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Hi guys,

It's been a really rough week for me and nobody really understands but the people who've gone through it/are about to, so I thought I'd make my first post here.

Getting sleeve done on 1/16, EGD for hernia the day prior.

Today was day 2 of my pre-surgery liquid diet. I wanted to kill everybody today. My husband couldn't do anything right, my coworkers, etc. I began to doubt my decision.

My husband ate fried burritos in front of me tonight, my coworkers ate Breakfast burritos in front of me this morning. I know people shouldn't have to tip toe around me but I felt it was a little insensitive.

I'm worried about how much it will hurt, I'm worried I might die, have a leak, make the wrong decision.

I would just like to hear some words of encouragement, lol!

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I've screamed at a few loves ones. I have a roommate who baked Cookies the other night and that made me cry. He still doesn't think it was insensitive. Im getting sleeved on Monday. I've had issues with family members who don't support me. This is OUR time. We always (well me anyways) take care of everyone else first. I wouldn't have the weight if I took care of myself first. I'm keeping my eye on the prize.

~Sabrina

The pre- op is definitely the hardest!! Just remember it gets much easier from this point forward!

I am so empathetic! I think everything you are feeling is normal.

Here are my words of encouragement - none of that makes a difference when all your friends start calling you hottie. :)

Also, you are focused on the near term issues ( pain which frankly isn't that bad) and risk of leaks or dying (could happen but MOST people recover just fine even if they had a complication). The real challenge of this journey is the one you are going through - the head/mental/emotional side and that part of the rollercoaster goes on for quite awhile.

My advice through all of this - keep your eye on the prize. Learn what you need to learn to ensure you will make your personal goals. Be kind to yourself and realize that you won't be perfect but that doesn't mean you have to fail. You may have ups and downs, but when going through the rough Patches just remember how important this is - to get to a healthy weight where you can fully live your life.

Hi guys' date='

It's been a really rough week for me and nobody really understands but the people who've gone through it/are about to, so I thought I'd make my first post here.

Getting sleeve done on 1/16, EGD for hernia the day prior.

Today was day 2 of my pre-surgery liquid diet. I wanted to kill everybody today. My husband couldn't do anything right, my coworkers, etc. I began to doubt my decision.

My husband ate fried burritos in front of me tonight, my coworkers ate breakfast burritos in front of me this morning. I know people shouldn't have to tip toe around me but I felt it was a little insensitive.

I'm worried about how much it will hurt, I'm worried I might die, have a leak, make the wrong decision.

I would just like to hear some words of encouragement, lol![/quote']

It's hard when people don't understand the decision you have made and what it takes to get there. But know this is your decision to take the journey to a healthier you! I remember the days prior I could of ate tree bark I was so hungry but it past and the day of surgery came and I was so ready! It's been 15 months now and the best decision I've made for my self! I went from a size 30/32 to a 18/20 at this time. I have a goal of 60 more lbs and have lost a total of 135 lbs.

I have family and co workers now asking me how they can eat better and I see them making changes too. So it will all work out in the end when you and they see the changes you mad for a healthier YOU! Hang in there and hope I get to hear how you did after 15 months!

The first few days of the Pre op diet were awful. I have surgery on 1-16 as well and started the pre op on 1/1/13. 2 protein shakes per day and a small meal of meat and veggies at night. The hardest part is the lack of carbs and the brain hunger that I feel. It will get better but you have to go through the withdrawl from sugar and carbs. I am sure we will struggle but the surgery should help take away some of the hunger.

I had my surgery on December 13th. I really lost it the night before surgery! I don't think you are alone at all these feelings are normal! I was so afraid but so ready at the same time have been trying to get WLS for about 10 years. Changed the week before surgery from the RNY to the sleeve. I found the pain was tolerable. But, there is alot to fiqure out I think reading these posts help. No matter how much support you have it is really your journey you have to fiqure it out and battle through the emotions. I have lost a total of 28 including the 2 week pre-op. I really feel better already really! You won't die, just folow the quidlines and you will be fine! We are with you! Good Luck!

I am so empathetic! I think everything you are feeling is normal.

Here are my words of encouragement - none of that makes a difference when all your friends start calling you hottie. :)

Also' date=' you are focused on the near term issues ( pain which frankly isn't that bad) and risk of leaks or dying (could happen but MOST people recover just fine even if they had a complication). The real challenge of this journey is the one you are going through - the head/mental/emotional side and that part of the rollercoaster goes on for quite awhile.

My advice through all of this - keep your eye on the prize. Learn what you need to learn to ensure you will make your personal goals. Be kind to yourself and realize that you won't be perfect but that doesn't mean you have to fail. You may have ups and downs, but when going through the rough Patches just remember how important this is - to get to a healthy weight where you can fully live your life.[/quote']

Wow! Thanks I needed to read this right now.. I have sleeve surgery today at 8am.. thanks for ur encouraging words!

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Thanks guys!

These kind words have definitely helped, I know I am just afraid but I still have to process it.

I look forward to my new life!

The pre- op is definitely the hardest!! Just remember it gets much easier from this point forward!

Thank-you for your insight... I'm 11 days pre-op and getting nervous!!

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