female only Arghhhhh

[misstwenty 2]

Trust me your better off without him! Once you lose weight you'll realise how low your standard used to be!

[GeauxForIt 659]

He's just not that into you. Kick his ass to the curb and focus on YOU!!

[Jools 2]

Why are men such pigs!!!!

Having a conversation with my bf of almost 7 years about why we weren't engaged!!! I'm 31' date=' he's 33! And He actually said 'but jess over the last year you have been putting on so much weight' as a defence for my ringless finger dde30dde33

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[mwrarr 244]

Omigosh. Toss him back!! 7 years & THAT'S the best excuse he's got!? Sounds like Peter Pan Syndrome to me. Boy can't sy what it really is. Either that, or he's a giant doucher.

I recently read some study that said most couples get engaged between 2y6m & 4y2m...I'm currently at 3y2m...& no engagement but we've talked abt it. Our excuses have to do w/insta-family & baggage, not fatness. If that was the case, I could pull the "u so fat" card on him bc he's been about 50# "happier" since we met. ;} not that I would...I barely noticed.

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[JerseyGirlJodi 16]

I was with my ex-boyfriend for over 7 years. One of his many excuses for us not getting engaged was because of my weight. Meanwhile, he looked like he was about 9 months pregnant. I finally realized that my weight was not the problem. HE was the problem. Dumping him was the best thing I ever did for my self-esteem.

Edited to add:

While it was definitely the best move I ever made, it was also the hardest. But, once I got past the initial shock of making such a big life change and started working on myself, I became forever grateful that I made the decision to leave.

[jrabbit81 89]

Thanks for all your reponses, a lot to think about :-(

[It's all new 453]

I think johnlatte's idea of telling him that you have found a miraculous cure where you lose 200 lbs in one day is a good one.

If you aren't ready to step away despite what seem like very clear signs to other people, I kind of get it. My self esteem has been in the crapper before and I've had a bad relationship or two as a result. I think moving on is the right decision - but you have to feel ready.

What is most important - hold off on any talk of marriage. Because you are about to lose weight and have a seriously hot bod and new outlook on life. And the negativity that you accepted from this man in the past - you will not accept it in the future. You will have an enhanced self esteem from taking charge of your health, your future, your body, and your fitness. There will be no room for his behavior in your future, and you won't be able to forget how he treated you in the past.

So, please, for your own sake - don't marry the guy!