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For what it is worth, I would recommend going to the support group even if you are the only guy. I think my Saturday support group there are 2-3 guys and the rest women. Ok with me. I enjoy getting their perspective. We are on the same journey even though the room is filled with banders, sleevers and RNYers. There is a lot of good information shared by other WLS folks and, in my case, by the NUT and guest speakers. Sometimes to make a friend in this group setting dominated by women you have to be a friend. Take the first step...

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Tell me about it........I think they were more there for the social gathering rather than any gastric surgery support. Every now and then one would walk up to me cautiously, like I was an alien and ask me if I was alright.......as if I was lost or something........I won't be going back either.

I know right? It's weird, some of them acted like I was not supposed to be there. Or they would huddle around a table and I sat by myself. It was really just weird. I tried to start a conversation, and they were friendly enough, but they seemed to only want to talk about anything but the surgery or wl or the reason that we were there. I pulled out my phone and started reading emails etc. Until it was time to go.

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For what it is worth, I would recommend going to the support group even if you are the only guy. I thinking my Saturday support group there are 2-3 guys and the rest women. Ok with me. I enjoy getting their perspective. We are on the same journey even though the room is filled with banders, sleevers and RNYers. There is a lot of good information shared by other WLS folks and, in my case, by the NUT and guest speakers. Sometimes to make a friend in this group setting dominated by women you have to be a friend. Take the first step...

Fiddleman the original thread killer!

Yep :)

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Fiddleman the original thread killer!

You guys ganging up on me? I am going to go sit in the corner and pout.

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Reading this thread was hilarious! You all made my morning!!!! VST and Support Groups do seem to be ran by the women....although having a lot of women around is NEVER a bad thing....LOL.....When you think about it.....it may be because a lot of times men don't want to admit that they need support....eh hem....of course not us men on VST though. =) LOL

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Reading this thread was hilarious! You all made my morning!!!! VST and Support Groups do seem to be ran by the women....although having a lot of women around is NEVER a bad thing....LOL.....When you think about it.....it may be because a lot of times men don't want to admit that they need support....eh hem....of course not us men on VST though. =) LOL

Lol agree made my morning

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As a woman, I AGREE about the support groups! The ones I attended were crazy and useless. This lady was whining because her cat wanted a treat, and why should the cat have a treat and not her. Are you kidding me?

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As a woman' date=' I AGREE about the support groups! The ones I attended were crazy and useless. This lady was whining because her cat wanted a treat, and why should the cat have a treat and not her. Are you kidding me?[/quote']

Did she end up eating the cat? Or the cat treats?

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I ran away as fast as I could....will never know how the story ends and got a lil cardio in :) ha!

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Sorry guys, you are stuck with some of us poking around in here. The 'man cave' is just more entertaining.

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Sorry guys, you are stuck with some of us poking around in here. The 'man cave' is just more entertaining.

In every aspect of every mans life, the more women around the merrier.

Support groups...ah support groups. I understand people have complications and issues, but I've never been one to sit down and listen to them and not be able to speak my mind. I was a peer mediator and later on a school counselor and I figured I'd get booted from that position real quick, but instead everyone wanted to come to me because they always got it straight, no BS instead of someone just saying "I see, how does that make you feel?" (sadface) I do want to at least give one a shot, and I'm positive I will soon, just trying to prepare myself mentally, and prepare my tongue for the teeth marks I may leave.

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My doctor's support group is 95 percent woman, and a lot of the time I am the only

guy. While at first I found this intimidating it has been an extremely positive experience. It has changed me for the better, I have learned to talk about things I never thought I could, or even things I didn't understand or have awareness of.

I spent my first 50 years not talking to anybody about anything and that got me to 511 pounds.

The doctor worked on the physical part, the head and heart need similar work.

I didn't get to 511 lbs. buy just physical things (like I like the taste potato chips)

My whole life needs surgery not just my stomach.

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Well, my doc's support group has another meeting next Thursday and I'm not gonna miss it. I heard they are gonna be selling a.... very cute little white chiffon blouse number....... Oh my! .. can you believe it.......Everyone knows you can't wear white after Labor Day!!.......But I just have to see it! Toodles.....

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Well' date=' my doc's support group has another meeting next Thursday and I'm not gonna miss it. I heard they are gonna be selling a.... very cute little white chiffon blouse number....... Oh my! .. can you believe it.......Everyone knows you can't wear white after Labor Day!!.......But I just have to see it! Toodles.....[/quote']

Ha!

When you put it that way, I wouldn't want to go either! :P

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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