Soooo I knew up front that I would have some nay Sayers when it came to my surgery. I expect the "easy way out" comments. But what I didn't expect was the hostility that I get from my son's father. Granted, we are no longer a couple....but we work in the same facility and see each other EVERY DAY. We have recently ( within the last two years) learned to be friends after being apart for 6yrs. We have spoken about me having the surgery and he said he would support me in any way I needed. He said he was " all for you being healthy for our son" . Now I've noticed that if I ask him to pick me up a bottle of water from the store.....he brings back Pepsi (I've had no soda since Sept). If i asked for a piece of fruit or yogurt.....he brings me a pack of Ring Dings. At first I thought he was just being absent minded, but Friday we had this big blow out argument over something that had NOTHING to do with me or anything important....by the end of the argument he showed me exactly how he feels by calling me everything but the child of God....first choice being "fat b#%^h" come to find out (from someone else) he doesn't even want me to have the surgery because he is only attracted to BIG GIRLS! I honestly don't care what he is attracted to because unless he'll freezes over we will NEVER be a couple again. But if I am doing this for health reasons, how could someone be so selfish and try to sabotage what I'm doing because of what they like? Arrrrrgh???? I just had to vent...........

Yeah, he definately has some jealousy and insecurity issues, with all that attention hes afraid you're going to get. he wilol definately be OK, do this for you and your son and keep it pushin....