sounds like you are eating way more calories than you should be.

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So if watching carbs and limit myself to 20 grams a day, does that mean no bananas and fresh fruit?

Unfortunately, yes. Fruit has a lot of carbs. I also enjoy fruit very much, and it is a essential part of a healthy diet. I am adding carbs back this week (but still watching them), since (in my humble opinion) going severely low carb is not sustainable. I only did it for 2 weeks in order to jumpstart my weightloss and break a stall.

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I still have about 85 more to go. I just get so confused. I don't know if i should be watching calories and carbs? Protein and sugars? I don't know what to do.

I can understand that it can be confusing but this is the part where you go to your surgeon, nut, and pcp and ask for help. This is one of the reasons why a lot of insurances have strict guidelines in order to approve for surgery, they want people to know what they are getting into and they want to make sure that you'll be prepared afterwards.. It's good to educate yourself, do research and ask questions never be afraid because that's what we are here for.

Step one. Most Important part is Protein and Water.

60-80 grams of protein per day

64 oz of Water per day ( most docs say its okay to count coffee, tea, Protein shakes, etc win the 64 oz)

Protein you can get from food, Protein Bars, or shakes.

Some shakes have too much sugar so keep and eye in that.

Step two. Calories up up up carbs low low low

We need the calories to burn fat and lose the weight depending on what your nut/ doc say and how much you want to lose. I aim for 900-1200 per day. If you don't eat calories your body will go into starvation mode and you will not lose weight.

Carbs like Pasta, rice and bread are not good. They will fill you up and make you bloated because it makes you retain water and not give you nutrition. Some carbs can be good like yams and plantains. Google it.

Step three. Sugar

It's hard to avoid sugar when watching everything else a good way to avoid it is to buy sugar free everything and using Splenda when you want to add sugar to something.

fruit has a lot of sugar so try to limit yourself to at least the fruits with least sugar. Don't know what they are? Thank God for Google!!! Lol

Step four. Measurements

Buy measuring cups. (Tsp-1 cup)

Buy a bottle that holds a large amount of water like: 32 oz---- if you buy a Poland spring water it will say 32 Fl Oz

Step five. Plan ahead

Plan what your going to eat in advance especially if you have to work or are going out.

Grab a calendar or and itinerary and write down what you plan to eat for the whole week for Breakfast lunch and dinner and include Snacks in between each.

This way you you've already calculated the Proteins and calories for each day and you don't have to worry about it.

Step six. Exercise

Choose what makes you happy. I LOVE to dance. Dancing is a workout so I'm starting dance classes in may.

Incorporate walking into your life. Park the car far from stores, go window shopping at the mall, walk the dog or catch up with a friend or loved one while walking.

Step seven. Change it up

Routines are boring. Planning ahead will help change up the recipe everyday.

This includes exercise. Ex: Monday salsa class, Tuesday 30-45 minute walk, Wednesday break, Thursday pop in a workout DVD or look for videos on YouTube , Friday swimming, Saturday break, Sunday boxing.

Step eight. Enjoy

Don't go crazy. (Which you will the first few days) but then it will be natural. Don't deprive yourself but at the same time makes smart decisions.

My bf ordered take out. It smelled so good. Went straight for a peace of broccoli chewed it and divorced it well and swallowed didn't look at the rice at all.

Step nine. Keep track

Track your food intake. there are apps like myfitmesspal.com not to mention FREE where you can login in everything you eat and drink. again, Google Is your best friend. Use it as a tool.

Step ten. The scale is still not your friend

Step away from your scale. Hide it if possible. Weigh yourself only once every 2 weeks or once a month. You have not lost a pound in a few week but have you taken your measurements. Because you are losing inches. Notice your bra strap slipping down your arm and your fave pants .... You need a belt now.

The most essential part of weight loss are the non scale victories. I crossed my legs, went up five flights without getting tired, bumped into my ex. Wore a dress I haven't worn in 3 years, did have a heart track while tying my shoes laces.

Overall have fun and don't think about it too much. I'm not a doctor or a nut. I'm not here to judge you I am here like everyone ewe to get help and answer others. This all came from a sleeved just like you. Good luck and I wish you the best.

Sleepers best food.... What you should have on your grocery list

Cottage cheese

Skim milk

Soy milk

Greek yogurt

Shredded cheese

Cheese (American, Munster, Swiss, etc)

Cheese sticks

sugar free Popsicles

Granola

Jello

chicken

eggs

Yogurt

oatmeal

Nuts

Peanut Butter

tuna

Salmon

Shrimp

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Please anyone who has good advice add on to this

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I forgot to add that eating every to hours might help with stalls and remember rules are meant to be broken. As long as your smart about your choices you'll be fine

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I am going to be totally honest here because i hope others would be with me.

Do you see a dietician??? Can you call yours? Were you given a pamphlet on the diet to follow throughout the process? I still look at mine as a reminder. It doesn't say count your carbs or sugars. It says 1200 calories, 60-80 gm Protein, eat Protein first. Follow a balanced diet. Make healthy choices.

I say call your dr or nutritionist, look back at any pamphlets or meal plans you were told to follow, just kind of do a refresher. Track what you eat. You will be surprised!

Also, FYI, little Debbie stars are 300 calories EACH...definitely find something else to satisfy your sweet tooth... Otherwise, sounds like you are eating way more calories than you should be.

1,200 calories a day for maintenance is not idea for everyone. Very thin people eat more than that. If you wanted to maintain at a low weight on your BMI range, then 1,200 would make sense, but otherwise, no way. That may be your surgeon or NUT's plan for you, but the recommendations from our medical services are all over the place.

