I Just wondering if anyone else had this issue or if anyone has any ideas. Here it goes. I have lost 90 lbs, weigh 160 and am a size 9-10. I have met my original goal of 160 and have since decided I would be happiest at 150 or size 8. My DH is starting to complain (as nicely as he can) that I am getting bony, should stop losing weight, does not want me to get any smaller, ect…. He has even expressed this to my sister. Now I know a lot of you will say that as long as im happy, that’s all that matters, but the truth is, I want him to think im hot and my fear is, if I lose more, he will think (oh God, I never thought I would say this) that I am too skinny. After 15 years of being married and being overweight for 900% of that time, it’s very important to me that he is attracted to me. I mean really, besides the health issues of being overweight, a big driver of my decision to get the band was so that I could see what it feels like to be sexy again (for both my DH and myself). The dilemma is, how can I make him happy and be happy with myself. I can’t help but think that I didn’t pay 16K to weigh 160 lbs which is over the healthy BMI for my 5 ft. 4” frame, although I am totally happy with the success so far, I think I could stand to lose a few, but deep down, I want my sweetie to be attracted to me. So now, I really just don’t know what to do. Any advise???

Ok so maybe I'm going to get off the subject a little but I HATE when an obese person loses weight and then everyone around starts whispering I think she's too thin, she doesn't look healthy too me, oh she looks awful! It drives me insane!!!! My very good friend had gastric bypass and went from 278 to 145-150 (she weighs herself everyday and keeps herself in that 5lbs range) - Other "friends" are all saying things about her losing too much weight. I tell her everytime I see her she looks beautiful! And when someone tells me they think she's lost too much and doesn't look healthy I say ask her to show you her before picture - she looks alot healthier now then she did then. She is one who has a long thin face and with the fat she still had a pretty face. Now without the fat you can see her cheekbones and jawline - I don't think she looks unhealthy I think she looks beautiful.

Ok so that was just a rant - sorry.

As for hubby - well I have to tell you my DH will be saying the same thing. About 5 years ago I lost weight and got down to 180 (I'm 5'2" and weighed 103 on our wedding day 27 years ago) and he told me he liked me losing but don't lose too much (while he's holding the cheeks of my butt in his hands) Contrary to belief, not all men go for the slender look, some enjoy the cush and curves -