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Paul,

Last night my sister brought a bright red wig to my moms house and said that I would never have the guts to wear it in public.I promptly wore it to visit my mom in hospital.People had his very funny reaction,looking,looking away and then smiling cautiously...lol

I then realized that I miss the attention I got while losing weight.But I was super uncomfortable with it then and became quite shy at some point.My life long dream was to just blend in with the masses.not stand out because I was tall,blonde or very overweight.

But after taking off the wig,I felt a bit "boring" and uninteresting.hehehe.The wig wasnt the "right" attention though.Now I have decided to start running again.Do races,something that I can feel fab about again.Something that I can achieve again.

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This is a great post. I think I'm in the waning months...not all the way there yet. The comments are getting more annoying that inspiring now. I don't even hear any compliments anymore, just "how did you do it?" I've never been shy about telling people about my surgery, but I'm sick of it now. I just want to be me, not the former 400 pounder that lost all that weight.

I've taken on new challenges to keep me motivated. Running mainly, I've got a 10K this weekend and a half marathon in April. Maybe someday a full marathon. I'm enjoying training for those, not worried about the weight loss anymore....but those around me are still kinda buzzing about it all the time. Not a day goes by that someone doesn't ask me for weight loss tips....or worse yet....tell me that "Monday" they are gonna start a new diet. UUGGGHH. I really don't care. I doubt their diets are going to work anyway.

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I remain highly motivated and i guess since i am now looking into plastics I consider myself still on the journey even though i am told I am "at goal" by my docs.

Here is the weird part. I get so much attention still. I like it, but it also can be overwhelming. I have a high visibility job and work with people from around the globe. Some of them I only see "in person" every few years so I still see people who are shocked at the transformation. For the most part I feel their loving support. Sometimes I feel... investigated like a bug under a microscope.

I have decided to embrace this because like I said before it is pretty hard to hide losing 150#. I have gained and lost and gained before but i was always basically "Fat" so it was a matter of degree. Now, I am trim and that is new and different. People do not recognize me and when they do they are in a state of shock. What none of us knew is that under that fat I was kinda pretty.... so I stand out now and that never happened before.

Sometimes i feel that the men in particular interest is a bit much. Like, you were a mere aquaintenance before and now just because i am trim doesn't give you a license to be forward with me. I guess i am still working that one out.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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