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Surgery on 1/10...scared and nervous and rethinking my decision

I'm worried about whether or not I'll be able to do this for the rest of my life, and I'm worried about dying LOL I have no idea why this is a big worry, but it is.

I have a band and am doing revision to the sleeve. I never had these worries with the band.

Are these second thoughts/fears normal?

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tomorrow I will join you all!!! :unsure: Im a little nervous but reading all your posts really helps. Hope you all continue to feel well...

wish me luck

Marcia

Hi Missrose...I hope you're recovery well. I'm also A kaiser pt and going through Kaiser Fremont and they're awesome. Wishing you a speedy and healthy recovery. Best of luck to you!

Lota

Sleeved 5 days ago' date=' had your same fears. It's totally normal. I had many friends, family, coworkers praying for me and come time for surgery, I felt an overwhelming calm! I knew everything was going to be alright!! If you're a believer, just ask for prayers. Before we left to the hospital my husband hugged me and said "GOODBYE" to my big ass & big boobs!!!!![/quote']

Thats so cute, ur husband is funny:)

Thank you Lota, and everyone for wishing me well. I had a couple of rough days not due to the surgery, but mentally just felt sad and wondered if I had done the right thing. It was really srtange because I thought I was prepared for anything. The depression was a surprise, I think i was actually morning the loss of my stomache and dealing with no longer having control over my body. I couldnt just say I would do better tomorrow, and I so wanted to share in the community of eating with my family. But by the 3rd day It passed :) I felt so much better and then all the good feelings for why I did this returned. Physically I feel really good. It was much easier than I expected, not much pain. I did gain 12 lbs but that was off after 4 days. I dont expect to lose weight as quickly as others one because my weight the day of surgery was 195 and 2 because I have never lost real quickly so long as it comes off I will be happy. Im very happy to be on this side of the journey and hope you are all doing great!!!

Keep in touch

Marcia :D

I feel the exact same way. When I got the call that the surgery was approved I was full of fear instead of excitiment. All I could think about is all the foods I wouldn't be able to have, missing out on social events, not drinking and of course every possible complication. What brought me back to reality is thinking about all of the things I will be able to do and how I would feel after weight loss. All the foods I'm not going to be able to have is what got me to this point in the first place. My surgery is 2/25 I'm still nervous but more so concerned about having everything in place for post-op.

Good luck to you and to all of those going through the same thing.

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