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I am going through this surgery alone. The couple family members I have live out of state and no is able to be here with me. I didn't want to postpone the surgery. I have purchased all my liquid foods' date=' Vitamins and Protein for a 3 week supply and placed everything by my bed. I am a little nervous as it seems everyone I know who had the surgery had someone with them. I recently moved out of state with my job and haven't met any friends here. I hope I am not putting myself at risk. I work from home so at least I don't have to worry about work and I can rest. Any advice or pointers to help me?[/quote']

Praying all goes well with your surgery if you were in Alabama we could do this thing together best of luck to u

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Thanks Nursegrace, I do have a ride home but just no one to be at the house with me. Great idea I do have a recliner and a chaise lounge and now that I think about it that maybe a good place at times. I find myself sleeping on one of them and not in my bed many of nights lol

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WOW Popsicle your story sounds like mine! It is times like these that I realize how alone I am in life. I did call a couple sitting agency and wasn't to successful with just arranging 24 hour care. Not sure if it was just my bad luck, I even tried a site called Care.com. I have the resources to pay someone. It was last minute notice I received the approval on the Jan 11 & insurance company required surgery on Jan 28. Everyone is aware I am having surgery.

You may have to confide in one or two of the people that know your having the surgery and ask if they would just be willing to call you everyday, see how you are making out. Being alone going through this surgery is certainly not the preferred method, but for some of us - it is what it is. I have had a very trying time personally, but I have been able to manage on my own - except the one time I had to get the endoscopy done and then God did for me what I couldn't do for myself, when I got a ride there and back. I don't know where you live, but if you were in Wash/MD area, I would give you a ride myself. I guess I just know how it feels in situations like this. They do have location specific forum's on this site, so maybe you can post in one in your local area to see if someone has any suggestions to offer. PS. Don't overbuy at the store, half the crap I bought I had to throw out, stick to the basics as outlined by your physician. I think you will be fine doing most things without assistance. Most of the 1st week you'll be sleeping more than anything else - at least I did, cause the pain meds really leveled me out. We are both new here so Good luck and I hope we can keep each other up to date on our progress. It will be fine.

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Tennessee,Alabama and Arkansas all home aloners! Too bad we aren't closer and we could pool our money and fwt a hotel on the coast and hire a nurse to serve us Protein Drinks from the balcony overlooking the white sands and sea! A girl can dream, right?

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Tennessee' date='Alabama and Arkansas all home aloners! Too bad we aren't closer and we could pool our money and fwt a hotel on the coast and hire a nurse to serve us Protein drinks from the balcony overlooking the white sands and sea! A girl can dream, right?[/quote']

Oh I love that idea!!

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I had a friend take me to the hospital and home again. I don't think you need to worry about being able to get around... they make you get up and walk a lot in the hospital! And walking is the best thing for you too.

I live alone and I was glad that I didn't have to be around other people eating at first.

I think you will be just fine!! :)

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I am not worried other than all the stuff you have to do every hour ...my mama will be part of the day to be here when I shower and help get my drinks and meds organize things, and of course, here me whine! LOL

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Thanks everyone. I had my surgery this morning I am in good spirits and mental strong. I been to move around, walked around my room and going to the restroom without much assistance. I'm comfortable and feeling well. I was able to get a private room which I love. The staff knew I was alone and the nurses have gone out of their way to make sure I don't feel alone. This forum has helped me and I'm glad I found it. Thanks again!!!

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Went to Mexico by myself!

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Thanks everyone. I had my surgery this morning I am in good spirits and mental strong. I been to move around' date=' walked around my room and going to the restroom without much assistance. I'm comfortable and feeling well. I was able to get a private room which I love. The staff knew I was alone and the nurses have gone out of their way to make sure I don't feel alone. This forum has helped me and I'm glad I found it. Thanks again!!![/quote']

Yay! You're in my thoughts and prayers!

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Thanks everyone. I had my surgery this morning I am in good spirits and mental strong. I been to move around, walked around my room and going to the restroom without much assistance. I'm comfortable and feeling well. I was able to get a private room which I love. The staff knew I was alone and the nurses have gone out of their way to make sure I don't feel alone. This forum has helped me and I'm glad I found it. Thanks again!!!

Glad everything went well. Keep us posted. I had a good day myself. Still struggling to get fluids/protein, but I actually was able to eat an egg (with a little pureed shrimp & cheese) for Breakfast. Little vomiting but most stayed. I had a whole Lean Cuisine meal and no problems. They say it gets better so I hope this is a sign of good things to come.

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Someone post surgery should ALWAYS have contact with someone able to check in with you a few times a day once you are released from hospital. Even if it's via phone only.. Anything could happen that warrants urgent assistance

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