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I was in your same boat... At seven months I to stalled for about a month and a half. I had started working out and I was still eating good, my carbs had upped a bit not all at once but a few at a time. I decided to go back to the basics ten days ago I started with "divas boot camp" (you can search it on this site) 5 strict days of lean Protein, chicken, seafood, nuts including pb, Protein Shakes. Only green veggies, no fruits, lots of water/ fluids, no sugar or extra carbs. It was so difficult the first two days, I didn't realize how bad the carb beast had got me. After that I got that great nasty taste in my mouth that comes from ketosis, then in the last ten days I've lost nine pounds. Its amazing how when we get back on track we can get moving again. I drink the pure protein shakes, and the premium shakes. I only have one a day. I eat alot of shrimp, the peel and eat kind I like them cold, cheese, cottage cheese, chicken, lettuce, salads with balsamic vinegar for dressing, avocados, nuts and drink tons. I'm not ever really craving anything since that first couple of days. It works, you can do it... We can do it!

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I can understand that it can be confusing but this is the part where you go to your surgeon' date=' nut, and pcp and ask for help. This is one of the reasons why a lot of insurances have strict guidelines in order to approve for surgery, they want people to know what they are getting into and they want to make sure that you'll be prepared afterwards.. It's good to educate yourself, do research and ask questions never be afraid because that's what we are here for.

Step one. Most Important part is Protein and Water.

60-80 grams of Protein per day

64 oz of Water per day ( most docs say its okay to count coffee, tea, protein shakes, etc win the 64 oz)

Protein you can get from food, Protein Bars, or shakes.< /p>

Some shakes have too much sugar so keep and eye in that.

Step two. Calories up up up carbs low low low

We need the calories to burn fat and lose the weight depending on what your nut/ doc say and how much you want to lose. I aim for 900-1200 per day. If you don't eat calories your body will go into starvation mode and you will not lose weight.

Carbs like Pasta, rice and bread are not good. They will fill you up and make you bloated because it makes you retain water and not give you nutrition. Some carbs can be good like yams and plantains. Google it.

Step three. Sugar

It's hard to avoid sugar when watching everything else a good way to avoid it is to buy sugar free everything and using Splenda when you want to add sugar to something.

fruit has a lot of sugar so try to limit yourself to at least the fruits with least sugar. Don't know what they are? Thank God for Google!!! Lol

Step four. Measurements

Buy measuring cups. (Tsp-1 cup)

Buy a bottle that holds a large amount of water like: 32 oz---- if you buy a Poland spring water it will say 32 Fl Oz

Step five. Plan ahead

Plan what your going to eat in advance especially if you have to work or are going out.

Grab a calendar or and itinerary and write down what you plan to eat for the whole week for Breakfast lunch and dinner and include Snacks in between each.

This way you you've already calculated the Proteins and calories for each day and you don't have to worry about it.

Step six. Exercise

Choose what makes you happy. I LOVE to dance. Dancing is a workout so I'm starting dance classes in may.

Incorporate walking into your life. Park the car far from stores, go window shopping at the mall, walk the dog or catch up with a friend or loved one while walking.

Step seven. Change it up

Routines are boring. Planning ahead will help change up the recipe everyday.

This includes exercise. Ex: Monday salsa class, Tuesday 30-45 minute walk, Wednesday break, Thursday pop in a workout DVD or look for videos on YouTube , Friday swimming, Saturday break, Sunday boxing.

Step eight. Enjoy

Don't go crazy. (Which you will the first few days) but then it will be natural. Don't deprive yourself but at the same time makes smart decisions.

My bf ordered take out. It smelled so good. Went straight for a peace of broccoli chewed it and divorced it well and swallowed didn't look at the rice at all.

Step nine. Keep track

Track your food intake. there are apps like myfitmesspal.com not to mention FREE where you can login in everything you eat and drink. again, Google Is your best friend. Use it as a tool.

Step ten. The scale is still not your friend

Step away from your scale. Hide it if possible. Weigh yourself only once every 2 weeks or once a month. You have not lost a pound in a few week but have you taken your measurements. Because you are losing inches. Notice your bra strap slipping down your arm and your fave pants .... You need a belt now.

The most essential part of weight loss are the non scale victories. I crossed my legs, went up five flights without getting tired, bumped into my ex. Wore a dress I haven't worn in 3 years, did have a heart track while tying my shoes laces.

Overall have fun and don't think about it too much. I'm not a doctor or a nut. I'm not here to judge you I am here like everyone ewe to get help and answer others. This all came from a sleeved just like you. Good luck and I wish you the best.

Sleepers best food.... What you should have on your grocery list

Cottage cheese

Skim milk

Soy milk

Greek yogurt

Shredded cheese

Cheese (American, Munster, Swiss, etc)

Cheese sticks

sugar free Popsicles

Granola

Jello

chicken

eggs

Yogurt

oatmeal

Nuts

Peanut Butter

tuna

Salmon

Shrimp

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Thank you!!! This is great feedback for me. And you are not preachy...helpful. Made me remember some things I need to put back on place because life does get in the way and I have to get things on the fly. I am about 80lbs from my goal as well and more committed than ever...even with my faults...and stalls!

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So if watching carbs and limit myself to 20 grams a day' date=' does that mean no bananas and fresh fruit? [/quote']

It means no fruit, after 2 weeks you can increase your carbs to 30-40.

Also Premier Protein shakes have low carb.

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