Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Do you ever..



Recommended Posts

Not recognize yourself? This may sound paranoid and honestly at the time it was, but here it is. I was shopping and kept noticing this person's reflection in windows and the occasional mirror out of the corner of my eye. And finally I thought myself..well I have had enough of this follow me so I whipped around and guess who was there..the reflection of myself . So I had been all freaked out because apparently I was following myself ..didn't even recognized own image...weird I know..but now when people don't recognize I get it. So remember..if you think someone is following you, just turn around it probably is your own shadow! LoL

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm still surprised when I sit in a chair and there is space on either side of my butt. Like, "Wow, they're finally smarting up and making chairs bigger!" duhhh

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh yeah, that happens all the time when I do a side glance at my reflection....I sometimes have to stop and look...that's really me...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

After almost a year at goal, I am still surprised to see my reflection at a distance. Up close, I'm used to the new me, but put 12-15 feet or more between me and the reflection and I'm still like: who's that? My clothes also still look too small when I look at them.

Lynda

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This happened to me when I was walking down my hallway. I have to admit I loved my body. :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I spent a few months in the phase where I didn't recognize myself, and was constantly surprised at my shadow, my pictures, or how small my clothes looked.

Then, I hit a point where the new me seemed "normal", and all those old pictures of me seemed surreal, and I would wonder who that girl was...

Today, I look at myself in the mirror and actually have the tendency to feel "fat" or "unattractive". Even though I hit a normal BMI several months ago and have maintained that weight between 5 pounds up or down, I'm constantly terrified that I will slip up and gain it back. I don't want to go back to that old me that I no longer recognize, but I still have difficulties accepting the current me.

It's so odd to feel like a stranger in my own body!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Not recognize yourself? This may sound paranoid and honestly at the time it was' date=' but here it is. I was shopping and kept noticing this person's reflection in windows and the occasional mirror out of the corner of my eye. And finally I thought myself..well I have had enough of this follow me so I whipped around and guess who was there..the reflection of myself . So I had been all freaked out because apparently I was following myself ..didn't even recognized own image...weird I know..but now when people don't recognize I get it. So remember..if you think someone is following you, just turn around it probably is your own shadow! LoL[/quote']

Yes! Yes! And yes!! lol

I still can't believe it's me.

I had given up all hope before my surgery and now I'm trying to grasp that I've done it.

It's crazy see our selves in the mirror.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What makes me smile' date=' is when people you know don't reconize you![/quote']

My best friend since childhood passed me in the aisle at the grocery store and never took a second glance lol I just kept going and told her later. We both laughed. She isn't use to the new me either, she only would recognize the old me at a chance encounter

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I spent a few months in the phase where I didn't recognize myself, and was constantly surprised at my shadow, my pictures, or how small my clothes looked.

Then, I hit a point where the new me seemed "normal", and all those old pictures of me seemed surreal, and I would wonder who that girl was...

Today, I look at myself in the mirror and actually have the tendency to feel "fat" or "unattractive". Even though I hit a normal BMI several months ago and have maintained that weight between 5 pounds up or down, I'm constantly terrified that I will slip up and gain it back. I don't want to go back to that old me that I no longer recognize, but I still have difficulties accepting the current me.

It's so odd to feel like a stranger in my own body!

This is more me too! I look at old pictures of myself and can hardly believe that it is me. But I am also having a hard time accepting this new body. I have a lot of loose skin, especially on my stomach, and it really bothers me and makes me feel as though I am still fat. And I have a really hard time accepting people who comment about how small I am ( I had someone who did not know me before comment about how tiny I am and that I must work out all the time to keep my figure!). I have literally live my entire life being big, so my brain just can not seem to accept the image in the mirror as most days I feel so big. I kept a pair of my biggest pants, so on days that I am feeling down, I will grab them and put them on to real see how far I have come. It helps!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have side by side pictures hung up where i see it daily - the current me and the former me. Whenever I feel discouraged about being imperfect (excess skin!) I look at those photos and it reminds me that I AM perfect...hahaha What I really mean is that I look great and to stop picking on myself!

I think it is so important to develop a certain love, acceptance, comfortableness with the new body... imperfections and all. Normal healthy women do that and i aspire to join that club.

I do plan to have that Tummy Tuck etc but I am working hard on loving me just the way I am too which is a little bit of a head trip. Like most of you, i too have sometimes struggled with recognizing me too!

I carried alot of weight in not just my abs but my whole upper body. Built like a female linebacker i guess. Anyway, I don't look like that now and of all the things that confuses my little brain is my shoulders/upper body profile... I look feminine and not like a guy. Several months ago a friend pointed out that I need to stick that chest out and throw those shoulders back.... she was right I was hunching up trying to be smaller in the shoulders. Now, I feel like I am a normal, but athletic build looking woman. I love my "broad" shoulders and display my shoulders and upper chest proudly as an asset not the part to hide.

Anyway, it is quite the journey isn't it!?!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It has freaked me out whenever I haven't seen a good friend in a while and they don't recognize me! Otherwise, YES I still have issues with seeing that as me in the mirror. I still see the fat me. I picked up a very tiny dress this weekend (I never wore dresses before... hello thigh rub anyone????) but I did it on purpose. I looked at that dress and told my hubs, this dress is so tiny. I used to always tell my hubs that I was built like a defensive lineman (broad shoulders kept me out of being a brides maid before - I just was too big to fit the dress). So I totally understand!!!

But guess what? This past weekend I said wow this dress is so tiny - It cannot fit. Not on me! And it did, like a glove. What the ....?

It is QUITE a journey.

Oh btw, I bought three dresses that weekend. One with beading at the shoulders, sleeveless, a cut out back and a slinky front. Now where in hades do I think I'm going IDK! LOL You only live once that I know of for sure... now it's up to hubs to figure out a good weekend/where to wear that dress!

Yes QUITE the journey!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I spent a few months in the phase where I didn't recognize myself, and was constantly surprised at my shadow, my pictures, or how small my clothes looked.

Then, I hit a point where the new me seemed "normal", and all those old pictures of me seemed surreal, and I would wonder who that girl was...

Today, I look at myself in the mirror and actually have the tendency to feel "fat" or "unattractive". Even though I hit a normal BMI several months ago and have maintained that weight between 5 pounds up or down, I'm constantly terrified that I will slip up and gain it back. I don't want to go back to that old me that I no longer recognize, but I still have difficulties accepting the current me.

It's so odd to feel like a stranger in my own body!

Puja... I worry about "what if I gain all my weight back"... but the dr. that leads my WLS group, I told him that fear. Wanna hear a great point? Yes I have lost and gained. Yes it's always come back before. But never did I have a sleeve. This time it IS different.

Remember that y'all! (and forgive yourself if you slip. make it minor and get right back 'on the wagon'.... just don't allow it to be a complete collapse or a relapse... or so i pray to have the strength to avoid those!)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am still not used to seeing the "new" me when I look in the mirror.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×