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Oh yes. How I can relate to you!! I have thought of how much I miss my best friend/worst enemy ... food. I have missed those favorite food binges. Many times I'll think if how I'd love to eat a bunch of this and that like I used to do. Yes, it gave me a weird sense of joy and happiness. It just shows how emotionally connected I was to food and still am, really. Thank God for the opportunity to get sleeved to help me with this obsession. I guess FOOD really was my CRACK.

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I completely agree that you should visit these people anyway. As food addicts, we are way more conscious of and judgmental about our eating than other people. You can always order tea or juice as an alternative and say you ate a big breakfast/lunch but still wanted to enjoy their company. When it comes to Easter, you can say you cancelled your trip but had a bit of an upset stomach the day before and aren't ready to eat again yet. DON'T isolate yourself! Let others love and enjoy you in person :) <3

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I am sad because...everything I enjoyed about my life (and I don't have alot to enjoy in the first place) is gone...a friend asked me to go to dinner last night - I had to say no! A guy has asked me to go to lunch and dinner this week - again, two more no's. My dad just called - he has made my fav homemade veggie Soup - I can't even go up to see him because I can't eat it! Another no! Another friend wanted to go to the mall yesterday. I had to say no. How could I go & explain I was just drinking Water? My brother asked me what I was fixing for annual Easter dinner - I said I am going out of town instead (which is a lie).....I am beyond sad. Good or bad, food played a major role in my life. And what little life I was living is gone...I am beyond sad....

I am only 2 weeks out, but I am beginning to fear this will be the biggest regret of my life...

Sweetie, I really think you should tell at least one person. Think of you you would most trust not to judge you for making your decision to be sleeved. Like you, I had planned to tell no one but sort wound up having to tell my sister due to some family events that would be coming up. Although we really do not talk about it much, it is nice to know that there is at least one person who knows. And, God forbid, I had complications,she'd know to tell any doctors in case I was unable. You sound so sad. This is an adjustment for sure. I agree with what many people have said, once you really begin to noticed those pounds melting off and you start to notice a difference in how your clothes fit, I think (and hope) that you will feel better emotionally.

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Lucky,

I agree with what Kristina said to you. You are still in the healing phase of this process. I am only 6 months out but it seems like way more than that- I too, thought my life was over when everyone went to Whataburger after a sporting event and I had NOTHING! I went to the bathroom and cried! Who does that? A food addict! This is only a short period of time. Today in fact we had softball practice and the team went to eat after and I could have eaten anything I wanted. If I ordered a big burger or something fried I would have felt sick later tonight, so I ordered a grilled chicken salad, and not because I was on some stupid "diet of the month" but because that was really what I wanted. I ate a couple or few of my husbands fries and I am totally full and happy. I promise you did not make a mistake! Give it some time- you are going to feel so good. BTW I was a size 22 during. My Whataburger fit 6 months ago and today I am a size 12. You can do this!! Focus on what is really portent to you! You will feel better than normal again!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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