I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Manatee, your looking sharp there. Keep up the good work!

JC

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JC

Kristi, wow, you look amazing. Totally different. Manatee... you look great!!! Keep it up. I am sure you will be able to start deal with dating soon...

I am not ready to post my pics yet. I have ugly duckling syndrome....

Yvonne

Kristi girl you look GREAT!!! My band was covered by insurance so I didn't have to pay but $1,000 ($500 fee for program and $500 co-pay for hospital).

Manatee I think you're handsome, and you look great! I don't know what you're worried about. I'd be happy to be set up on a blind date with you!

Denise sorry to hear about that bad PB. I haven't had one that's lasted for hours. That can't be fun.

Congrats Derby girl on dropping a couple pounds this week! :Banane20: I went up one. :car:

Yvonne, no ugly ducks here on this thread! We're all swans!

I am new to this site and not really sure about all of the lingo. Pardon my ignorance, but what does PB mean?

No problem Shelb. PB = productive burp. I'm not sure why it's called that because it's not really a burp. For me, it's more like throwing up. If something gets stuck or if you eat too much, it's not going down it's coming up. It can be rather uncomfortable and sometimes you body produces foam to help the food work it's way up and out. That's my best explanation.

Well, I don't think I am going to do the timed 5K, I have to finish in 45 minutes, so I may just do the fun run, and if I finish I will be happy!! Thanks everyone for the compliments. Its fun to show off the body I haven't had since HS. LOL.

Manatee, you look so cute, you SO should be going out now!

Derbygirl, congrats on the few pounds! It seems so slow sometimes, but it will happen.

PigsR, Those nasty breakups are sometimes the bane of existence, but, you are on your way toward a better tomorrow. We all are. It will get better, and you will look back and think "what did I even SEE in him?"

Denise, Do you feel like you are restricted enough or too much? Maybe you are so restricted, (like I think I am right now) that you are getting so few calories your metabolism has slowed down. I know you have been saying that you have not been losing for months now. There has got to be something up with that

Well, if I forgot anyone, I apoligize in advance. I will be back later gators

Kristi

Shelb, How did you slip so soon? Was it doc error, or what? So sorry you had to be redone so soon!

Oh oh so sorry it was SHLEB.

Kristi

I just wanted another post under my name.

Manatee, You look great!

Pigs R, You sound just like me. My BF and I broke up

2 1/2 years ago,and I still think about him everyday.

I am hoping that if I lose enough weight, I won't care

whether or not I have a man in my life. I will feel better

about myself, and that's the best goal!

Hi KristiB-

I'm not sure why my band slipped, but it wasn't anyone's fault. My stomach is weird apparently and the back side herniated up into my pouch and that caused the band to slip. It wasn't a pleasant experience, so I'm on the watch for other issues that may arise, although I'm hoping that none will.

Shelbie

Wow, Manatee and Kristi! You both look AWESOME!

I have some good news... I just finished my 6-week trainer program and lost 12 pounds and 11 inches!!! woohoo! I feel good...

and this time, I am GOING to keep it up! I want these pounds GONE.

My first boy (wasn't ever actually a boyfriend...) lasted my entire 1st year of college and when it ended HORRIBLY, I thought about him for at least 2 years and still talk to him every once and a while. Only now, I am past the pain, and only have friend feelings for him. More like nostaglia for a time in my life when I was going through massive changes. Five years later, and we talk maybe once every 3 months or so, but its not romantic at all... just old friends, and I like it that way!

So Matt and I are still going strong. I find it really REALLY hard to depend on someone else when I've been so independent for so long. It's really nice to have someone to hold me, but at the same time, I value my alone time. Every night I stay over, I think I become more attached, which is what I'm the most scared of. The more I allow myself to fall, the harder the landing will be if or when it ends. I have no idea what will happen to us when I leave for NYC on Sunday... all I know is, what I've had, what we've shared has been so good. This is by far the easiest relationship I've had, and the most comfortable I've been with someone ever. I hate waiting to find out if it is going to work out! Knowing the future would prevent so much un-necessary pain!

Denise, I know it's hard to let go of someone that has meant so much to you, but you have the right idea to love yourself first! If you learn to appreciate how wonderful you and how beautiful you are inside and OUT, someone else will find it easier to really get to know you and love you as well! Just stay strong and be selfish enough to help yourself first.

peace, everyone!

So Matt and I are still going strong. I find it really REALLY hard to depend on someone else when I've been so independent for so long. It's really nice to have someone to hold me, but at the same time, I value my alone time. Every night I stay over, I think I become more attached, which is what I'm the most scared of. The more I allow myself to fall, the harder the landing will be if or when it ends. I have no idea what will happen to us when I leave for NYC on Sunday... all I know is, what I've had, what we've shared has been so good. This is by far the easiest relationship I've had, and the most comfortable I've been with someone ever. I hate waiting to find out if it is going to work out! Knowing the future would prevent so much un-necessary pain!

Yeah it sucks that there's always a huge risk with a relationship. But how you ever gonna know if u don't go for it? Wish you lots of good luck with it. Don't worry too much about losing your independence with this guy. If he really loves ya he'll give you some space that you need. Sounds like your happy

Good luck

Di

Well I have an old flame sort of come back into my life. Known him for like 3 years. Never met him though and this time I believe thats going to happen. Just too damn curious not to find out. Hopefully this time he's grown up a bit. We'll see...but he's sooo a hot..heheh

So much for waiting for my fitness goals till I date again..LOL..well at least this one knows exactly what I'm all about so I don't have to worry he's not gonna like me for me. Although he's said the "don't loose too much weight" line..hmm..anyone else gotten this one before? He says he likes his women with some meat on their bones..well I don't think I'll ever be a barbie doll..LOL.

Lol Dibaby about the "don't lose too much weight.."

I heard that SO many times, and it kinda pisses me off- it's my body after all lol....

whatever- I would love to be a barbie doll, but I know that will never happen, so I'll stick to slightly curvy.

I told Matt I was losing weight and he was good enough to say, "I don't what to say about that.." he had enough sense to not make it a big deal. I just told him to be supportive and he said he could do that.

I guess that taking risks is what relationships are about, and probably why I never let myself get into one before.

Give the old flame another chance- like you said, you'll never know if you don't take risks- just don't let him walk all over you or anything. and if you wait for your fitness goals before you date, you'll always be waiting... fitness is now a constant in our lives. We'll always struggle with weight and fitness issues- sorry to say it- but it's just the truth. All we can do is take control of it. Good luck!!!

I have had a couple people tell me that I have lost too much weight. It really bothers me when I hear that. I'm not sure why, I guess it's because I feel they are saying it to be nice and not because it is a fact.

My $%#^ %^&* weight is starting to creep back-up and my surgery is not for a couple more weeks.

JC