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Ive lost my drive has anyone else? I'm 11months out and have been like this for four months now!!any suggestions?

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Try watching porn, always gets me going

VSG Date: 2/13/13 SW:285lbs HW:302 5'3 current weight as of 4/16/13: 239!!! yay me :)

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I haven't thought about that, I don't know if I should watch it w him or by myself then grab him I don't want to make him feel inadequate

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I haven't thought about that' date=' I don't know if I should watch it w him or by myself then grab him I don't want to make him feel inadequate[/quote']

I am too embarrassed to watch it with him but he loves it when I do. I usually watch it by myself and then get him. Try stalking sexy to him and you might get turned on back with what he says to you.

VSG Date: 2/13/13 SW:285lbs HW:302 5'3 current weight as of 4/16/13: 239!!! yay me :)

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When you lose weight - it wreaks havoc on all your hormones and your emotions. Pamper yourself and treat your self like you are the sexiest goddess on earth. And do that everyday. It is very much mental and hormonal. Once you are stable for a while with your weight it should even out for you. And while I am not a prude--- porn may backfire for you. It did for me. I actually became less interested in sex-- because my body didn't look like the hot girls on the video. But please note --this is only my opinion and I don't mean to offend anybody on this site. The way I word things sometimes doesn't always come out right. Good luck.

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We are all certainly GODDESSES here! Sorry guys, it's about us right now.... LOL Great suggestion and to also check out that skinny person in the mirrow tooooo! There's your evidence.....Stop the old negative ticker tape that has been running through your head for the many past years......Time for a new look at yourself! You can do this! :) Keep us posted.....

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While I haven't cracked it open yet, I have 50 Shades of Gray. Try reading it. I don't know how I'd find the time to read right now but I have the book, just in case! ;) My friend from Australia sent me the trilogy since I hadn't bought them yet & everyone was talking about them. Imagine my surprise when I opened a box which arrived from her & there were the books! I have kids & one is a teenager! So I hid them in my laundry room (since they never step foot in there! LOL!) So in other words, thanks for the reminder! Hehe...

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They make ebooks for ur smartphone. I read the first 50 shades on there before I got a nook.

I recommend going down to the used book store or library & get yourself something saucy that appeals to you.

Maybe 50' isn't your thing? Maybe you like something softer?

Also I got an audible.com account & get audiobooks bc I can't read on elliptical ( makes me carsick) it really helped me free up the time to go to gym & still have my " book time"

allons-y

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As our bodies are changing, I think we need to fall in love with ourselves. I would recommend lots of time to ourselves to explore and discover our new bodies

Hot bathes, soothing candles, sexy music, smooth lotions. Use the time to reconnect with yourself.

Sexy is as sexy does! Enjoy ladies :)

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Same.

I kinda don't wanna find it. Oh that's a terrible thing to say, I know.

I'm working on it tho.

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I've had a major increase of sex drive myself! Loving every minute of it!

VSG Date: 2/13/13 SW:285lbs HW:302 5'3 current weight as of 4/16/13: 239!!! yay me :)

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Yay Nicole!!

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Thanks everyone for your advice and support and I did read 50 shades Mabel I should start reading it again to get my motor running!!

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Ugh im 12 weeks out and im just so not in the mood like ever i have to really focus and pay attention to my fiance to even become remotely intrested just too tired from working out all the time having a two year old and just not being comfortable with my new self yet after 68 pound loss.

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I'm pre-op and praying I get my mojo back by losing weight. It has been absent for 8 years and I am only 35. I have PCOS. I had a total hysterectomy three years ago due to cancer and I was hopeful that the extra estrogen my ovaries had been pumping out was the cause, but things haven't changed even though I'm not having any other hormonal side effects. Abdominal fat produces estrogen too so I'm hoping that as it goes down I might find my sex drive under there.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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